alexlakeman Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 "Chunky"? As in fat or overweight? That's the same stunt some women pull, BODY TYPE "average"... average of what?? Chunky is overweight, describe yourself properly in your ad . And the thinning hair is not revealed on my photos and why would they be if I'm trying to ATTRACT people? The purpose of avertising to to highlight your best features If I revealed everything in my ad about the wea physical points I would never get a date. Perhaps, honesty being the sole reason to have "CLEAR" pictures; not just head shots, not pictures 30 feet away, not just pictures in winter clothes where you can't see the body... Is "thinning" the same as getting bald? I'm just asking.. Ad the statement she made on there aout some people have nerve was 3 hours after the date ended. So it obviously has some other drama going on. Keep telling yourself that... I will wait until tomorrow to send a text Don't torture yourself... My pics were current enough, Apparently not , The previous 5 women I met for the first time was not bothered And why didn't "those" dates work out? Let me guess, they had drama, they were not 10's, they weren't your type... Were they into you? How many dates did you go on with each of them? How did those 5 end up?
CambridgeGirl Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 God its men who are deluded about their appearance "not mattering" like this that are why I won't do Internet dating. You even admit to hiding your thinning hair, as if you know this might put women off, on what logic is that strategy the best? That it won't matter when you meet them?? Yet none of these other dates have become your gf. Why don't you be honest and post a pic showing you as you truly are all over? Then when you do score a date nobody gets a big shock and you know they won't mind for real. Simples. That girl was most likely pissed at you, rightfully, she probably doesn't care enough about you to bother rushing to delete you if she hasn't yet, because its not important to her. She may even have deliberately not deleted you so that you could see her comment and know how annoyed she was, have you considered that...
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 "Chunky"? As in fat or overweight? That's the same stunt some women pull, BODY TYPE "average"... average of what?? Chunky is overweight, describe yourself properly in your ad Perhaps, honesty being the sole reason to have "CLEAR" pictures; not just head shots, not pictures 30 feet away, not just pictures in winter clothes where you can't see the body... Is "thinning" the same as getting bald? I'm just asking.. Keep telling yourself that... Don't torture yourself... Apparently not And why didn't "those" dates work out? Let me guess, they had drama, they were not 10's, they weren't your type... Were they into you? How many dates did you go on with each of them? How did those 5 end up? Well I will be going on a 4th date with one girl in the next week.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 God its men who are deluded about their appearance "not mattering" like this that are why I won't do Internet dating. You even admit to hiding your thinning hair, as if you know this might put women off, on what logic is that strategy the best? That it won't matter when you meet them?? Yet none of these other dates have become your gf. Why don't you be honest and post a pic showing you as you truly are all over? Then when you do score a date nobody gets a big shock and you know they won't mind for real. Simples. That girl was most likely pissed at you, rightfully, she probably doesn't care enough about you to bother rushing to delete you if she hasn't yet, because its not important to .her. She may even have deliberately not deleted you so that you could see her comment and know how annoyed she was, have you considered that... Because usually my thinning hair is not an issue. If it wasthen I would make it visible in the pics. The last time someone was turned off by my hair was 2007. So I can live with those numbers
Eddie Edirol Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 And the thinning hair is not revealed on my photos and why would they be if I'm trying to ATTRACT people? The purpose of avertising to to highlight your best features and not give any mention to your less attractive features. If I revealed everything in my ad about the wea physical points I would never get a date. But this was the first time this year that I met a woman and my height and face didn't overshadow my weight and hair. The previous 5 women I met for the first time was not bothered So how many more brushoffs are you going to endure before you realize you have to be more honest? Not only that, you might fall for the first woman who stays with you for a few weeks, and you wont even be in the frame of mind to take into account that she might be using you for a stepping stool, or to pass the time, but not really be into you. Ever thought of that?
