SoMovinOn Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 One of the times when it really sucks being her secret is when she wants you to be there, you want to be there, and you can't - because then she'd have to explain why. Her mom died tonight. Sitting here sucks.
MissBee Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 One of the times when it really sucks being her secret is when she wants you to be there, you want to be there, and you can't - because then she'd have to explain why. Her mom died tonight. Sitting here sucks. That is horrible...my condolences to her and her family
Gentlegirl Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Guess you are just having a taste of the feeling of isolation and frustration the goes along with an A. The event will probably be one of many similar if you stay in the A. Christmas, birthdays, HER holidays. The list is endless and it gets more painful every time. Best Wishes, Gentlegirl
Silly_Girl Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 One of the times when it really sucks being her secret is when she wants you to be there, you want to be there, and you can't - because then she'd have to explain why. Her mom died tonight. Sitting here sucks. So sorry to hear that, SMO. Really sorry. I'm sure you'll be of great comfort to her when you're able to be. Take care.
spice4life Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Be there for her in the best supportive way possible. Put sex on the back burner and show her that you really do care about what she is going through. A daughter losing a mom is one of the biggest losses in life. She is going to be feeling a huge sense of loss. Dit's nice you want to actually be there for her. My xMM started pushing to meet up two weeks after I lost my mother and I was really taken a-back. I remember thinking, "gosh, how many more times am I going to allow him to remind me that I'm nothing more than a bang to him?" It truly felt like a needle puncturing my heart everytime he did something like that. It hurt, it hurt a lot. It doesn't sound like you are that kind of guy, so she is pretty lucky. respect her grief because there is going to ah-lot. My sincerest condolences for her loss. It's a hard one.
Author SoMovinOn Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 Guess you are just having a taste of the feeling of isolation and frustration the goes along with an A. We both knew it going in. Also, her mom was not in very good health, so we both expected she would pass some time in the near future - so this is not unexpected either. It's difficult, but... there is something better in the future, so... I'll take it like this for now. Best Wishes, Thank you (and everyone else who offered condolences and well wishes)
Author SoMovinOn Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 Be there for her in the best supportive way possible. Put sex on the back burner and show her that you really do care about what she is going through. Fortunately, sex is always on the back burner in our A. It's not why we're involved. A daughter losing a mom is one of the biggest losses in life. She is going to be feeling a huge sense of loss. I know it will be awful for her, for quite some time. She knows I'll do anything and everything I can to support her, help her, make it easier for her - including just staying away if that's what she needs. She always knows where to find me... so, I'll let her do that when she's ready. Most likely, when I do see here, the best thing I can do is hold her, say nothing, and just let her cry. My xMM started pushing to meet up two weeks after I lost my mother and I was really taken a-back. ... It hurt, it hurt a lot. Wow! That's rather callous. Then again, it's pretty typical of a guy with a hard on. Nothing is more important than feeding the almighty penis. : \ It doesn't sound like you are that kind of guy, so she is pretty lucky. respect her grief because there is going to ah-lot. My sincerest condolences for her loss. It's a hard one. I'm not. At all. I will. Thank you.
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