bsaez843 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Well my girl broke up with me back in may cuz i started getting overly jealous and needy. After 3 weeks of no contact she called me and asked me out for a drink. That was a lil more than a month ago. Weve been talking on the phone all the time and weve hung out several times. The other night she invited me over her house to smoke some weed and watch a movie. During the movie i put my arm around her. After that we were totally cuddled up. Wrapped up together, holding hands, feelin each other up. At the end of the night i went in for a goodnight kiss and she backed away. She told me shes been dating this guy exclusively for a month. She said we cant hang out alone anymore cuz its wrong. She said we should just b friends. But today she sent me a text saying "im cool with us being friends....this guy is moving out of state next month so it wont b a long term thing." what does that mean exactly? Does she really just wanna b friends or is she telling me to wait until next month when this guy is out of the picture? She also sent me a text yesterday saying" its so sad it didnt work out with us. I was so lucky to have u." she loves her games
wilsonx Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Shes stringing you along. Read what you wrote. I mean really read it. Go find a new girlfriend that doesn't do this ****. Its pathetic, you are her fallback guy.
Belkan Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Listen close.... You can make her yours if you...... Cut your damn loses and rebuild u life. She'll want a piece after u break it off with her. It worked with me but afterwards I dumped her and found someone better, you will too.
wilsonx Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 This is true... for bsaez843 situation not for everyone else... If you truly want her back you have to end all contact. Tell her its time for both of you to move on and wish her good luck in her relationship (She actually broke up with you because she found another guy not because you were overjealous and needy). Tell her its not a good idea to be friends now but you aren't sure about the future. Then you have to bail. I mean really bail. You have to start living your life without her in it and bettering your self. You have to be in the mindset that she wont ever come back. You have to start dating going out and having fun with friends. You have to start enjoying your life again and stick to hardcore NC. If she ever does come back, it will be to the point where you are indifferent and you will be much happier without her in your life then when she was in it.
Author bsaez843 Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 Ive thought about thatat. Shes giving me a lot of hints that she wants to get back together. She keeps mentioning how this guy is leaving next month. I love her so much and i want her back but at the same time its hard to stomach being her plan b when plan a fails. Im not table scraps. Besides she lied to me more than once. Throughout our relationship she hung out with this guy and texting him all the time when we hung out. When i became suspicious she always bull****ted me. Saying hes just a friend. And she always said he was fat,ugly and not her type. When she broke up with me she told me it was cuz she started to like this guy but she was never gonna b wit him. A week after dumping me shes in a full blown relationship wit this guy. Dont think i can ever forgive that, dsspite the love.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Ive thought about thatat. Shes giving me a lot of hints that she wants to get back together. She keeps mentioning how this guy is leaving next month. I love her so much and i want her back but at the same time its hard to stomach being her plan b when plan a fails. Im not table scraps. Besides she lied to me more than once. Throughout our relationship she hung out with this guy and texting him all the time when we hung out. When i became suspicious she always bull****ted me. Saying hes just a friend. And she always said he was fat,ugly and not her type. When she broke up with me she told me it was cuz she started to like this guy but she was never gonna b wit him. A week after dumping me shes in a full blown relationship wit this guy. Dont think i can ever forgive that, dsspite the love. Good for you, sounds like my story. Guess what, stick to not wanting to be table scraps bro. In the end, you are going to come out the victor. Not only are you going to keep your dignity and pride, you also have learned how to defend yourself if this were to happen in a relationship again. Next time you are in this situation, end it and walk away. Right now we are recovering from the same thing. We are hurting because we did not know how to defend ourselves from this. Now we do. We have learned this behavior is unacceptable in the future and can create a personal boundary that says No, I will not allow this to happen to me again and you can walk away from any relationship similar to this without even hesitating
flitzanu Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 this ex that is now nearly cheating on her current boyfriend with you, has she stated "i want to get back with you and work things out"? if not, why are you wasting time?
Author bsaez843 Posted July 7, 2011 Author Posted July 7, 2011 She never actually stated she wanted to get back together but she keeps givin me stupid lil hints. Shes stated regret over the breakup and our conversations have become very sexual and flirtatious lately. She keeps sending me sexy pics and asking for my approval. It doesnt seem that she has strong feelings for him. Otherwise she would have severed all contact with me, and she wouldnt have hung out alone wit me the last two times and groped me while we cuddled. Regardless, im debating whether i even wanna make a move when this guy moves away. Its not like theyre breaking up over problems, its cuz of geography. Also i cant look at her the same way. When i c her i kno shes been touched and ****ed by this other guy. I imagine her sharing her body and love wit somebody else and it disgusta me. I wanna peace out but its like withdrawing from a hard drug. I kno shes bad for my health but its hard to let go.
wilsonx Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 She never actually stated she wanted to get back together but she keeps givin me stupid lil hints. Shes stated regret over the breakup and our conversations have become very sexual and flirtatious lately. She keeps sending me sexy pics and asking for my approval. . You are getting into the Friends with benefits area... you need to run even further now... this is going to hurt you way worse then being friends with her... way worse... i can pretend being friends with my ex but she used me 4 times after we broke up for her needs and I could not say no until the morning after the last time. This will mess you up so bad that you wont know which was is left. STOP TALKING TO HER AND NC
radiodarcy Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 ugh! what childish, ridiculous behavior. it sounds like she is trying to tie you up in knots so that you'll be too busy trying to following her non-logic and will stay put so she can do however she wants. go NC immediately and don't look back. my guess is she's confused over what she wants and is playing games because she doesn't know what else to do. but that's not your problem. she needs to spend some time being single and figure out what she wants without dragging other people into her maze of confusion.
