Kaytlin Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 (edited) My spouse has a prostate problem and won't get it looked at. My spouse doesn't urinate a lot but he tells me that he has trouble urinating. He said he feels like he as to go to the bathroom a lot but when he goes it takes him 2 minutes just to go. I told him he should get it checked out but everytime he makes an appt he always has something else to do and has to reschedule it. It doesn't make sense to me, I feel like he's avoiding going to the doctor or just tells me that because I keep asking him to get this problem resolved so we can have a normal sex life again. We haven't been intimate for about a year now and before that when we did have sex it was once every three to four months. Four months ago when we were intimate he did not ejaculate and could not stay hard long enough so he could have an orgasm himself. I don't know to much about prostate issues but a friend of mine told me once that she knows a man who has this problem but is still intimate with his girlfriend. She says he urinates a lot but is still very much into his girlfriend and has an active sex life with her. He also told my friend that if he can't stay erect long enough he satisfies her in other ways to keep her satisfied. My spouse works a lot and is hardly ever home. When he does take off from work he sleeps on the couch and not in the bed with me. I wonder if he's cheating or if he really has a prostate problem. He has cheated on me in the past and never told me, I found out from a perfect stranger. It's obvious he didn't have this prostate problem when he was cheating. Now he keeps telling me he can't stay erect long enough. My thing is if you are having problems with your prostate why aren't you trying to get it resolved. I wonder if we are only together as two married people for convience. I have slept by myself for about a year now and when he's home and not working he sleeps on the couch. I guess we both have gotten comfortable with the lack of intimacy and not sleeping together that we are use to it. I'm not happy being in a marriage like this and I think my spouse has accepted it too because he's not trying to do anything about fixing the problem. Another thing, there's this woman who always speaks to my spouse when he's by himself but hardly speaks to me when I'm by myself. When my spouse sees her, he always mentions to me that when he sees her she’s always staring at him and will look the other way when he notices it. Sometimes I will mention to my spouse did you see so and so today and he will say yeah I saw her looking at me hard. When I see her looking at me she will look the other way and will look again when I turn my head. My gut feelings tell me that I think my spouse likes her but doesn't want me to know that he likes her?. For my spouse to notice this everytime he sees this other woman has me guessing if he's interested in her or possibly seeing her. Can somebody help me on this one, I believe our marriage is nothing but a convience. Edited July 3, 2011 by Kaytlin
TaraMaiden Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Excuse me, but I think you mean 'convenience'. And no, I don't think it is. I think this woman finds him attractive and is drawn to him. His openness with you, about her, indicates his lack of interest in her, because trust me, if he was remotely attracted to her, you'd be the last person he would tell.... I do think he has a medical problem, and I think it does need addressing. I think you need to tell him that while he may be outwardly happy going without sex, that's no reason why you should be happy to accept a virtually non-existent sex-life. But you suspect that inwardly, he's not happy either. And given that you are husband and wife, and you should be open and honest with each other, why the hell doesn't he just come clean and admit it's a problem he's scared to face? because you're in this with him, like it or not, and you (both) deserve to get it sorted.
Author Kaytlin Posted July 3, 2011 Author Posted July 3, 2011 TaraMaiden, I typed this on here without spell checking it. Thank you for correcting the word convenience.
TaraMaiden Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 I'm fine, I already have spellchecker. I suspected as much.... But seriously, you really need to bring him up with a short sharp shock. This marriage is a partnership, and he's basically cutting you out of the deal. How is that fair - on either of you?
jonymac001 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Now, the scenario described above and the other issues raised by Donovan in his article are serious, but they are mostly in the potential threat category at the moment. We know of no actual abuses of this Google-provided feature for Android devices. But that is not the real issue is it? The problem with the feature is that Google has chosen to make it an opt-out transaction. The default on many devices is to check the box in the settings control that allows Google to store this sensitive data. However, that is not the secure and responsible approach. Users should have to actively opt-in to the feature. Google should be erring on the side of security over convenience. The only person who has the right to make the decision to override security in favor of a convenience feature is the user - not the vendor, service provider, or software developer.
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