Ally-65 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 So we broke up a month ago, i was the dumpee. Went to hell for the first two weeks but maintained NC. Then I decided to get myself together and have been doing pretty well. So a few days ago, he sends me a mail asking if we could "meet" to discuss a joint bank loan that we have, he was confused about it, he said. I wrote back and said that we did not have to meet for that and that he just carries on paying his share and I do the same. Anyway, then he calls me, (he was calling from work, so I didn't know the number) to ask about this loan. I explained it to him very politely but I was also quite cold. I didn't actually feel sad, just had a strange feeling in my stomach. After the call, I got another e-mail from him to say thank you so much for your help. It was good to talk to you about that. I didn't reply to that. Does he have no sensitivity at all!! He has no idea how I'm feeling about him right now. Why contact me over a damn bank loan, that really there was no problem with. Any reasons that you guys can see? Or is he really just a tactless .......!
smudge21 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Sounds like he's testing the water, wanting to know how you'd react but doing it under the guise of a legitimate enquiry. I think many people do the same thing, not uncommon, but also a bit sneaky. Just stay NC and avoid his little attempts. Depending on how badly the break up was should give you an idea of how much effort you expect him to make in order for you two to start talking again, if at all. If his contact hurts you, then tell him (especially when he calls from unknown numbers).
nana841121 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 You have been tackling the breakup very well. Don't need to over-analyze it, this kind of thing happens all the time. stay no-contact
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