quietGuy13 Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I do'nt drink nothing. no beer, no wine. I just drink water, milk, juice,etc. Is this a turn off? I know many people drink but I would not change that. I have no interest for drinking. Even for socialization, i would not drink. I dn't want to. Some people in some cultures, they have to/they feel obligated to drink for socialization, they even drink because ..and the excuse is "I can open up more.. and talk" . It seems Many women drink and I keep hearing in this forum, and in MTV stuff, and just generally , about how people have Hangovers, and all that. Including women. so yeah, people around my age and lower, seems like many women drink nowadays. I don't and I wn't. Is that a turnoff? I will not drink even if they offer me. Even if i was with a group(which i'm never in because i'm a loner but this is just an example) , and everyone had their beer. I would decline if they offered me. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 No one will say it in person, but it is a turnoff. if youve never drank before makes you look weak - because you dont know if you can handle it which = inexperienced. If they dont know that you havent drank before, it makes you look like a recovering alcoholic. Drinking is a social bonding thing, and you dont have to get drunk to bond socially...but its like shaking hands. If you tell people that you dont shake hands, its an instant turnoff. I dont drink beer, but I drink everything else, and Im a lightweight. So I have to make sure i dont drink too much in mixed company. Your best bet is to hang around other people who dont drink, then it wont be a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
udolipixie Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 It's only a turn off if he doesn't drink because: he can't handle his alcohol aka sensitive/weak/lightweight acts violently/sexually aggressive/just off when drunk recovering alcohol he thinks it's morally wrong & tries to force his belief on others cool think what you want don't try to force it on others If he's a guy whose not a lightweight, belief pusher, ex alcoholic, or becomes a different person when drinking I don't think less of him sexually. Link to post Share on other sites
Dorie Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I would not suggest adopting a drinking habit for the sake of turning women on. Not all women drink. Not all women on LS drink. So why should you if you're not so inclined? It's not particularly good for you. It can be expensive. It can lead to bad judgment. It's habit forming. Better to take good care of your body and mind. Link to post Share on other sites
UpDownAllAround Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I don't drink. I used to drink socially, but it never did anything for me so I figure, why do it? Even when I was up to 10 drinks at one Christmas party it never did much for me. Didn't do anything to me, nor did anything for me. Never have had a hangover. I must handle my alcohol really well. So why should I bother anyway? Just another bad habit I don't care to partake in is all. Like smoking. I don't smoke. Or do drugs. Maybe that's why I'll never have a relationship huh? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 Not a turn off at all. Is if you get uppity if I have a couple of drinks. I rarely drink though, so will of course be different for those that do. Link to post Share on other sites
Damia Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 Way to go Quietguy stand tall and do what feels right for you .lots of woman will find the fact you don't drink a very big turn on. Blokes that get drunk all the time and think they are funny are often not. At the end of the night if a girl has had an interesting conversation with a sober you is she going to remember you or the idiot who fell over her and stood on her toes? Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Chick Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 After dating a guy last summer who was pretty much wasted all the time (40 years old, by the way) I would welcome a guy who didn't drink. I do enjoy a glass of wine or two here and there, or a cocktail, but it sure would be nice to not date a total drunk. So women who have dated drunks (like I have) would totally think you are a nice refreshing glass of water! Link to post Share on other sites
callingyouuu Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I used to think this was an unequivocal yes, but I had a roommate last year who didn't drink but was still very successful with women. People were just attracted enough by his charisma that made his lack of alcohol consumption unimportant. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 drinking to appear "manly" (whatever the f that means) is lame. just as lame as eating a quadruple 20lb cheeseburger cos it's what "real men" eat Link to post Share on other sites
yamanbt Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 People are compatible with people whose lifestyles fit with their own. To a woman who drinks, your strict liquid intake of water, milk and juice would make you less attractive. However, to a woman who never drinks (and there are some), that would likely make you more attractive. For example, I enjoy drinking. I had a recent FWB who was a complete pot-head. Her and I may have been compatible sexually, but could never be compatible on a lifestyle level. I am a drinker, and she's not much of a drinker. She is a weed smoker, and I'm not big into weed. However, my most recent ex-gf and I both loved to drink. Our evening ritual consisted of coming home from work, eating dinner, cracking open a bottle of wine or a bottle of rum, then going to town on one another. Personally, I prefer a woman who drinks. Mainly, because drunken sex is the best sex to me. Anyway, the point I'm trying to make here, is that your abstinence from alcohol will actually make you more attractive to women with a similar lifestyle to yours. Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Afishwithabike Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 No, it's not a turn off. I'd rather date a guy who doesn't drink over one who is a loud drunk. It doesn't bother me if a guy doesn't drink as long as he doesn't mind if I have a drink. I'm not a big drinker, but once in a while I like my girly cocktails. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Chick Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 If anyone wants a story on what it's like to date a drunk (in denial) I'd be glad to post it. I would rather see a guy who doesn't drink and allow me to have a drink here and there than date a drunk. Link to post Share on other sites
OliveOyl Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 After having been married to someone who had a problem with alcohol and never got any treatment for it, it's a relief to date someone who doesn't drink at all. Sure, it's nice to share a drink now and then but having seen the insidious effect of alcohol on a relationship, I'll happily take someone who abstains completely. My BF is a recovered alcoholic but it's been many years since he's had a drink and he has no problem if I have a drink in his presence (although more and more I find myself not interested as well). I also have no problem with the fact that he is a recovered alcoholic.... he had demons, battled them, and wrestled them to the ground very successfully. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 To the question as posed, yes, it's a turn off for many girls. But for many girls it isn't, so don't let it worry you. Link to post Share on other sites