carhill Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 I think your perception of #1 and #2 is sound. Next potential. Next time, if you're feeling a lack of 'connection', be more proactive in moving on, even during the first date. I found such a perspective to inspire confidence; confidence in my own perspective and willingness to act on it and not worry about the consequences. You're a unique and special human being too. Own that. Good luck
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 So how many more brushoffs are you going to endure before you realize you have to be more honest? Not only that, you might fall for the first woman who stays with you for a few weeks, and you wont even be in the frame of mind to take into account that she might be using you for a stepping stool, or to pass the time, but not really be into you. Ever thought of that? Someone would really go out with someone 4 times and be using that person as a stepping stool?
carhill Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Sure. It's a great way to scan for future potentials and hone acquisition skills. Best of all, for many, it's free. It's also a great time-filler, if the man is otherwise a pleasant date. Everyone has different motivations in life. Some women do indeed see men as 'tools' and their goal man as the 'prize'. One uses tools to get the prize.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 Sure. It's a great way to scan for future potentials and hone acquisition skills. Best of all, for many, it's free. It's also a great time-filler, if the man is otherwise a pleasant date. Everyone has different motivations in life. Some women do indeed see men as 'tools' and their goal man as the 'prize'. One uses tools to get the prize. You will make a person with low self-esteem jump of a bridge
carhill Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 IDK, I've been the tool many times and all the bridges are safe from my remains. Knowledge is power.
Mrlonelyone Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 I have to agree with Carhill and those who say show your negatives on you pictures OP. Many women see men as objects which they will use to complete something in their lives*. To make themselves look more desirable by having a man. Using that desirable look to get a more desirable man, repeating that as many times as they can to get the best man they can. Seeing a man as a meal ticket, or a status symbol of some kind. etc.* Show your self in a full length hi resolution head to toe picture, straight on and under natural sunlight. Perhaps it should not be you main profile pic. However at least one such "honest" picture would be a good idea. That way they can't complain. As for her "some people have nerve" comment. To be honest unless you had a hump on your back she sounds like a real b1tch. Imagine life with such a venomous person. I mean as if on a scale of 1-10 she's a certified 20 herself. (*Yes yesss men do it too but men are the threads subject.)
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 I have to agree with Carhill and those who say show your negatives on you pictures OP. Many women see men as objects which they will use to complete something in their lives*. To make themselves look more desirable by having a man. Using that desirable look to get a more desirable man, repeating that as many times as they can to get the best man they can. Seeing a man as a meal ticket, or a status symbol of some kind. etc.* Show your self in a full length hi resolution head to toe picture, straight on and under natural sunlight. Perhaps it should not be you main profile pic. However at least one such "honest" picture would be a good idea. That way they can't complain. As for her "some people have nerve" comment. To be honest unless you had a hump on your back she sounds like a real b1tch. Imagine life with such a venomous person. I mean as if on a scale of 1-10 she's a certified 20 herself. (*Yes yesss men do it too but men are the threads subject.) It still hasn't been confirmed that the "some people have nerve" comment was about me. Also my thinning situation is a little different. It is thin toward the middle of my head and I don't have a receding hairline. So as I look at my photos now the only way I can make the thinniong area visible on a photo is if I bend my head down. Which is why is no point in mentioning before meeting. It's not the first thing you notice as soon as someone sees me. Not until we sit down or I bend down or tilt my head.
carhill Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Oh, I remember that 'thinning' well. Hmm, that started in 1978, when I was 19 As tall as you are, most women will never see it unless they're on a balcony above you, or a stepladder. I recall my now exW relaying comments from her friends about dating a 'bald' guy; in retrospect, I should have encouraged her to listen to them. Remember what I said about being more proactive regarding ending interactions which don't give you that synergistic feeling. Hard-won advice. My cat agrees
Feelsgoodman Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Well maybe it had something to do with me not mentioning I was chunky and had thininning hair-lo LOL indeed. Good job wasting the girl's time (not to mention your own, though I get a sense it's not very valuable).
