confused mind Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 About 2 weeks ago my husband announced that he had met a girl as he is no longer happy with me. He met her every night for 4 days before I told him to move out if he wants to be with her. He left. He said he didnt want a relationship with her but needs time to think things over. he kept seeing her for about a week then he said he broke it up with her and told me he would consider giving us another try if I let him do whatever he wanted (he wants to hang with his single friends) I told him to forget about it. For the next week he kept on having fun and contacting me when he felt like, but he got upset if I contacted him, so yesterday I decided enough is enough, I gave him a chance to make things better after he cheated, he didn't take it, I must move on and find someone who wants to be in a relationship and can love me. I decided to have no contact with my husband who up until now was under the impression that we're on a break and he'll be back whenever he makes up his mind. So this morning he sent me a text which I ignored followed shortly by a few phone calls. A few hours later I went to walk the dog and by the time I got back he was here, said he wanted to see me and wanted to know if I still wanted to fix things.. I said no. (I'd like to fix things, but not with him living the single life and thinking he'd come back to me when he feels like) He asked me about 4 times, didnt try to convince me, but each time I said there as no point. I didn't want to give in to his first request as I know that he only showed because I ignored him. Should I keep this up? Will he try to approach me still? I need my marriage back to normal...
coolheadal Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 No! Why are you thinking so. Stick with your first thoughts! Keep him out for good. My situation is being a man is the wife is doing what your husband is doing trying a new single lifestyle with her girlfriends and men friends. I really should call the men the lovers. So you husband cheated with his girl which is lover and wants to go back to you as a backup to that women. This is not fair for you and you need like I needs one who wants to be with and love you for you. They need to only have interest in you not going after another women or in my case a man for her needs. Of course I have proof she's doing it and your have the word of mouth your husband came clean to tell you. Otherwise he could have gone behind your back and you would have never known. What a messy life to be in right now.. I am really unhappy and I am sure you are too. But don't take him back and because he cheated on you. As the saying goes once they cheat they'll always cheat!
alhoneyblue Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 From what you said it doesn't sound like he is the least bit remorseful. I am not as negative towards cheaters as a lot of people who comment here , I beleive in second chances if there really is still a lot of love and respect between two people. Cheating happens for reasons that sometimes can be changed or set right. You don't say much about what led up to this was there unhappiness abounding between the two of you or some triggering factor for him? The way you put it wow, it sounds like he just doesn't care anymore. If thats the case I am thinking your mindset that enough was enough was the right one to have. It must hurt badly---be good to yourself pull close to the other people in your life that love you they will give you strength to get through the next weeks
robf1971 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 then he said he broke it up with her and told me he would consider giving us another try if I let him do whatever he wanted (he wants to hang with his single friends) ... Rather, she dumped him when she found out he is married and you are plan B. My advice? Never, ever be someone's backup plan. Do not take him back ...
Goldenspoon Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 About 2 weeks ago my husband announced that he had met a girl as he is no longer happy with me. He met her every night for 4 days before I told him to move out if he wants to be with her. He left. He said he didnt want a relationship with her but needs time to think things over. he kept seeing her for about a week then he said he broke it up with her and told me he would consider giving us another try if I let him do whatever he wanted (he wants to hang with his single friends) I told him to forget about it. For the next week he kept on having fun and contacting me when he felt like, but he got upset if I contacted him, so yesterday I decided enough is enough, I gave him a chance to make things better after he cheated, he didn't take it, I must move on and find someone who wants to be in a relationship and can love me. I decided to have no contact with my husband who up until now was under the impression that we're on a break and he'll be back whenever he makes up his mind. So this morning he sent me a text which I ignored followed shortly by a few phone calls. A few hours later I went to walk the dog and by the time I got back he was here, said he wanted to see me and wanted to know if I still wanted to fix things.. I said no. (I'd like to fix things, but not with him living the single life and thinking he'd come back to me when he feels like) He asked me about 4 times, didnt try to convince me, but each time I said there as no point. I didn't want to give in to his first request as I know that he only showed because I ignored him. Should I keep this up? Will he try to approach me still? I need my marriage back to normal... You have a crappy marriage with a garbage husband. WHY do you even talk to him? Talk to an attorney. I can't believe how dumb some women are these days with relationship. When will you FULLY move on, when he cheats on you again and give you HIV?
What_Next Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 You are his plan B. Unless he COMPLETELY commits to your marriage, and this includes a confession of ALL affairs (by your post I am willing to bet this isn't the first), then there is nowhere to go.
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