hendersongirl Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Ok, so I feel like I'm at the point where I have to say something directly, to ascertain what is going on between us. I don't want to let this pass by, life's too short, and even though it may be a small chance, there is a chance of happiness here. However, there is so much I feel I have to express. I could write pages and pages. Plus I'm super shy, my written communication is much more eloquent, and I could never do my deep and complex thoughts and feelings proper justice in person. Is it inappropriate to write a letter or email, detailing how I feel about her and explaining where I am coming from? Is it really better to do this in person, even though I'll go red, stammer and forget things? Is it naff to write out a letter, then read it aloud? As a compromise?
dline82 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 If you can do it in person, that would be your best option. The thing about emails is you can very easily get carried away. Although you may think you are being thoughtful and passionate at the time, she may take it as you being crazy if its a long email and then later you will feel like a fool for what you wrote. Personally I think emails should only be used if you don't have the option of meeting someone in person like things went badly between you and you are sending an apology letter no more than a half a page. Take it from me every email I ever sent to win a girl's affection failed miserably, it just doesn't work and it will usually always push them further away. Reading her a letter aloud would probably make you seem even more weird and crazy. I don't really know your situation but if you really like her, come up with some easy things you feel very comfortable saying to her person that doesn't take too long to explain. This is important so you come off natural and not desperate.
oaks Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Write your email - it's a great way to get your thoughts out and make you think about what you want to say - but don't send it! Go and see her in person and talk.
Imajerk17 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 If it's about you (as a woman) expressing your deep romantic feelings that he doesn't seem to feels back, then don't bother doing anything. No email, no letter, and no in person discussion about this. Take it from me as a guy, it will only backfire!
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