rafallus Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 If you are a designated driver, or have some dedication to sport, then no, it can in fact be a good thing. Link to post Share on other sites
grkBoy Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I don't think it's terrible...but people generally aren't into non-drinkers because: 1) They are boring. 2) They are antisocial. 3) They are judgmental. Believe it or not, I've seen many non-drinkers who are at least two of those. So people are all going out to the bar for a drink, and this one will politely decline and go home, believing since it's alcohol he has no place there - ANTISOCIAL Or he'll show up, get a coke or water or something, and not say much or do much. He'll sit off somewhere and not interact enough, believing he doesn't fit in because he's not drinking - BORING The worst are those who get JUDGMENTAL. Suddenly the married woman is making out with some guy friend, or some other guy gets totally trashed and acts like a fool, or some girls get drunk and thus act more loose and sexual. This guy will somehow think he should stand on a moral high ground and will even think people will want to hear his thoughts on it all. UM...NO. The rule is you have to be sociable and fun. Don't even make a big point that you don't drink. Show up, order something non-alcoholic, and treat it as if you had alcohol. Sip, chat, socialize, have fun. If people get trashed and act childish, let them. It's not affecting you. Women are turned off by guys who aren't FUN. That's the reality. Most women don't want to date a "priest" or even an "island". They want the outgoing fun guy who brings benefit to her life, not bores her. Link to post Share on other sites
sm1tten Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 It would be a turn off for me simply because it's a part of my lifestyle, but it's not a deal breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
kalikula Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 It is a turn off to me. Yes there are alcoholics, blah blah, well that's also a deal breaker. But I just wouldn't want to date a non-drinker because I don't like feeling more experienced than the guy I'm dating, and I like to drink, smoke occasionally and drink coffee. I think that's pretty standard.. In general if I meet a guy who doesn't drink, he tends to be anti-social or an ex alcoholic, which are both dealbreakers/turn offs. Link to post Share on other sites
grkBoy Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 Here's the question though...say you met a handsome man who is chatty, intelligent, sophisticated, witty, etc...but when you two go out you always notice he only orders non-alcoholic stuff. Bear in mind he still comes off as fun, can hold great conversations, has an interesting life, and can be the life of the party if need be....but you notice he never consumes alcohol. Would you pass him up or date him? Link to post Share on other sites
alexlakeman Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 Not a big deal.. just grab a glass with coke or water and you will blend right in, every one will think you are drinking... no biggie.. Link to post Share on other sites
Afishwithabike Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 Here's the question though...say you met a handsome man who is chatty, intelligent, sophisticated, witty, etc...but when you two go out you always notice he only orders non-alcoholic stuff. Bear in mind he still comes off as fun, can hold great conversations, has an interesting life, and can be the life of the party if need be....but you notice he never consumes alcohol. Would you pass him up or date him? I would date him in a heartbeat so long as he didn't make comments if I had a glass of wine now and then. Link to post Share on other sites
make me believe Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I personally wouldn't date a guy who doesn't drink because I find that most people who are super anti-alcohol tend to be very judgmental about it. Also, going to breweries and wineries and trying new drinks is fun. I like being with a guy who can appreciate a good wine or beer. And there's definitely something to be said about how hot sex can be when you've got a bit of a buzz going. Link to post Share on other sites
PelicanPete Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 (edited) I don't drink. Never have and as far as I'm concerned never will. I don't really care what other people do as long as it doesn't affect me. If a girl I'm with has one or two drinks that's fine. If she gets drunk or hammered it's definitely a turn off and generally frowned upon. OP, most attractive thing you can do is be your own person and live by what you feel is right. I've had women of all walks of life flirt with me and want to get to know me better by just being myself. Choosing not to drink only becomes an issue if you make it one. I don't think it's terrible...but people generally aren't into non-drinkers because: 1) They are boring. 2) They are antisocial. 3) They are judgmental. Non-drinkers generally tend to separate themselves from the drinkers (AKA "antisocial") because: 1) Drinkers are judgmental of non-drinkers (see above) 2) Non-drinkers are often pressured/excluded by drinkers because they dont drink. 3) Non-drinkers notice that drinkers often see alcohol as the only way to have fun. Anything without alcohol is "boring". Edited July 5, 2011 by PelicanPete Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Chick Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I am not super judgmental of people who drink. I mean, sure I drink. I do get really bothered by heavy drinkers, though, if it is continual. example of heavy drinker (I believe alcoholic) I dated a year ago... trip to X amazing city....3 straight vodkas at the airport layover...had a bottle of wine with dinner...the next day he was looking for bars all day to have more vodkas...3 beers the same day at pro baseball game...more wine with dinner...show in the evening with several drinks there that he had. By that time it's 12:00 p.m....he says "Let's stop at the bar"...he had a couple more vodkas....get to the hotel room, I am tired. He goes "I'm going to go out and try to buy some wine...leaves hotel room....etc. etc. for rest of the weekend.....trip home....flight delayed...he has 3 bloody marys and a vodka straight....within 2 hours...he's passed out on the flight home... he texts me as I'm driving home....saying what a great time he had...then gets upset when I don't respond to his texts and calls for several days. I finally text him and state "Sorry, I don't think we should see each other anymore." He is upset and says "why?" He is still pursuing me to this day and doesn't get why I don't want to see him after that horrible trip and dating a drunk. Link to post Share on other sites
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