Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 why are you sending her flirty texts? Man... You're going on lots of dates as it is it seems, why so bothered? You sound semi desperate, just let it go, weirdness... Just being silly. Well I feel like I can move on now because I sent texts to her and the girl i'm going on 4th date with soon. The 4th date girl responded in one minute and the gil i met for the first time has not responded after a hour. So it could be worse, i could be going out with no one after what happened on saturday.
oaks Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 The 4th date girl responded in one minute That's great news! Good luck with that.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 That's great news! Good luck with that. Yes I needed to feel a little better before heading back to work tomorrow.
alexlakeman Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Yes I needed to feel a little better before heading back to work tomorrow. good luck...
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 I wouldn't be considered fat since 6'6 and weight 276. More like tall and stocky For reference's sake, Michael Jordan was listed at 6'6" 216 at his prime. You are a full 60 lbs. heavier and probably not a far reaching assumption that you are not as muscular. So I would say you are definitely deceiving people if you list yourself as "average" or "just a few extra pounds" on your online profile.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 For reference's sake, Michael Jordan was listed at 6'6" 216 at his prime. You are a full 60 lbs. heavier and probably not a far reaching assumption that you are not as muscular. So I would say you are definitely deceiving people if you list yourself as "average" or "just a few extra pounds" on your online profile. I say Tall and Thick or Tall and Stocky
alexlakeman Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I say Tall and Thick or Tall and Stocky Sugar coat it how you want it, but like you said in the original post or a few posts after "you can't disclose it all" ... So post a pic and let the ladies on here decide, "thick", "stocky", average, or over weight, or fat... and "bald spot", ballding, or no hair... That's like if I list myself as 6' on my profile.. and show up and I am only 5 2".. Do you think she will notice? Do you think she will over look it b/c my awesome personality and smile? Dude, I think you are in denial just a bit, not by much, of course... So did she respond to your text? Pick up the phone and call
Author PhillyDude Posted July 5, 2011 Author Posted July 5, 2011 Sugar coat it how you want it, but like you said in the original post or a few posts after "you can't disclose it all" ... So post a pic and let the ladies on here decide, "thick", "stocky", average, or over weight, or fat... and "bald spot", ballding, or no hair... That's like if I list myself as 6' on my profile.. and show up and I am only 5 2".. Do you think she will notice? Do you think she will over look it b/c my awesome personality and smile? Dude, I think you are in denial just a bit, not by much, of course... So did she respond to your text? Pick up the phone and call Well no one is supposed to lie like that because that's a sure set up for failure. And no she didn't respond to the text yet but since I got the important response from someone else, her response means very little now.
oaks Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I say Tall and Thick or Tall and Stocky I don't know what your online profile says or what photos you've got there, but would a women who read your profile and saw your photos be surprised when she meets you? Would she be thinking "stocky" or something else? So long as there are no surprises then there's nothing to worry about, but surprises really kill the mood.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 5, 2011 Author Posted July 5, 2011 I don't know what your online profile says or what photos you've got there, but would a women who read your profile and saw your photos be surprised when she meets you? Would she be thinking "stocky" or something else? So long as there are no surprises then there's nothing to worry about, but surprises really kill the mood. well i will make sure I slip in the conversation in the future about my size but i won't mention anything about my hair. Remember you can't get dates revealing all your flaws
alexlakeman Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Remember you can't get dates revealing all your flaws Why not? You don't believe in honesty? Honesty? Honestly? You don't have to "say" anything, just have a good number of clear, recent pictures and disclose it on your profile: "chunky white guy seeks very skinny white girl". Have any of the users on here seen your profile? It might be better to critique and help you. I, myself, have the maximum number of pictures on my dating profile, about 25.. out of the 25, 4-5 are just different places I've traveled recently and the balance are clear pictures of me... There will be no "gray area" or hidden "bald spots" or extra 59 lbs showing up at the dates. Even if it's in front of the mirror, just take a couple new pics and put them on your profile and while you are at it, post on your profile here and we can better determine if it's "average", "skinny", or "good at 10 feet"... I don't know what your online profile says or what photos you've got there, but would a women who read your profile and saw your photos be surprised when she meets you? Would she be thinking "stocky" or something else? So long as there are no surprises then there's nothing to worry about, but surprises really kill the mood. The element of "surprise" is how op gets them to go out with him for that "Free dinner".
oaks Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 well i will make sure I slip in the conversation in the future about my size but i won't mention anything about my hair. Remember you can't get dates revealing all your flaws Yeah, I don't think you need to have a photo of your head from above or anything crazy like that, but with the right photos you shouldn't need to say anything about your size because she'll be able to see the photos and decide for herself. Most online dating sites have a multi-choice thing for you to describe your body shape/type as well... make sure that you're honest with that as well.
alexlakeman Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Why not? You don't believe in honesty? Honesty? Honestly? You don't have to "say" anything, just have a good number of clear, recent pictures and disclose it on your profile: "chunky white guy seeks very skinny white girl". Have any of the users on here seen your profile? It might be better to critique and help you. I, myself, have the maximum number of pictures on my dating profile, about 25.. out of the 25, 4-5 are just different places I've traveled recently and the balance are clear pictures of me... There will be no "gray area" or hidden "bald spots" or extra 59 lbs showing up at the dates. Even if it's in front of the mirror, just take a couple new pics and put them on your profile and while you are at it, post on your profile here and we can better determine if it's "average", "skinny", or "good at 10 feet"... The element of "surprise" is how op gets them to go out with him for that "Free dinner". Why not? You don't believe in honesty? OP?
bikinibeach Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Well I will be going on a 4th date with one girl in the next week. .......did you tell your date this?? lol or maybe she was mad that you had the nerve to send her home after a date on the bus...lmao.
bikinibeach Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 ps: either you need psychological help or you should stop trolling!!!
