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luminous dreamer Member

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I'm just shy of 3 months of "no contact"... and this movie really resonated with me.

 

It's been mentioned a few times on here.... I recommend it. It illustrates that sometimes there really is "no particular reason" for a breakup or for feelings for another to change... sadly, it can just happen. But then, thankfully, (and when we least expect it) hope can be sparked.

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I can't believe you posted this, I just watched it too. Last week, and I was Tom. It was ridiculous.

 

This movie is like relationship 101 for the person that falls too hard and creates the scenario of the "one" in their head. I am now 2 weeks no contact, and I am still healing. This is absolutely no fun. Not when I thought it was going to be an endgame relationship.

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My impression from watching the movie is that from the beginning Zooey Deschanel makes it clear that she does not want a relationship with Joseph Gordon Levitt, and that what they are doing can be classified as either Friends With Benefits or nothing more than a casual fling. He falls for her anyway and is crushed when she moves on.

TheVSilent Established Member

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Eternal Sunshine always gets me...

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To me, the movie showed how easily the "red flags" could be ignored when you call yourself liking someone. However, It was very sad and depressing to me.

kingofhearts Established Member

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Maaaaan.... I'm in the middle of watching this now, since you mentioned it.

 

Why did shyt like "I don't believe in love" come out of my ex's mouth too????? She was also VERY independent as well. Thrived off of her network of friends and family. I often wonder if that persona of hers will move her past us with ease. Depressing to think about this, man.

kingofhearts Established Member

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Just finished the movie. Powerful ending!

 

I have a new view on things now. Enuff to stop asking "why" at least.

 

If you are going through heartbreak, PLEASE WATCH!!

 

 

FTR... Autumn was hotter.

TheHurtProcess Established Member

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I just downloaded the movie and finished it myself.

 

Not bad at all.

kingofhearts Established Member

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I just downloaded the movie and finished it myself.

 

Not bad at all.

 

Some good shyt. Wasn't it? Sure helped me let go a bit more and be patient.

TheHurtProcess Established Member

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Some good shyt. Wasn't it? Sure helped me let go a bit more and be patient.

 

What I liked about the movie is that it's nothing like the usual fairytale, movie relationship, "happily ever after" BS films. This movie was much closer to how it really is in the real world when it comes to relationships (or a lack thereof).

 

That's what it seems my ex (as well as many other girls I know) doesn't understand. She thought that our relationship was supposed to represent that of what you saw in a romantic comedy or something of the sort. I tried telling her a several dozen times that this is real life and that there are real problems in the real world. Oh well, let her live in her imaginary fairy tale world. She's in for a rude awakening at some point. What we had was as close to a romantic fairytale as she is ever going to have in life.

 

I'm not going to say that it answered all of my questions or helped me out significantly. Regardless of how much I liked it and how real it portrayed actual relationships, it's still a movie. There are still many instances that were merely exaggerated. If it helped you, then I'm happy for you bro. I just can't say the same. But I did enjoy the film for what it was, a film.

 

I'll give it a 9.0 out of 10. I'd watch it again sometime. I really felt for the guy. It's almost as if I were in his shoes the entire time wishing she would just realize what she's potentially going to be missing out on.

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I'll have to check this out. I saw it playing on HBO the other day but didn't know what it was about.

 

Blue Valentine is also a really good "realistic" relationship movie with not such a happy ending.

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I'll have to check this out. I saw it playing on HBO the other day but didn't know what it was about.

 

Blue Valentine is also a really good "realistic" relationship movie with not such a happy ending.

 

Downloading it right now bud.

Thanks a million for the recommendation.

If anyone has any others, please update me so I can update my collection ;)

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I'll have to check this out. I saw it playing on HBO the other day but didn't know what it was about.

 

Blue Valentine is also a really good "realistic" relationship movie with not such a happy ending.

 

Just google "watch 500 days of summer online". You can watch it straight of the net.

 

What I liked about the movie is that it's nothing like the usual fairytale, movie relationship, "happily ever after" BS films. This movie was much closer to how it really is in the real world when it comes to relationships (or a lack thereof).

 

That's what it seems my ex (as well as many other girls I know) doesn't understand. She thought that our relationship was supposed to represent that of what you saw in a romantic comedy or something of the sort. I tried telling her a several dozen times that this is real life and that there are real problems in the real world. Oh well, let her live in her imaginary fairy tale world. She's in for a rude awakening at some point. What we had was as close to a romantic fairytale as she is ever going to have in life.