flitzanu Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 She never actually stated she wanted to get back together but she keeps givin me stupid lil hints. Shes stated regret over the breakup and our conversations have become very sexual and flirtatious lately. She keeps sending me sexy pics and asking for my approval. It doesnt seem that she has strong feelings for him. Otherwise she would have severed all contact with me, and she wouldnt have hung out alone wit me the last two times and groped me while we cuddled. Regardless, im debating whether i even wanna make a move when this guy moves away. Its not like theyre breaking up over problems, its cuz of geography. Also i cant look at her the same way. When i c her i kno shes been touched and ****ed by this other guy. I imagine her sharing her body and love wit somebody else and it disgusta me. I wanna peace out but its like withdrawing from a hard drug. I kno shes bad for my health but its hard to let go. no no, i'm not asking about her behavior or her hints. if she isn't saying "hey i want to work this out and get back together" then NONE of what you THINK is happening is valid. she's f'kn with you plain and simple. and cheating on her current dude, more or less, if she is all over your jock and sending you nude pics. unless you want her to do that with another guy while she is with you?
Author bsaez843 Posted July 18, 2011 Author Posted July 18, 2011 Well it seems like all of you guys r giving me the same advice. This girl keeps giving me stupid hints. Yesterday she mentioned that next month we should take that trip we never took to the bahamas. Its funny,the tables have turned. Now i can tell she needs me now. Ive been ignoring her and she keeps texting me messages like "whats wrong r u mad"? Now shes losing this guy next month and shes fearing the possibility of losing me too. Shes been chasing after me a lot lately but i continue to ignore her. I cant give up my dignity anymore, nor can i wait around for her. I might do her like she did me. Ill hook up with her a couple times and dump her like she did me.
Sebstian Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 I think it's a little late saving your dignity. That's the sole reason your still even considering talking with that evil witch. But you have to save what's left of your self esteem and rebuild on your own. Clearly she's stringing you along. She dumped you to be with this guy, which she most likely cheated on you with. Now she wants you back - sorta - but wont let go of her new boyfriend until he has to move out of state... wtf? So you're supposed to sit and wait until it's your turn? What happens when he's back in town? She'll basically have two bfs... one short distance, one long distance. She's on a bad power trip man and you need to run for the hills! My guess is that she's a really insecure person, who needs validation non stop. Don't worry about her love for him. She doesn't love him. Neither does she love you, she just need both of your validation to feel good about herself. Sorry for you man. Don't sink to her level to get back at her. You can simply tell her your side of the story, what you think of her and that you think it's pathetic. //Seb
Author bsaez843 Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 Well all u guys were right. We started dating again. No sex, but lots of kissing and cuddling. Yesterday we had a date planned and she did it to me again. An hour before she texted me saying im a wonderful guy but she just doesnt feel it anymore. She wants to be friends only. She said she thinks we work so well together but it just isnt there. She also said she made out wit that guy while we were together. I told her shes an evil woman and she will get what she deserves someday. Now i feel ten times more devastated cuz i truly believed like a fool we were on our way back. This witch even made plans to take a trip with me next week. I wanted to make her my wife and now its truly over. All the effort ive put in the past few months was for nothing. Ive never felt so low but i wish i followed everybodys advice on here. I couldve saved myself a lot of pain. Thanks for the help anyways.
wolf1one Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Well all u guys were right. We started dating again. No sex, but lots of kissing and cuddling. Yesterday we had a date planned and she did it to me again. An hour before she texted me saying im a wonderful guy but she just doesnt feel it anymore. She wants to be friends only. She said she thinks we work so well together but it just isnt there. She also said she made out wit that guy while we were together. I told her shes an evil woman and she will get what she deserves someday. Now i feel ten times more devastated cuz i truly believed like a fool we were on our way back. This witch even made plans to take a trip with me next week. I wanted to make her my wife and now its truly over. All the effort ive put in the past few months was for nothing. Ive never felt so low but i wish i followed everybodys advice on here. I couldve saved myself a lot of pain. Thanks for the help anyways. I'm sorry man ... I don't think anyone here is looking to give you "I told you so's." We all want to believe that the other person will love us as much as we love them. Sometimes we love so much that we feel that another go would be a good idea. Don't beat yourself up about it. Unrequited love is a devastating feeling. But trust me, better days are ahead of you.
wilsonx Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Well all u guys were right. We started dating again. No sex, but lots of kissing and cuddling. Yesterday we had a date planned and she did it to me again. An hour before she texted me saying im a wonderful guy but she just doesnt feel it anymore. She wants to be friends only. She said she thinks we work so well together but it just isnt there. She also said she made out wit that guy while we were together. I told her shes an evil woman and she will get what she deserves someday. Now i feel ten times more devastated cuz i truly believed like a fool we were on our way back. This witch even made plans to take a trip with me next week. I wanted to make her my wife and now its truly over. All the effort ive put in the past few months was for nothing. Ive never felt so low but i wish i followed everybodys advice on here. I couldve saved myself a lot of pain. Thanks for the help anyways. You want to know how we all know, its because we didn't listen to our friends advice when they told us to run.... We had to learn on our own. We could have given you a psychic with 100% accuracy rating on the future and you still would not have believed her until you experience it for yourself. Now you know if this happens again
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