countrykels612 Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 I just wrote a whole lot on here and it erased it. So long story, made even shorter. Been dating this guy over 4 years now, he lives with me at my moms. I feel head over heels for him, and I had never felt feelings for someone so strong. He had a job then, but lost it, and he hasnt' held a job longer than 3 months in a row and has went 5 or 6 months without one at some points. I already have big issues with him because he's a chronological liar, and I value honesty alot. He has lied about the dumbest, most trivial, obvious things. Sometimes I feel real insulted when he thinks he can get away with such a stupid lie. Just this year I've discussed breaking up with him at least 5 times due to lying and trust. And we always come up with new ideas to fix the problems, new promises... so on and so forth. Anyways, a month ago, I gave him the ultimatum, get a job or get out. He found one a few days later, and all he can talk about is work. Good right? No, he always mentions "Lisa". One day last week he let it slip that "Lisa" and him always take breaks together and they've discussed what they would do if he was single. ?!?!? Well today, I am leaving to meet my brother, coming back from afghanistan. My family is staying up there all week, and my boyfriend is staying home, for work and to take care of my animals. It was planned that him and my step-dad were to ride down on the 5th for the day, because they both had off. Yesterday he informed me that "Lisa" needed help getting pinestraw, and he was going to "take her and ride around to find pinestraw" that day. Lowe's Home Improvement is 5 minutes from where they work, they sell cheap pinestraw AND load it for you. It's really a no-brainer, so I'm boiling but trying to stay quiet for now for my animals sake. He's the only one that I can somewhat trust around my horse. My horse means the world to me, and he knew I was already having anxiety problems because I've never been away from her so long. And now this?! What do I do? And if it's the obvious, How do I break up with someone I care so much about? And why do I still care so much about him?
thelovingkind Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Unfortunately, our emotions don't consult the rational side of our brain before deciding to attach us to people. It is totally understandable that you have strong feelings for this person in spite of the way he's treated you. You can and must however use your knowledge of what is right and necessary to over-ride your emotional dependency, and that's what you need to do here. Get your affairs in order with your animals, etc. and then get out of there. You don't want to waste any more of your life with a chronic liar.
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