Woggle Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Why is it on this board that if somebody posts a thread about a man even looking at another woman on the street or a man looking at porn he is a monster? Even if you have a man who stays out past his bed time doing guy stuff with his guy friends he is a jerk but when a man expresses any views on a woman cheating that are other than 100% supportive he is a bitter misogynist. There is a thread where a woman wants to sleep with her husband's friend and the men who think this might not be a good idea get accused of being hateful. This is why I can't just let go of this bitterness.
FeelingSmall Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Let go of the bitterness... Or try to, anyway. I have some issues with just that also. HOWEVER you have to remember that you're dealing with a bunch of people here dealing with their problems. There is a lot of bitterness EVERYWHERE and on both sides of the fence. Men who look at porn, or a passing girl are not monsters. People who cheat suck. Plain and simple on BOTH sides of the fence. There are people who don't. I have never cheated and have dated guys I can safely say don't either. I can understand how things happen, and everyone makes mistakes I don't see it as being an excuse, but hey, sh*t happens. When wounds are fresh it's very difficult to be objective, also when someone is being "attacked" people who can relate will usually quickly jump to their aid. I do this, I think most people do. How about the "Girls lie lie lie all the time thread." Or something to that effect. Whatever, it's a bunch of bull coming from very bitter fingertips. My outlook on it is fairly simple. People who want to hold on to the victim card are going to have a very difficult time ever getting anywhere. Who wants to be with someone (even in a friend zone) who is that miserable?
rafallus Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 There is a thread where a woman wants to sleep with her husband's friend and the men who think this might not be a good idea get accused of being hateful. This one? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t285273/ She is not cheating, because it's agreed upon with her husband. They're still playing with fire, and I'm 99.9% sure they WILL get burnt, but it's their choice.
silktricks Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Why is it on this board that if somebody posts a thread about a man even looking at another woman on the street or a man looking at porn he is a monster? Even if you have a man who stays out past his bed time doing guy stuff with his guy friends he is a jerk but when a man expresses any views on a woman cheating that are other than 100% supportive he is a bitter misogynist. There is a thread where a woman wants to sleep with her husband's friend and the men who think this might not be a good idea get accused of being hateful. This is why I can't just let go of this bitterness. Like everything in life, we mostly see what we expect to see. I'm not saying that what you're stating above isn't true, as it is. But it's also true that many people here don't think a man is a monster for looking at women or looking at porn - or especially doing guy stuff with their friends. Just like it's also true that there are many women who are equally appalled at women cheating as men. It's true that there are more women who visit this site, and as such I believe are somewhat more supportive of women regardless of their actions. That is, in my opinion, unfortunate. But men who state what you stated in your original post are not IMO anything other than normal. I do hope you can let go of your bitterness someday, as IMO you will be happier.
John Michael Kane Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Why is it on this board that if somebody posts a thread about a man even looking at another woman on the street or a man looking at porn he is a monster? Even if you have a man who stays out past his bed time doing guy stuff with his guy friends he is a jerk but when a man expresses any views on a woman cheating that are other than 100% supportive he is a bitter misogynist. There is a thread where a woman wants to sleep with her husband's friend and the men who think this might not be a good idea get accused of being hateful. This is why I can't just let go of this bitterness. The only monsters are the women who support sick behavior on LS. Those are the real "bitter" women. Don't worry, they're just mad about their own situations.
cheergirl Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I do feel for you though... Maybe you need to change your social circle... The women on this board who just back up other women blindly, I should imagine would not make very good relationship material. Too unfairly biased, too much misandry... Just ignore it and try to find the genuine girls who don't hate men... there are lots out there, (I'm guessing/hoping/sure) There's a whole world out there, think of what values you like and find out where you can meet girls who share those values in large numbers Good luck!
Owl Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 I do feel for you though... Maybe you need to change your social circle... The women on this board who just back up other women blindly, I should imagine would not make very good relationship material. Too unfairly biased, too much misandry... Just ignore it and try to find the genuine girls who don't hate men... there are lots out there, (I'm guessing/hoping/sure) There's a whole world out there, think of what values you like and find out where you can meet girls who share those values in large numbers Good luck! How does this post have anything to do with this thread???
Mimolicious Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 How does this post have anything to do with this thread??? with NADA! Anyway, Woggs check this out buddy... holding on to all that "bitterness" is only affecting you bebe.
bigmomma1974 Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Men and women both cheat. I myself dont think there mosters and I also don't think all men cheat nor do all women cheat. People cheat and that is a fact. Personally for me if a person cheats reguardless of there gender they are both dogs. Noone deserves to feel the pain of a cheating partner, it hurts and there is alot of pain and confusion. You just have to remeber some women think women do no wrong as well as some men thinking men do know wrong. When I seperated from my first husband, I had a little fling with a guy, then after a few months have passed hubby and I got back together. Some view this as cheating and being dishonest. I did come clean and let hubby know I had a 1 night stand with a guy and we hung out a feww times. He was hurt and all the trust we built was gone. I to have been cheated on by an ex and that hurts and caused a lot of pain. my marriage didnt survive long after I told hubby what happened. We both have moved on and remarried and I still feel horrible for making him feel all that pain. We did get past it all and have a great friendship, which helps our 3 childen. So for b eing bitter jsut continue to be yourself and not let what other people say here affect you like that. All people mess up and make mistakes.
waytogo Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Why is it on this board that if somebody posts a thread about a man even looking at another woman on the street or a man looking at porn he is a monster? Even if you have a man who stays out past his bed time doing guy stuff with his guy friends he is a jerk but when a man expresses any views on a woman cheating that are other than 100% supportive he is a bitter misogynist. There is a thread where a woman wants to sleep with her husband's friend and the men who think this might not be a good idea get accused of being hateful. This is why I can't just let go of this bitterness. Sorry Woggle, I'm not near familiar with the threads you are referring to. I don't know of a case where anyone has been 'cheered on' to cheat on their H or W. There is a thread where a woman wants to sleep with her husband's friend and the men who think this might not be a good idea get accused of being hateful I for sure missed this one. There is no doubt plenty of women would have said this was NOT a good idea as well as men. Nothing hateful about that. Did all these responses you've relayed happen on this site?
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