leoc1973 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 So I have posted here a few times before. My ex of 5.5 years(female). Long story short she moved to the big city and realized I would be deadweight. She broke up with me immediately after getting her job out there. A month before hand we were talking about marriage looking at rings and buying a house. I of course was devastated and she was too from what I hear. I never did the begging crying I just told her that she knows how I feel about her and would do anything to make things right. 3 weeks past I went no contact from the beginning because I was actually really angry but after a couple weeks she sent me an email telling me how hard this is for her how much she loves me and misses me. Of course I bit. I poured my heart out to her and she said this is just the way it has to be. then another 5 weeks no contact. I changed my Facebook picture and she contacts me out of the blue telling me how skinny and sexy I look. And I think she might have heard somewhere that I was seeing someone new(not sure about that) I said thank you and that was it. She then said she would be in town for the weekend and asked if I wanted to get together. I accepted Ok when we get together I did everything by the book. I was fun and happy and confident. We exchanged stories about dates we have been on. I told her that I was starting to get a little more serious with one girl. Her jaw hit the floor. She then really warmed up to me. We had a long talk and she tells me the only way she is coping with losing me it to think that the universe has some kinda plan and that her and I are soulmates and we would be back together some day. I said really you are risking us on that? She said there is no risk some day we would find each other again its guaranteed. We left it on very nice terms. Two days later I didnt' text her or anything but she ends up texting me asking how my date was(I had a date the day after we met) I loled it off and a little worthless back and forth texting she tells me how much its killing her that I am dating. I told her I would like to see her again if possible before she went back. Ok so she ends up at a party and i guess it sucked so she calls me to come get her. Her sister was on her way but she wanted me to come. I don't know what hit me but I fell apart. I kept telling myself to go by the book..confident happy... strong.. but she started crying a little and I just lost it. I poured my heart out to her and asked her what it is that she wants. She told me to finish school and come be with her. I said but that is like 6 months from now. one or both of us will have someone by then. She said I dont' want anyone it makes me sick to think of having a boyfriend right now. I said but I am seeing someone aren't you worried that it might turn into something more. She said no I know your heart belongs to me forever. A bunch of crying and stuff and she ends up telling me that this was a mistake I should have called my sister. Now the no contact starts all over. I guess my question is how can a woman love you so much and take any kind of chance of losing you and how bad did I screw things up? I know how this woman feels about me I know she wants to be with me its just that she lives in NYC and I am 2 classes short of a degree. Is she being honest with me? Or am I just a fall back guy? What should I do? No contact or some limited contact to keep on her mind?
Dasilva045 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Idk bro i kinda had the same situation with my ex of 5.5 years. She left however because she was unhappy with my behavior and the way i acted. She then tried coming back saying she wanted to be friends and that maybe as friends we could eventually get back together. Thing is i couldn't be her friend and never will be. My ex loves me as well just not in love with me. I think your girl loves as well but if she really loves you she would be with you and not single. Maybe she really enjoys the single life right now because its all new to her. I know that is how my ex feels right now. She loves the attention, and she loves going out to have a good time. Im not saying your ex is doing the same but theres got to be a reason why she wont commit to you and that might be it. My ex also told me the same things, such as our issues were resolvable but wouldn't commit to me. I guess talk to her one last time and find out whats going on with her.
Author leoc1973 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 Yeah the conversation last night was probably the last. I just wanna talk to her and figure out what she is thinking and it seems like she just won't give me any info. She looked me dead in the eye and started crying and told me that I am her effin soul mate and she know that we will be together again. She doesn't realize that if I didn't love her so much I would never wanna talk to her again I just gotta get over this hump where I can tell her to take a hike. I am sorry about your situation it really sucks when you were so close to someone and they are pretty much telling you that they wanna test the waters. And in your head you are thinkng wtf do you need to test the waters for you were just telling me a couple months ago that I am your world. I don't know I think I blew it by letting her know that I am still not going anywhere I just with the games would end. She always contacts me just to keep her claws in me. I know I have to move on cause she really doesn't deserve me. And someday I will look back at this and say wow how stupid was I, I have the greatest woman in the world how come I was going so crazy over that waste. But she does know now that I am dating and she is gonna have to come to terms with the idea of losing me.
Woggle Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 This woman is simply playing games with you. You are being back burnered.
wilsonx Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 This woman is simply playing games with you. You are being back burnered. Exactly, let her go and keep going out with the new girl. You can do much better then that.
Author leoc1973 Posted July 5, 2011 Author Posted July 5, 2011 I think you are right. You always give good advice man. I guess the hardest part is that you put this woman on a pedistal and you have this vision of who she is(usually a lot better person than she really is) so you think well this girl has loved me more than anything in the world at one point. She would never lie to me and take advantage of me. She effin loves me. Then she pulls the whole you are my soulmate crap on me and I buy right into it. Meanwhile in her head she is thinking man this guy is a pretty decent catch I gotta keep him around just in case stuff doesn't work out with these other 3 guys I am banging. When you are on the outside of a situation like this you always think wow this guy is such a dumbass I would never let a girl play me like that. Then you get in this situation and you think na my girl is different she would never intentionally hurt me. I am done with her. I just deleted her from my life about 20 minutes ago. I listened to the song nobody's fool by Cinderella and it pumped me up enough to do it. I am done with her forever. Thanks for all your support guys! I will start the Getting over my ex googles instead of Getting my ex back Googles.
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