alethean Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 My apologies for missing the cleaning part, as I must've blocked it out as a man, since no man I know, nor myself (my exW called me a 'neat freak' on many occasions), cleans their home at/until 5am after a long day/night at work. Brain fart, please excuse You like him; he's delicious. He has the gift of the smooth tongue. Hope he uses it carefully and with compassion. Good luck. Lmao! You're awesome.
Yookie Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 I'd call it a yellow flag. He made plans for 11 am but didn't even call you until close to noon. He might be one of those people who's chronically late to every scheduled event outside of work. You have to decide if you're ok with that type of person. They end up wasting a lot of YOUR time because you are constantly waiting around for them.
Author Lilmisus Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 I'd call it a yellow flag. He made plans for 11 am but didn't even call you until close to noon. He might be one of those people who's chronically late to every scheduled event outside of work. You have to decide if you're ok with that type of person. They end up wasting a lot of YOUR time because you are constantly waiting around for them. He actually told me on our second date that he's always early to everything I dunno what to believe...I'm just going to go with: he was sleeping..it happens to the best of us...but only let it happen once. If it happens again where he suggests a time and I get ready while he doesn't even set an alarm, then that will make it a red flag for me. So..I agree, yellow flag, maybe.
Author Lilmisus Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 My apologies for missing the cleaning part, as I must've blocked it out as a man, since no man I know, nor myself (my exW called me a 'neat freak' on many occasions), cleans their home at/until 5am after a long day/night at work. Brain fart, please excuse You like him; he's delicious. He has the gift of the smooth tongue. Hope he uses it carefully and with compassion. Good luck. I honestly have no clue what the whole cleaning thing was about. He doesn't seem like a neat freak, but...there must have been something special going on the next day (party maybe?) for him to do it. But! I, myself, have spent many nights cleaning, but only because the night feels more like the right time to do it, to me. During the day I always get side tracked..so who knows? And I'm not counting this as a "ohh, he's so smooth and I like him soo much" example...since honestly, I'm not even sure yet how much I really like him...part of me wonders if I even really have feelings for the dude yet, since it doesn't really seem it (keyword: yet ). I honestly fell hard for my ex on the second date, and I still remember how strong the feelings were then. With Mr. Cute Guy...it feels like I'm just going through the motions just praying not to get hurt. But..it's only been three dates, so I'm not too worried. If I go a few more dates/weeks with no real feelings, then I'm calling it quits on this guy, I think.
D-Lish Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 He actually told me on our second date that he's always early to everything I dunno what to believe...I'm just going to go with: he was sleeping..it happens to the best of us...but only let it happen once. If it happens again where he suggests a time and I get ready while he doesn't even set an alarm, then that will make it a red flag for me. So..I agree, yellow flag, maybe. See how he handles the next meeting. No matter what colour flag it is, it's something to consider in conjunction with other behaviours/experiences you have had thus far. I'd wait for him to ask, plan, and follow through for the next date- and see how that goes. He does sound like he's a fly by the seat of his pants kinda guy. He chose to sleep in until he heard from you. He did respond immediately when you texted him... But you really shouldn't have to be chasing him to get up to meet you for you date. Next date- let him take the lead and see how it goes.
Author Lilmisus Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 See how he handles the next meeting. No matter what colour flag it is, it's something to consider in conjunction with other behaviours/experiences you have had thus far. I'd wait for him to ask, plan, and follow through for the next date- and see how that goes. He does sound like he's a fly by the seat of his pants kinda guy. He chose to sleep in until he heard from you. He did respond immediately when you texted him... But you really shouldn't have to be chasing him to get up to meet you for you date. Next date- let him take the lead and see how it goes. Great idea Especially since he's trying to get me to plan the next date, but I told him that since I suggested the movie and the beach, that it was his turn (he tried to flip it by saying that he suggested dinner after the movie, and suggested the time yesterday so in reality it was my turn...but it was all said while kidding around though). It will give him a chance to show how into me he really is..and not try to take the easy way out. I'm definitely not doing all the work here, again. I haven't heard from him since yesterday at the beach though. I'm not worried about it, but I'm just wondering when I will hear from him at this point. I sent him a text today after I got off work (at 7) just saying "hey you" but no response to that. I'm not going to even try to make excuses for the dude, but I don't even know if he has his phone with him (probably does), since a friend tried texting him earlier today with no response either. Now...not hearing from him for a few days is definitely a red flag to me..but it's so far only been one day, so no worries...yet.
D-Lish Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Great idea Especially since he's trying to get me to plan the next date, but I told him that since I suggested the movie and the beach, that it was his turn (he tried to flip it by saying that he suggested dinner after the movie, and suggested the time yesterday so in reality it was my turn...but it was all said while kidding around though). It will give him a chance to show how into me he really is..and not try to take the easy way out. I'm definitely not doing all the work here, again. I haven't heard from him since yesterday at the beach though. I'm not worried about it, but I'm just wondering when I will hear from him at this point. I sent him a text today after I got off work (at 7) just saying "hey you" but no response to that. I'm not going to even try to make excuses for the dude, but I don't even know if he has his phone with him (probably does), since a friend tried texting him earlier today with no response either. Now...not hearing from him for a few days is definitely a red flag to me..but it's so far only been one day, so no worries...yet. I'm telling ya- I have dated guys in the restaurant business, and they don't make the best bf's. Let's face it, no one goes anywhere without their phone! Girl, a guy that is truly interested will show you that he is. When a guy is interested, you will never have to question it, you will never have to create a thread to decipher anything because you'll just know. I'm not wanting to burst your bubble because I know you are interested in this guy. There are some red flags present though IMO.
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