valente26 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 my ex gf of 4 years split up with me 5 weeks ago changed her number blocked me on fb met another guy aint heard from her since. i did the stalking thing till i saw her kiss him that was 4 weeks ago and ive been n/c ever since. i thought i was getting better until today where i was talking to my friend about it and i could feel myself welling up and getting all teary eyed. why am i still crying? i really miss her but i dont want to cry anymore she doesnt deserve my tears. any advice would really help
ShatteredDreams Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 (edited) When you hear this, it doesn't help much but it's true. "Time will heal" My ex gf of 2.5 years left me for my close friend of 8 years, and they both cut off all contact with me and threatened to call the police if I try. During the relationship, I separated myself from friends and family for her, and my friend was the only other person I would speak to. I trusted them both so much and I was totally crushed. I'm in month 4 of the break up, and month 2 of NC. The first 2 months were hell and extremely crazy...I attempted suicide 4 times, went through a lot of therapy, hospitals, etc. On a daily basis. I made a lot of dumb mistakes and tried to get revenge, sabotage their relationship, and kept contacting them. But once I stopped, it got better. I still wake up to a random good memory and feel like cr*p in the mornings but throughout the rest of the day, I feel better...even though I'm on this site looking for ways to cope. But remember...it DOES get better. Surround yourself with good friends and family. Go to the gym, work out. One person that doesn't love you anymore doesn't have to control your life. The biggest mistake you can make is letting someone else control you. Love yourself, take control of yourself. I'm still trying to take my own advice, and I have withdrawals sometimes, but I AM getting stronger, and becoming a better person. She was my first love, and the only person I was able to love. I couldn't even look at another woman when I was with her. Edited July 4, 2011 by ShatteredDreams
smudge21 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 You're not alone in feeling like this. Close to three months NC and all it takes is seeing a picture thru mutual friends and I'm wanting to be with her all over again. Doesn't help this time last year we met. It's just rocky mountains at the moment - ups and downs. One day I can be great, not a care in the world, and then I'm remembering what I've lost. Really sucks! Sadly there's no quick fix other than NC and time, but that can be tough. Coming here does help.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Weve all been through it. Its only 4 weeks, but know this. It will come in waves. And if you distract yourself enough, the waves will be less intense. if you dont distract yourself and dwell on her, it will stay pretty intense until you do start to get over her. Think of it this way, the tears dont have to be for her, they can be for you washing her out of your system. That way, you will get it out sooner, and forget about her quicker.
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