nightonthesun Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 (edited) Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months. However, I have become extremely emotional, anxious, and insecure about the relationship. I always try to prepare myself for the worst and its almost as if I expect him to hurt me, so I look into what he says and does, and try to analyze them for hidden, negative motives or signs that things are going downhill (horrible, I know). When I think logically, he seems to give me no reason to think such things, but I feel like my emotions and insecurities always take over. I think I am afraid to experience those feelings of being left by someone you loved so I do everything in my power to protect myself from that happening again. But in doing so I prevent myself from enjoying my current relationship. Does this sound like self-sabotage? Edited July 5, 2011 by nightonthesun
D-Lish Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Yes it does- I am an unwilling expert at self sabotage. I've never been able to enjoy falling in love as a result. At least you have insight into what you are doing. Talking it out with a therapist can really help if you're inclined to do so.
rafallus Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Read Eternal Sunshine's threads here, then you will find out, what self-sabotage really means. Anyway, not sure if forum like that can help you with issues of this caliber, I'd seek professional help.
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