KathyM Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 After the date these are two things that has me believing I probably won't see her again 1. When waiting wth her for the bus to take her to the train station she said-"You don't have to wait with me until the bus comes" 2. She said she would call to let me know when she arrives home and I have yet to hear from her There are two things that has me confused. She has deleted me from her friends list on Facebook but there was a message she posted a couple hours fter the date that said-"Some people have nerve" Now I don't know if that was about me since it was posted 3 hours after our date. She's not interested. Don't waste your time thinking about it. I don't know what the "some people have nerve" comment was directed to, but no need to wonder how you stand with her. She's made it pretty obvious she's not interested. Sorry. Time to move on.
dispatch3d Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 She's mad you made her take the bus home? Both comments seem to indicate that?
Author PhillyDude Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 She's not interested. Don't waste your time thinking about it. I don't know what the "some people have nerve" comment was directed to, but no need to wonder how you stand with her. She's made it pretty obvious she's not interested. Sorry. Time to move on. This was already confirmed last Monday. I started this thread Last sunday. 98% of the time if you don't talk to the person u went out on a date with before you go to sleep you won't see them again. I don't think I can remember a time when I didn't talk to the girl after the date once I arrived home and saw her again for date 2
Author PhillyDude Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 .......did you tell your date this?? lol or maybe she was mad that you had the nerve to send her home after a date on the bus...lmao. Number 1, she didn't need to know about my th date because it was just our 1st date. Number 2, she caught the bus to the train station which was 5 mins from where we ate dinner. The train is what she caught to see me NOT THE BUS. The Bus was a quick ride to the train station. And I should have just walked away without saying a word after she said-"you don't have to wait with me" since I heard that once before and never saw the girl again. So if I ever hear that again I will just leave
KathyM Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 This was already confirmed last Monday. I started this thread Last sunday. 98% of the time if you don't talk to the person u went out on a date with before you go to sleep you won't see them again. I don't think I can remember a time when I didn't talk to the girl after the date once I arrived home and saw her again for date 2 That's not necessarily true. Lots of people don't contact each other immediately after a date. Some do, some don't. Then you hear from them a couple of days later or even a week later. But if they avoid your calls, it's obvious they are not interested.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 That's not necessarily true. Lots of people don't contact each other immediately after a date. Some do, some don't. Then you hear from them a couple of days later or even a week later. But if they avoid your calls, it's obvious they are not interested. A week later?-lol Yeah ok like someone is really going to wait around that long. By the way I try that strategy years ago and waited 5 days and the girl moved to someone else because I waited too long to call. The last 4 successful 1st dates i had I text all 4 girls on the way home. It was no next day or 3 days later.
KathyM Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 A week later?-lol Yeah ok like someone is really going to wait around that long. By the way I try that strategy years ago and waited 5 days and the girl moved to someone else because I waited too long to call. The last 4 successful 1st dates i had I text all 4 girls on the way home. It was no next day or 3 days later. Suit yourself. It is polite to text or call the girl afterwards to tell them you had a good time, but coming on too strong right away can turn some girls off. If you come across as too desperate or too needy.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 10, 2011 Author Posted July 10, 2011 Suit yourself. It is polite to text or call the girl afterwards to tell them you had a good time, but coming on too strong right away can turn some girls off. If you come across as too desperate or too needy. There is no such thing as coming on too strong when you LIKE the person
rafallus Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 There is no such thing as coming on too strong when you LIKE the person When a person doesn't like you back, any coming on is too strong.
alexlakeman Posted July 10, 2011 Posted July 10, 2011 Originally Posted by alexlakeman Why not? You don't believe in honesty? Honesty? Honestly? You don't have to "say" anything, just have a good number of clear, recent pictures and disclose it on your profile: "chunky white guy seeks very skinny white girl". Have any of the users on here seen your profile? It might be better to critique and help you. I, myself, have the maximum number of pictures on my dating profile, about 25.. out of the 25, 4-5 are just different places I've traveled recently and the balance are clear pictures of me... There will be no "gray area" or hidden "bald spots" or extra 59 lbs showing up at the dates. Even if it's in front of the mirror, just take a couple new pics and put them on your profile and while you are at it, post on your profile here and we can better determine if it's "average", "skinny", or "good at 10 feet"... The element of "surprise" is how op gets them to go out with him for that "Free dinner". Why not? You don't believe in honesty? OP? OP seems to be ignoring this question for some reason:laugh:
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