crazylove Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Well, i've just had the most amazing time in Europe with my long distance 'friend'. I say friend, because we haven't had 'the talk' yet to see what happens next. We got on sooo well, even better than I could have imagined. No awkwardness, no weird silences, just fun! At the airport, we just gave each other the biggest hug:) We stayed together day and night for 2 weeks, went to Italy for a few days, and I showed him around the UK. I'm totally into him:love:. He's bounced off around Europe some more now for the next 2 weeks, then he's back for the weekend before he goes back to Australia. So, question is, how do I approach the whole, 'what happens next thing' without causing awkwardness. He's pretty introverted when it comes to talking about his feelings, and I don't want him to feel pressured. Do I just leave it to him, and risk him not making the first move? Do I ask him first? I'd love to take the relationship further. We're best friends, and now lovers for the last 2 weeks, but still nothing concrete. I'm so happy we had the best time ever, but also a bit worried that nothing may ever come of it. I guess maybe i've fallen for him hook, line and sinker. I thought I loved him before he got here, but now we've met for real. . . Jeez, my emotions are all over the place lol
creighton0123 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Why does something have to happen next? You should seriously, seriously consider a long distance relationship as an option only for when you know that you really care about this person and can make it work. Nothing has to happen next. You can join the ranks of those who have foreign-born romantic flings that are fun, awesome, with no long term strings attached.
Author crazylove Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 Hi Creighton, Thanks for the reply. I do really care for this guy. I always have. Meeting in person has just made my feelings for him even stronger, we just get on so well together. I would be willing to try and make it work. I'd do anything for this guy. I miss him so much right now, he's gone off on his trip around Europe. It just felt so right when we were together, and I'd really like to talk to him about giving it a try, but at the same time I don't want to make things awkward if he doesn't.
NonyaB Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 Sometimes having a fling with no strings attached though can be painful (as much as it can be fun) but in this case I would imagine for you, it would be, because by the sounds of it, I don't think you'd be happy if you found out he was doing/talking the way he does with you to other girls. (Now I'm only assuming this) if you would be fine with that, then a fling like suggested could be the way to go, however if you want more than that, then I wouldn't recommend just having or leaving things as a fling.... When you talk to him again, just mention what a good time you had but don't rush into anything, just take it slow, see what he says, he may be thinking the same as you, or maybe not, but give it a little time before you rush into trying to making this a 'thing' to try and avoid any awkwardness if he doesn't want the whole long distance relationship, just give it a bit of time. Good luck with everything.
Author crazylove Posted July 5, 2011 Author Posted July 5, 2011 Thanks NonyaB. I forgot to mention a major point (duh!!). We have been in constant contact for the last year and a half. We speak/message every day for a few hours, and he's one of my best friends. This is the first time we met in person, and the attraction is definately there! . We kinda knew it was a more than friends situation from our getting to know each other over all that time, but wanted to see if the attraction was there in person. We didn't talk about it before he went to Europe. But he is back in a couple of weeks again, so I guess something might be said then one way or the other.
HeavenOrHell Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 It's not like something *has* to happen next, it's just she clearly she wants it to, and there's nothing wrong with that, unless less he clearly isn't into it. Good luck OP, hope things work out! Why does something have to happen next? You should seriously, seriously consider a long distance relationship as an option only for when you know that you really care about this person and can make it work. Nothing has to happen next. You can join the ranks of those who have foreign-born romantic flings that are fun, awesome, with no long term strings attached.
Author crazylove Posted July 6, 2011 Author Posted July 6, 2011 Thanks Heavenorhell:) Yeah, that's exactly it. I guess I don't want to regret not asking if he feels the same and wants more. If he doesn't, that's a different situation, and i'll have to deal with it, but at least i'll have tried. He's not back anyway for a week and a half or so. Not sure whether to send him an email, or just talk to him in person when he gets back (patience was never one of my strong points! lol). I just don't want our last couple of days to be weird if he doesn't want the same as me. I'm not saying to rush things and jump in all guns blazing, but would be nice to know if we do have 'something more' and we'd be willing to give it a go:)
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