 

I'm not going to say that it answered all of my questions or helped me out significantly. Regardless of how much I liked it and how real it portrayed actual relationships, it's still a movie. There are still many instances that were merely exaggerated. If it helped you, then I'm happy for you bro. I just can't say the same. But I did enjoy the film for what it was, a film.

 

I'll give it a 9.0 out of 10. I'd watch it again sometime. I really felt for the guy. It's almost as if I were in his shoes the entire time wishing she would just realize what she's potentially going to be missing out on.

 

Yep, it helped me come to accept how things went and how they're going a little more. That and Zorba's input on this forum, did it for me today.

flitzanu Established Member

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i still think "Closer" is the more accurate version of love and the dating world.

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flitzanu Established Member

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By any chance is your avatar a picture of you?

 

If so, I am going to go out on a limb here and guess that the "pool" of available women that would be into that "look" would be a unique, select and very small group.

 

If that is the case...

 

Due to your "limited" options... For you, maybe your assessment of love and the dating world is an accurate one.

 

Regardless, If I thought love and dating world was like the movie "Closer"... I wouldn't bother dating or consider falling in love ever again.

 

To each their own...

 

 

little confused here. you often give great, solid advice, but this sounds like you've reduced me to a stereotype or caricature.

 

now i'd love to know how you came up with the thoughts above, that is, before i assume anything about your logic used.

flitzanu Established Member

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1. It looks like you carved the word hubris (backwards if the picture was taken in the mirror) off center on your chest with a razor blade or knife.

 

certainly does appear that way, doesn't it? its beause i have a great TATTOO ARTIST and personal creativity.

 

 

2. I am guessing a vast majority of the people (male or female) in the world do not carve anything on their body with a razor blade or knife is normal.

 

that's a rather uneducated guess, as body scarrification and other cutting techniques are widespread, not to mention they've been done throughout human history. but no, not for me, carving is too intense for my taste. but "to each their own"

 

 

3. Totally off topic and not related... People that are hubris (exaggerated pride or self-confidence) are just that. They do not need to tell anyone and I doubt they would carve it on their chest.

 

could be. or it is exaggerated irony. or it could be that so many people want to believe that i'm an arrogant prick i just gave them a visual reason to say its true. being arrogant and believing yourself arrogant are two vastly different things, or aren't they?

 

 

4. Like it or not, 99% of the women in the world are not going to that attractive and will most likely be creeped out by number 1 above.

 

i'll agree with that. i wouldn't be into someone who sliced open their chest either. alas, it's a tattoo.

 

 

So assuming 1,2 and 4 are correct... You are going to have a very, very small and limited dating pool to choose from. Assuming this very, very small and limited dating pool is comprised of the type and the amount of crap that I run into and experience in my pool... I would think you have your work cut out for you if you strictly go by the numbers so to speak.

 

Like I said... To each their own.

 

so at the end of it you're just going by law of averages. if you find 100 girls and ten are crazy, you've hit a 10% mark.

 

if i'm only allowed by society to date freaks, my 100 drops to 10 available girls, and those freaks are obviously crazier than "normal" girls, so my percentage skyrockets!!!

 

totally accurate.

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I think it is red dye...No, I'm not in tattoos, but to each his own.

 

I wouldn't be attracted to anyone with so much ink. I wouldn't get a tattoo either, so I wouldn't be a good match for them anyway.

 

I saw a couple today who were both covered in tattoos, and I thought they were well-suited for each other.

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Well, I do like tattoos- however, one mimicking a carving on their chest with the definition of arrogance written, I find rather unattractive. However, I am sure if I got to know the person and the true meaning of that tattoo to them, that attractiveness may grow.

 

I am assuming that specific tattoo is not your icebreaker to meet women.

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certainly does appear that way, doesn't it? its beause i have a great TATTOO ARTIST and personal creativity.

 

I personally like your artwork. It may not be for everyone and I can understand why Homebrew as well as others may not like it. Homebrew is still my bro and I appreciate all of his advice.

 

To be honest, tattooing, piercings and scarification have definitely grown in the past 5-10 years. Besides, it makes a great conversation starter. Many girls, some plain and some more freakish, tend to come up to me and ask where I got my artwork, "Did that hurt" when referring to my piercing and so on. I have no scarification work done. But, I can appreciate the artform for what it it.

 

I'm working on full-sleeves myself.

 

I'll have to check out this "Closer"

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Just google "watch 500 days of summer online". You can watch it straight of the net.

 

Yep, it helped me come to accept how things went and how they're going a little more. That and Zorba's input on this forum, did it for me today.

