just_scott Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 hey all k was with my girl [ex] for 6 yrs datted for 4 knew each other prior for 2 ,a little over a month ago she up and walks out on me . WE had very limited contact at first then no contact THEN days without contact . IF i'm calling her [ i have reasons] BUT she doesn't know the reasons , she sees my name on her cell phone or on e-mails SHE is picking up the phone or even reading the e mails ?SHE says she doesn't feel we hve a chance of being back together SHE mentions we're friends ,i say this aint being fiends I actually called the other day for nothing at all ,just to see if she'd answer and she did so i just said oh i thought i missed your call she said no .then we talked about basic things ALSO things we've done but it was a short call ... IF she doesn't want a relationship with me like we've had WHY would she be picking up the phone knowing it's me ? is she maybe not sure what she want's with me , she says she's been having fun doing her own thing being with girl-friends and her kids AND she knows i'm moving i mentioned maybe you come by for a little see the place before i leave an she says yes AND also wants to check out my new place .......... HOW do i read all this and how do i play this ?
TaraMaiden Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 You go NC, you stay NC and you never ever try to second-guess what the other person is doing, and why, because you never can, and never will. Read the Caliguy No Contact link in my signature. Never ask about them. Focus on you. It's the only way to get past it all and move on.
Kilty Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Still beating that dead horse .................................................. It's as if you are hoping that by starting a new thread after receiving tons of advice in the others - which urged you NOT to do what you are doing - you are hoping someone will come up with something new to justify what you are doing ....... Honestly i feel your pain but sometimes you have gotta help yourself
TaraMaiden Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Oh good grief.... I really have to look up "member's previous posts" more often.... *beats head against wall*.... Which is marginally less productive than flogging a dead horse..... ....debatably......
Author just_scott Posted July 3, 2011 Author Posted July 3, 2011 i'm not beatting any dead horses here ,theis certain things going on that we are updatting each other on every so often, like her dad is ill with cancer and me and him got along and she'll call once in a while to tell me his status AND theirs still things here i have that she has intrest in that i probably wont b using at my new place so she'd be welcome to them . WE don't talk about ''us'' mostly just the other stuff WE don't really live near each other or have mutual friends we can go through [the ones we do have don't want to be the go betweens] I was just wonderingwhat she may be feeling or thinking cause she knows it's me calling and she'll pick up not knowing the reason why i'm calling maybe she wants contact ,maybe she's confused,maybe feelings for me are still with her ust a-lot of questions could even be maybe it's just a game to her i don't know so i was asking cause possably someone else on here went through this same senerio and they can give me their take on it
TheHurtProcess Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Still beating that dead horse .................................................. It's as if you are hoping that by starting a new thread after receiving tons of advice in the others - which urged you NOT to do what you are doing - you are hoping someone will come up with something new to justify what you are doing ....... Honestly i feel your pain but sometimes you have gotta help yourself I totally agree. Why are you doing this to yourself bro? You're putting yourself through so much unnecessary anguish. I think you know it too. But part of you is still in denial, thinking that something might change. Nothing is going to change. You have to accept that it is in fact 100% over and let go, to give you a chance to heal. The truth sucks, it hurts, but I'm being brutally honest for your own good bud. My ex and I broke up a little over a month and a half ago and have been steady NC for the past three weeks. If I was breaking NC every couple of days, I know I wouldn't have progressed as fast as I have. I'm just about over the breakup and I feel as though I'm ready to move on any day now. I still think about her here and there, but it's nothing like how it was weeks ago. I didn't go NC thinking that it would bring her back. You have to absolutely give up hope to move on. I did just that and I feel as though it lessened the severity of the process. Life is manageable today and on top of it, I've been hard at work getting my life back on the road to success. I don't need a girl to distract me from obtaining my goals. Think about what you could be achieving if you weren't in this position right now? The only worry I have right now is that she might break NC. I don't want her back at this point and I definitely don't want her coming back into my life to screw everything up only to boost her ego. Don't give her that ego boost bud. Leave her be. TRUST ME!!!
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