Steadfast Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 My dad had an affair. He cheated on my mother after 18-years of marriage. He told me she was younger and more fun than my mother, who was busy taking care of him and four kids. He loved how she made him feel about himself; made him feel young again. It was exciting. Somehow, someway, he snapped out of it and begged mom to take him back. She did, and they were married 66 years when he passed away. Dad said he never cheated again and told me as hard as it was for him (he confessed that he fell in love with the OW) it was much harder for mom. She forgave him, then cared and loved him dearly until the end, but she never forgot. The pain from what he did remains with her to this day. His words...not hers. How strong, how devastating is cheating on a marriage? My dad was still apologizing for it on his death bed. Filled with regret. Me, and my family appreciate their effort, but the price paid was brutal. OP, divorce your husband, then apologize for your evil deeds. Confess to him what you've done and be prepared to accept whatever he decides to do...like press charges. That's the only way to clear your conscious. Do it.
StoneCold Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Those are all 3 different criminal categories. : Yeah all within the same criminal code The same should go for him. /QUOTE] Yeah but it doesnt.... Know why? Cheating isnt and never wil be a criminal offense. What she did was criminal and seen as a wrong against society.....thats why its called criminal
John Michael Kane Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Yeah all within the same criminal code Yet they're still different. Yeah but it doesnt.... Know why? Cheating isnt and never wil be a criminal offense. Cheating is a criminal offense, it's just doesn't fit inside the warped judicial system. What she did was criminal and seen as a wrong against society.....thats why its called criminal Same thing for him.
anne1707 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Yup. Show me. I wasn't specifically referring to you but since you asked,^ The evidence being several successfully reconciled couples who post on LS. Yet you choose to ignore or not believe that. As for my marriage? It was a mess but it isn't now. We have both learnt from past mistakes and behaviours. OP - find professional help - there may still be a chance for you both to be happy together contrary to what some posters will insist on telling you because they "know best". I am not saying that you can make this work but if you want it then you have to try.
OldOnTheInside Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Can't tell if you are just a troll. Anyway, one thing I should point out is that you have essentially posted a traceable confession for illegal activities threatening another person's life, as well as listing your actions and motives on a public internet forum. If your hubby ever finds out about this, what you have just posted here could be used as evidence against you in a court of law, which is why I recommend that this thread not be deleted (not that my word means anything). Also, once something is posted on the internet, it never truly goes away due to both archiving and public viewing. It is quite easy for even a mediocre hacker, or admin to either track your IP address or use the email address that you have used to register here to gather personal information. Even if this is a joke, due to the finickiness of the law, you could still get into legal trouble. I just thought that you should know that if you decide or threaten to commit an illegal activity, leaving traceable evidence behind is one of the least intelligent things to do. If a van drives up to your house...run. I think I am beginning to see why he may have cheated on you....you're a nut job. P*ssing off a mentally ill person would put her hubby in the "too dumb to live" category.
Taramere Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 He has showed remorse a bunch of time and though I see he's trying hard, I continue punishing him by making him sick. I know he'll never find out about this but I'm starting to feel kind of bad. Is there a way I can stop this? How is he never going to find out about it? You've been poisoning him with laxatives every month for three years. Giving him a high enough dose to result in him having a bad bout of sickness every month. Here's an article on the potential effects of long term laxative abuse - which would most commonly affect people with eating disorders but would presumably apply equally to those who are being poisoned by a vindictive spouse. http://www.choosehelp.com/eating-disorders/laxative-abuse-it-can-kill-and-it-doesnt-work.html Dehydration causes electrolyte imbalances. Electrolytes regulate essential bodily processes, such as muscle contractions, including cardiac muscle contractions. With severe dehydration, there is a risk of heart stoppage, as well as muscle spasms, fainting, organ damage and even death. Laxative abusers also seem more prone to irritable bowel syndrome and, constipation, colon cancer and general infections. Whether a person's death happens quickly or slowly, if it happened because of a deliberate act or omission on your part, that would make you a killer. I'm no medical person, but I'd venture a guess that a post mortem could provide evidence of laxative abuse. So I hope this is just a troll thread. If it's not, then God knows what harm you might already have done to your husband's body. I can't believe people are arguing about the morality of cheating in this context. Yes, cheating on somebody is wrong - but it pales into insignificance compared to what you, in a very calculating and deliberately harmful manner, are doing. I hope your husband goes and gets checked out for these regular bouts of illness he's having, and I hope the cause gets traced back to you...because if all this is true, you're a dangerous creature indeed.
