MandyC18 Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 So after having a bad night (grieving over the ex) i calmed myself down at times and was able to write a letter for him. The letter has no mushy business, no pleading or begging, not even i miss yous, or saying goodbyes. In this letter I'm simply reintroducing myself. I believe that when our relationship became rocky and the fighting started occurring more we only focused on that or when another was gonna happen next. We lost our true self's and kinda forgot who we both fell in love with. Its a nice letter, all pages are sparkly because i love glitter and sparkles ha, little pictures, and of course a lot of underlined context clues that i have grown and learned from previous mistakes. Some of you are probably thinking..."are you serious" but yes i am, i don't plan on giving it to him soon (not sure how i will anyways) i think we are on no contact terms and etc. Before he really forgets about us and me and the relationship remain in the back of his mind stored away...i figured he needs to remember the girl he fell in love with. Not the one he had been dealing with this past month (break up) I was planning on giving it to him at the end of July, for school for us will start in August and that would be bad timing with settling and adjusting to our schedules. He has a soccer camp the last days of July so depending on what terms we are, talking or no talking. Ill have his sister place it on his bed so he can see it when he gets home. P.S, I'm known for my long love letters, mushy, apologetic, etc. But this one is different and i know he will appreciate it. Although idk if anything will come of this, I'm taking a risk. The worst i can face is ignoring, rejection, a fight, or anything else..I've dealt with it all. But who knows what will happen maybe something positive if we do have a month of no talking. Fear is on our minds, follow your heart for nothing happens without action. The letter ends in....Do you remember me? Do i sound familiar..or make you feel something special or something you used to feel? -Mandy
Author MandyC18 Posted July 3, 2011 Author Posted July 3, 2011 thank you, im just taking a risk and will then find out if it was worth it or not. Who knows!
Author MandyC18 Posted July 3, 2011 Author Posted July 3, 2011 writing helps me get out all my emotions i found it to be a positive thing. Its amazing what you can express on paper and in person
geegirl Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 (edited) If you have to remind him of who you were/are, refresh his memory of what was, remind him not to forget you, then it's not optimism that you have but an unshakeable sense of denial and hope. But you have to go through this journey the way you wish to and feel is right for you. Good luck to you. Edited July 4, 2011 by geegirl
Author MandyC18 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 thank youu, im still debating if i should give the letter..i plan on giving it at the end of july but since this month just started i have no idea what will happen until then or if anything will. i do have hope, maybe for something that will not work RIGHT NOW but maybe it can later on who knows.
Geya Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Oh no, I think it's a bad idea, f you dealt with the worst why would you do something that you know might be bad for you, AGAIN? I think you might hurt even more, but if that's what you really want then do it & deal with the consequences
Author MandyC18 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 things could change before then and the letter might be a bad idea. who knows im trying to take it day by day. we are 17 and 18...young and dealing with love and a sad/hard break up for the first time :/
krifle04 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 So after having a bad night (grieving over the ex) i calmed myself down at times and was able to write a letter for him. The letter has no mushy business, no pleading or begging, not even i miss yous, or saying goodbyes. In this letter I'm simply reintroducing myself. I believe that when our relationship became rocky and the fighting started occurring more we only focused on that or when another was gonna happen next. We lost our true self's and kinda forgot who we both fell in love with. Its a nice letter, all pages are sparkly because i love glitter and sparkles ha, little pictures, and of course a lot of underlined context clues that i have grown and learned from previous mistakes. Some of you are probably thinking..."are you serious" but yes i am, i don't plan on giving it to him soon (not sure how i will anyways) i think we are on no contact terms and etc. Before he really forgets about us and me and the relationship remain in the back of his mind stored away...i figured he needs to remember the girl he fell in love with. Not the one he had been dealing with this past month (break up) I was planning on giving it to him at the end of July, for school for us will start in August and that would be bad timing with settling and adjusting to our schedules. He has a soccer camp the last days of July so depending on what terms we are, talking or no talking. Ill have his sister place it on his bed so he can see it when he gets home. P.S, I'm known for my long love letters, mushy, apologetic, etc. But this one is different and i know he will appreciate it. Although idk if anything will come of this, I'm taking a risk. The worst i can face is ignoring, rejection, a fight, or anything else..I've dealt with it all. But who knows what will happen maybe something positive if we do have a month of no talking. Fear is on our minds, follow your heart for nothing happens without action. The letter ends in....Do you remember me? Do i sound familiar..or make you feel something special or something you used to feel? -Mandy This sounds like something I really want to do too. After a week of being broken up I wrote him a letter of what I had realized through the break up and gave it to him. He read it in front of me and his mood definitely changed and opened up room for us to talk. It didn't do much as that was almost 4 weeks ago and we're still broken up and now having NC. But it felt good to give it to him and see his reaction. This made me tear up. "Fear is on our minds, follow your heart for nothing happens without action."
Author MandyC18 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 i knew there would be a positive side to this, i think its different with every guy or girl. For my ex and i he wouldn't simply just lash out on me saying im wasting my time or anything. He would really read the letter think about it and go from there. Maybe we actually do need the space for a little because June we were on and off but not getting back together. Maybe July will be a nice month rather than May and June. Thank you!
krifle04 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 i knew there would be a positive side to this, i think its different with every guy or girl. For my ex and i he wouldn't simply just lash out on me saying im wasting my time or anything. He would really read the letter think about it and go from there. Maybe we actually do need the space for a little because June we were on and off but not getting back together. Maybe July will be a nice month rather than May and June. Thank you! Yeah, we all know our exes better than anyone on here does. So it's hard to understand what exactly to do. The day my ex came over to read the letter he was acting all tough and strong like he was over it. Once he read the letter he softened up, became himself again, and we had a great talk. Makes me wonder whether I should keep contact with him because I know I'm a weakness of his, but I know NC is best for myself.
Author MandyC18 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 exactly, we can all give advice and help each other out but its the person your dealing with not all advice will apply to them. Im waiting till the end of july though just to see how long we go nc and to see what else might happen good or bad. As soon as a break up happens, the ex's put their walls back up and it gets harder to climb over them when the day pass...
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