Kathyy28 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 My ex broke up with me on May 18th and has been complete NC since then. I went NC with him on May 20th and I made a big mistake on breaking NC on June 21st. The reason I broke the NC was because a while ago we had bought a groupon for this vacation we were taking to NH for 3 days 2 nights and since we broke up obviously we couldn't go. A few weeks after the break up I told one of our mutual friends "his best friend is married to my best friend" that if he could ask him if he could give me the groupon "cause it was under his account" and I'll pay him his half. He had told told him to tell me that I could keep the groupon and I don't have to pay him at all, all I have to do is log in into his account and print it out. He knows I don't have his account password nor a printer, so I asked out mutual friend to tell my ex if he could just print it out and leave it in my mailbox "he lives one street away". My ex kept on making up excuses saying that he doesn't have a printer and stuff so I just let it go for now. A few weeks ago my friends and I had bought other things to go white water rafting for the end of the month and we decided to make it a vacation by staying at NH. Since the groupon expires next month I decided to email him this on June 21st " I was told that you are willing to give me the NH groupon which I appreciate. If it's possible to print it out from your job and leave it in your mailbox, or mine or wherever is more convenient for you, I could go and pick it up later on this week when they are ready. Also I was wondering if I could get back the envelope with our pics, letters ect that I returned to you, I should have never given you those back, that was very immature of me to do so. If you don't have them anymore then I could completely understand that. Thank you again for the groupon. " I wasn't really expecting for a reply, I just kept on checking my mailbox at night to see if he left the things and after of week of checking I figured that he didn't want to give it to me so my best friend told me to try and attempt logging on to his groupon account using his old fb password and it worked! She ended up printing out the groupon so now that I had it I really didn't give a damn if hr dropped it off or not. So last Monday I spoke to my best friend and she tells me that her husband asked her if she knew if I had a new boyfriend or was getting to know someone. She told him that she knows I've been going on a few dates but no one serious for now. She asked him why that question and he told her that my ex asked him if those questions since supposedly someone called him to tell him that they saw me that Friday with some guy at downtown. I don't believe him just cause I went out with my close friends whom I've known since 1st grade and since he have them all on his fb he was able to see that I was hanging out with a huge crowd. Not just one guy. Him asking his friend about me came as a shocked to all of us since he specifically had said that he does NOT want to know anything about me a few weeks after our break up, and also he knew that the word my get around to me since he asked his best friend to ask his wife. Now last Tues I worked from 3-midnight and when I got home I had received a text from him at 1:19am and he said "When are you coming back?" I didn't replied to him right away cause I was flabbergasted with him actually contacting me, especially so late at night! Plus I was going away to cape cod for the day with my friend and didn't wanted to ruin my trip by texting him. That night I came back and I went to the gym with my best friend and her husband I had told them about the text earlier that day and they told me the same thing that I thought. That my his text meant when was I going back to him, to our relationship. They advice me to replied "what do you mean" cause they feel like he did me very wrong on how he broke up with me and how he has been acting after the break up, so he would have no choice but no put his pride aside for once and open up to me OR he could come up with some other excuse to play it off. I replied to him after 10 pm asking him "what do you mean" and he replied an hour later asking me "aren't you at the cape?". I'm guessing he read my friend status who I went to with the cape where she wrote that she is excited to go to the cape with me the next day. Anyways I answered him " I came back tonight" afterwards he replied "Oh lol well I'm going to drop off the envelope and groupon tomorrow I'm already in bed." and I replied back saying "Okay" . The next day I worked till midnight and I checked my mailbox after work and he didn't even drop it off! I thought that was very stupid of him for breaking NC after so long about the groupon especially since I had emailed him over 2 weeks ago and he didn't even bother dropping it off then. On Friday he texts me again asking me "You work today?" I figured he asked that so he could leave the groupon and I said "No." Although I wasn't going to be home cause I was out all day. He never responded back ' which I honestly wasn't exepecting him to" But he also still hasn't left the groupon and the envelope which is the reason he claimed that he hit me up asking me when I was going back. Honestly I don't know why he is doing this. He is starting to look so stupid and pathetic in front of my eyes.... Next time he texts me I feel like responding to him " If you're going to leave me the groupon just leave it in my mailbox, there's really no need for us to keep on communicating with each other." I know it's mean and rude of me to reply that to him, but honestly I used to put him on a pedestal after our break up... but these past few weeks has truly opened up my eyes on how disrespectful he has been towards me after our break up. The only reason on why I would want hit to contact me is if he realize how wrong he was and decides to reconcile and be straight up about it. Not beat around the bush and play games cause once couples start with the games all the seriousness goes out the window. Maybe if he does hit me up for the I don't even know if I want to get back with him or not. I just don't see WHY he doesn't get this groupon and envelope thing over with and give it to me so he wouldn't have to hit me up anymore... what do you guys think?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Don't get your hopes up on this but... seems to me that he is regretting the break up. the groupon is his reason for reaching out to you but I think he may have to much pride or shame in bringing up reconciling with you. I think that groupon is his ticket to break NC and get to talk to you. I could be wrong but that is the only reason I can see him doing this. He doesn't seem to be stringing you along with false hope other than that one text, but I think you've handled that text very well.
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