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 LOL indeed. Good job wasting the girl's time (not to mention your own, though I get a sense it's not very valuable). Her time wasn't totally wasted since she had a nice DINNER on me
alexlakeman Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 God its men who are deluded about their appearance "not mattering" like this that are why I won't do Internet dating. Don't loose hope, not all men are lie like that, as I know not all women lie about their appearance; although it does feel like the majority do, lol That girl was most likely pissed at you, . Oh, no, not at all, OP said she got a free meal ticket for the evening Also my thinning situation is a little different. It is thin toward the middle of my head . Oh, you mean a bald spot... gotcha Her time wasn't totally wasted since she had a nice DINNER on me I assure you; she would gladly give you your money back if she could just take that wasted time back, lol... Here, do this.. pick up the phone and call her... we'll wait, most of us aren't working today, or have this forum on the blackberry, lol... we're all curious to see if it was worth her time for the "free" dinner...
AlexDP Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Her time wasn't totally wasted since she had a nice DINNER on me Regardless, lying about your appearance is not cool, man.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 Regardless, lying about your appearance is not cool, man. How did I lie? If she could only see my bald spot when if I bend down or lend my head forward then why bring it up before meeting?
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 Don't loose hope, not all men are lie like that, as I know not all women lie about their appearance; although it does feel like the majority do, lol Oh, no, not at all, OP said she got a free meal ticket for the evening Oh, you mean a bald spot... gotcha I assure you; she would gladly give you your money back if she could just take that wasted time back, lol... Here, do this.. pick up the phone and call her... we'll wait, most of us aren't working today, or have this forum on the blackberry, lol... we're all curious to see if it was worth her time for the "free" dinner... Bald Spot means a spot with NO HAIR. That's not my situation. It's the thinning area of my head where the hair is not as thick as the other areas.
carhill Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Example. Is that close, OP? That's about what I had at 19. Full head of thick hair *except* for that thinning at the top.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 I'm about to send her text right now and see what happens. It is now is 5:07pm and about to send a text with light flirtation in the message.
alexlakeman Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 (edited) How did I lie? If she could only see my bald spot when if I bend down or lend my head forward then why bring it up before meeting? Forget being bald.. . What about the being fat?? You lied to her about your looks!!!!!!!!! Is that not clear to you that it is f)cked up!!????????? I hate it when women have done it to me, so I KNOW how pissed off she must've been.... totally wasted her Sat or Sun night... So did you call her? What did she say? Post a pic up on your profile here so we can judge the baldie and the overweight for you.. Women have done it before.. Well, let's fudge the scenario some more then.... She's sitting at home by the phone on this fourth of July weekend, just staring at the phone, waiting for your call or your text.. Just hoping, just wishing you will ask her again, and won't see the "drama" in her life about men lieing about her looks to her... Did you read some of her friends' comments on her FB about her date? That would be interesting Here it is: http://t1.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRzcIEQYiVL2Xd_DtHIp4AR-cj7zF9supEf5ZgNGYgUYWU5lkf7-g Edited July 4, 2011 by alexlakeman
Author PhillyDude Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 Forget being bald.. . What about the being fat?? You lied to her about your looks!!!!!!!!! Is that not clear to you that it is f)cked up!!????????? I hate it when women have done it to me, so I KNOW how pissed off she must've been.... totally wasted her Sat or Sun night... So did you call her? What did she say? Post a pic up on your profile here so we can judge the baldie and the overweight for you.. Women have done it before.. Well, let's fudge the scenario some more then.... She's sitting at home by the phone on this fourth of July weekend, just staring at the phone, waiting for your call or your text.. Just hoping, just wishing you will ask her again, and won't see the "drama" in her life about men lieing about her looks to her... Did you read some of her friends' comments on her FB about her date? That would be interesting Here it is: http://t1.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRzcIEQYiVL2Xd_DtHIp4AR-cj7zF9supEf5ZgNGYgUYWU5lkf7-g I wouldn't be considered fat since 6'6 and weight 276. More like tall and stocky
CambridgeGirl Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 why are you sending her flirty texts? Man... You're going on lots of dates as it is it seems, why so bothered? You sound semi desperate, just let it go, weirdness...
oaks Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 I wouldn't be considered fat since 6'6 and weight 276. More like tall and stocky Maybe you "carry it well" but I wouldn't put those numbers into a BMI calculator unless you're sitting down first.
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