citrusdrop1688 Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 My ex and I broke up in January. About a month after that we tried to work things out for almost three months, we were exclusive during that time but we never actually officially back together. The reason it didnt work out was because I let some personal things that had nothing to do with us really get in the way and I ended up mistreating him. After I violated his privacy by looking through his phone we decided to take a break from each other so I could really work on myself without distraction. We maintained the understanding of exclusivity. Month goes by and we get off to a rocky start by me other reacting to something. Bad timing I know. Really didnt give him alot of confidence in my ability to change. But we both laid our cards out on the table and decided to move forward and see what happens. I told him if he didnt see immediate noticeable change that he should walk away, since I dont want to hurt him anymore. This was all three weeks ago. The first week we had pretty limited contact. He stopped by my job a few times just to say hi and give me a kiss and a hug. The week after we hung out twice. The first night was a good night, but then we hung out of the day a few days later and it was a great day. Everything felt so right and good in a way that it hadnt in a long time. This week we hung out Thursday night for about an hour, but I had noticed that he was acting distant. The night before he seemed withdrawn, enough so that I called him back to ask if everything was ok. Thursday he barely text me back, which is pretty abnormal for us and then on Friday he seriously was taking like 5 hours to reply to anything I sent him and almost completely avoided answering anything about what he was doing or what he wanted to do Saturday, today, since we had planned on getting together. So this morning he asked about what time we should get together and I replied with some questions about his lack of responsiveness. He decided he didnt want to hang out, but did want to get together to talk. Then he tells me he thinks hes bee acting weird because he had dinner with his mom on Wednesday and during dinner she asked if he had been seeing me because he seemed to be less happy and apparently that means I must be involved. He said he didnt think he was happy but she knows him the best emotionally, which is confusing cause i feel like he would know better then she would. So I asked how he felt about everything since I thought things were going great and he replied that he did notice that he had been thinking about everything that went wrong and all the ways he had been hurt before... so of course hes not as happy as he could be. He said he was confused about it though cause nothing had happened recently to make him that way. I know that a big concern of his at this point is that he may not be able to let go and move on from all the bad things that happened. I never lied to him and never cheated on him but I did get pretty mean and predatory. It was like the perfect storm of conditions that came together all at once. I told him that I think we can work things out, but only if hes willing to let me in, stop thinking about the past and give me an opportunity to love him. Sorry about the length :/ Im just really lost as to what Im supposed to do or where im supposed to go from here. We are supposed to have dinner on Wednesday. I know how much he loves me or he wouldnt even be trying. I just dont know how im supposed to know where to go from here or how im supposed to know if he cant move on. Any advice is helpful.
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