Martin Anderson Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Dear all My ex girl friend of 2 months left me a few days ago saying that she did not have romantic feelings towards me anymore and did not believe in 'us'. She told me that I was a great guy and a sweet boyfriend who tried to keep her happy but that I did not deserve her and I could do better and meet someone who actually loved me. I love her a lot and this news left me heart broken and dejected. Also additional pressure from due to my final semester at uni (engineering degree) and coming with bad grades is all driving me nuts. I'll tell you more about my relationship with her. We met each other about more than 3 months back and there was an immediate sense of attraction. We both loved to spend time with each other and both of us opened up. She's really the quite type but she always talked to me and whenever I was she wanted to be there as well. I also felt a sense of attraction and seeing the way things were going I asked her out 2 months back and she said yes. There was a lot of love that we shared for more than a month and it was the best thing that had happened to me for years. She never had a relationship before and maybe we rushed things a little such as making out, holding hands in public (I'm the real affectionate type) and all but in spite of all that she still loved me and wanted to be with me. And at times she'd hold my hand in public. She even said that she trusted me the most. Suddenly during exam time (4 weeks back) she started to act slightly differently. She didn't want to spend time with me more and more and when we were together she wanted to be alone and would go for long solitary walks and would listen to music on her ipod. Although she was nice to me and all but there was something different. I confronted her with this (after exams had finished) and then she told me that she had lost all feelings for me. She couldn't feel the relationship and did not feel a romantic connection. She was crying the whole time and said she felt bad but people break up and that's how life goes on. We had a really emotional confrontation and I might have had said some depressing stuff but I guess that's how all sudden break ups take place. She said that she cared for me deeply but couldn't be in a relationship she didn't believe in. I told her to give it time and she'll fall in love with me again and if she broke it then she might regret it later. But she did not listen. So we parted ways. I am her first love and I am 21 and she's 20. So far after breaking up, we've met once but I didn't talk to her at all, we made eye contact and we could see the sadness inside each other but that was all. I haven't called her or texted/called her or asked mutual friends to do the talking or even followed her around (accidental meetings). I intend to keep it that way for a long time. Though she has some of my stuff I haven't asked them back. I want to maintain my distance and give her time and space. Do you think she'll realise her feelings for me and come back considering I'm her first love? If not how do I get her back? What are the things that I should or shouldn't do? How can I move on? Any advise will be greatly appreciated. Thank you all for your help and sorry for the long question.
Author Martin Anderson Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 I also happened to learn from a friend that at a party the other day (which i didn't attend), she was quite sad and not herself. Rather than talking or concentrating on friends she looked out the apartment window. What does this say? She also asked one my friends about my results for the recent tests and after hearing that I didn't do that well, she was upset and all quite. I found this difficult to hear and I felt really sorry and bad for her. I also want to ask how girls feel the first time they are in a relationship. Do they doubt it at some stage and then come back to it again? Will she do the same? She's not the type of girl who'd go to another relationship quickly but she's doing other things like church and all to get over me. How can anyone stop feeling? Do all women go through this stage?
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