England1966 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Hi, just wondering if anyone can advise me. I got in touch with an old friend that I hadn't seen for around 8 years, we were more than friends though as we had a physical relationship for a while. I was only 20 years old when we were friends and I did like her and have feelings for her, but I never told her and was a bit immature about the whole thing and a bit of a knobhead at times. I wasn't ready basically for having emotional feelings and fought them off to live a single life for my early 20's. Now I do not regret that decision for a minute as I still believe that I was far too young and immature and tbh I had a great few years with my mates. Anyway 8 years goes by, I am now speaking to her, I helped her out with a situation she was in and actually met her for the 1st time in 8 years, I think she is gorgeous and still a top girl that I remembered her as all those years ago. The situation I now find myself in is that I cannot stop thinking about her but I also cannot tell her how I feel as it is a bit too soon and I really don't want to come accross as too keen. I don't want the favour I have done for her to look as if it was done for other reasons than just an act of kindness but she blew me away. I am trying to gauge whether there is a chance or whether friends is all it going to be. She has referred to me as "old friend" in some of our dialogue which is leading me to believe that friends is all that is going to happen, she also has said that I am welcome around her house anytime and that she owes me a drink for the favour. Now, do I relax and wait for her to invite me for that drink that she "owes me" then gauge whether I have a chance. Or do I tell her straight and bite the bullet? I swear I can't seem to concentrate on much else other than hoping I get a chance to spend some time with her, and this really isn't me or something I have experienced alot of in my life. Any comments/advise really appriciated
Dorie Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 To come out of the shoot straight away and confess your interest might be a bit much, unless you are especially deft at seduction. Do not wait for an invitation. In a friendly manner, tell her you would like to take her up on the invitation for a drink at her house. Gauge her reaction during your time together and go from there
Author England1966 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 To come out of the shoot straight away and confess your interest might be a bit much, unless you are especially deft at seduction. Do not wait for an invitation. In a friendly manner, tell her you would like to take her up on the invitation for a drink at her house. Gauge her reaction during your time together and go from there I was thinking maybe wait for an invite, that alone would show me that at least she would like to spend some time in my company, if the invite isn't forthcoming then I would take that as she isn't really interested.
Author England1966 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 Anymore advice would be really appriciated
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