 

EXIT... Or you can download uTorrent (for free) go to thepiratebay.org, download the "500 days of summer" torrent file, open it in uTorrent and download the movie. Much easier, better quality in most cases, smaller file size and you don't have to wait for the buffer. Just be sure to scan anything you download with your antivirus. If you don't have one, let me know, I know of some great free AV programs. I work in IT.

 

KINGOFHEARTS... I couldn't find the posts you were referring to via your link (Zorba's posts). Could you please link me directly to the page? There are 158 pages to sort through, haha.

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I think it is red dye...No, I'm not in tattoos, but to each his own.

 

I wouldn't be attracted to anyone with so much ink. I wouldn't get a tattoo either, so I wouldn't be a good match for them anyway.

 

I saw a couple today who were both covered in tattoos, and I thought they were well-suited for each other.

 

red dye? well its red tattoo ink yes.

 

 

 

honestly the only difference in people with tattoos and without, is that people with tattoos don't care or judge someone just bc they don't.

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Well, I do like tattoos- however, one mimicking a carving on their chest with the definition of arrogance written, I find rather unattractive. However, I am sure if I got to know the person and the true meaning of that tattoo to them, that attractiveness may grow.

 

I am assuming that specific tattoo is not your icebreaker to meet women.

 

hah, well you must also consider the majority of the world is rather uneducated and has no clue what "hubris" means. and thank you for understanding the tattoo may have a deeply personal meaning and doesn't just mean "hi i'm arrogant".

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I personally like your artwork. It may not be for everyone and I can understand why Homebrew as well as others may not like it. Homebrew is still my bro and I appreciate all of his advice.

 

To be honest, tattooing, piercings and scarification have definitely grown in the past 5-10 years. Besides, it makes a great conversation starter. Many girls, some plain and some more freakish, tend to come up to me and ask where I got my artwork, "Did that hurt" when referring to my piercing and so on. I have no scarification work done. But, I can appreciate the artform for what it it.

 

I'm working on full-sleeves myself.

 

I'll have to check out this "Closer"

 

peopke don't like admitting how superficial we are, or how often our "values" come into play when meeting someone fresh.

 

the way i see it, if someone doesn't want to talk to me because of what i wear or whatever else, chances are high it wouldn't work out with someone that shallow anyway. it's a fast way to "weed them out" yaknowhatimean.

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In the real world... I would have no clue if you are one or not. Assuming I saw you with your shirt on.

 

However, if I saw you at the beach or because of your avatar (picture of your tattoo) here on LS... You are telling me that you are one. Why would I assume anything different?

 

 

 

I like people that are confident... not arrogant.

 

 

 

My mistake!

 

Credit goes out to the talents and skills of your tattoo artist. It does look real!

 

Maybe I have spent to much time in some of the other LS forums. There are people that do have issues with self cutting you know.

 

 

 

Between you and me... I think it's more like 80 out of 100 that are crazy!

 

 

 

I never said that you are only allowed to date freaks! I thought you actually carved the word hubris into your chest with a razor blade or knife!

 

Since we are now only talking about tattoos... Obviously there are tons of women and men who have them, who are into them, they like tattoos or don't care either way. The two best LTR I have ever been in... both of them had tattoos and I liked them. They were wonderful and there was nothing freaky about them except when they were in the bedroom!

 

Since you do not self mutilate, I think you have the same opportunities and chances to find someone you love, as I do.

 

ok, i won't line by line you, apparently you just had a big concern that i gashed myself open with a knife, haha, and you're right, i doubtfully would ever pick up girls like that :)

 

but i do get your angle now, thank you for explaining. and in all reality, it is kind of a concept piece. being confident is often confused for arrogance, especially from girls that are highly insecure. it's "cut into me" to remind me of all the times it has been yelled in my face by my ex gf about what a selfish arrogant prick that i am.

 

my selfish pride is always my downfall, and it serves to remind me of that, and either i control it, or it wins.

 

but as for "closer" my observation is how it's more likely that someone in a couple will run off with a new person they connect with and ultimately leave you broken and alone. i just see it as more the modern day honest fairy tale.

 

but 500 days, very accurate too in showing that people are so damn fickle about emotions and intentions.

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peopke don't like admitting how superficial we are, or how often our "values" come into play when meeting someone fresh.

 

the way i see it, if someone doesn't want to talk to me because of what i wear or whatever else, chances are high it wouldn't work out with someone that shallow anyway. it's a fast way to "weed them out" yaknowhatimean.

 

I know exactly what you mean. I go into anything/everything with an open mind. Because it's those who make their judgements off of trivial topics and first impressions who end up missing out on the many great things that life has to offer.

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