rafallus Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 (edited) It doesn't matter, if anything happens to him at all - spiking on its very own is a criminal offense. OP is going to have some hell coming soon. Edited July 4, 2011 by rafallus
John Michael Kane Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 The evidence being several successfully reconciled couples who post on LS. Yet you choose to ignore or not believe that. As for my marriage? It was a mess but it isn't now. We have both learnt from past mistakes and behaviours. Because there is no evidence. OP - find professional help - there may still be a chance for you both to be happy together contrary to what some posters will insist on telling you because they "know best". I am not saying that you can make this work but if you want it then you have to try. Nope. She needs to divorce this man and leave him be.
What_Next Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Yikes, I'll leave the back and forth silliness to the hydra, as usual. Lady for heavens sake are dim witted or something? Do you not realize that what you are doing is illegal and by posting this here on this forum that you have opened yourself up to possible prosecution? You do realize that forum software logs all posts right? Just divorce him and move on, I also suggest you DO NOT have children with anyone as you are obviously mentally unstable. This thread makes my skin crawl. Even in my deepest bouts of anger after discovering my wife's affair I NEVER thought of physically harming my wife. My god this is a disturbing thread.
Joe Normal Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 The way to stop doing it is very simple - just don't do it anymore. To make it easier, throw out the laxatives and don't buy any in future. Assuming you possess free will, the choice is yours. I'd also recommend you see a therapist for your own personal reasons, the way you are thinking is unhealthy and dangerous IMO.
OldOnTheInside Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Lady for heavens sake are dim witted or something? Do you not realize that what you are doing is illegal and by posting this here on this forum that you have opened yourself up to possible prosecution? You do realize that forum software logs all posts right? If this is real, then she has just screwed herself bigtime. If she is a troll, admitting to harming or killing somebody over the internet...even a fictitious person, can land you in deep sh*t.
SidLyon Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 OP you do realise this needs to stop now don't you? I'm pretty sure we've all heard the stories of the revenge of the BS. Such as laxatives on the cornflakes, shellfish in the curtain rails, large billboards and signs; and my favourite, hair removal cream in the shampoo. But really these are just in realms of fantasy for most BSs although some of us occasionally get to carry out minor acts of revenge in the first few months after d-day. This is no longer a reasonable (if it ever was) course of action for you to take. If you can't stop on your own then you must see someone as it seems you may now have a compulsion to engage in this sort of stuff and that damages you, not to mention possible long-term and unlawful harm to your H.
Mimolicious Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 My husband had a 6-months affair 3 years ago and I never really got over it. I was thinking of having kids with him until I discovered his affair through the phone bills and messages. What's very upsetting is he never told me himself, it was the OW that called me and explained almost everything we did. As a way of punishment I put laxative in his food every month and he becomes sick the next day with a stomach ache. Then I see is him running to the bathroom. I admit to laughing in silence and till this day he has no idea I'm doing this. Another occasion: His money got stolen when we had a reunion party. What he doesn't know is both me and one of my female friend spiked his drink. I gave all that money ($500) to her while he was laying there unconscious. He end up throwing up the next day, with a headache and couldn't remembered anything. Off course he has no idea I did this to him. I want to stop this as it's not helping and at times I do feel bad but another part of me says he deserves this. But it's like I've become someone I never was. I just want to be the same sane woman I once was before he emotionally (internally) destroyed me. And exactly how are any of your "Punk'd" shenanigans helping the situation? Until you don't poison your H and come out on the 5 o'clock news, you wont get it. Stop the nonsense and if you can't get over the fact that he cheated on you either seek help or get a D.
Memphis Raines Posted July 5, 2011 Posted July 5, 2011 He has showed remorse a bunch of time and though I see he's trying hard, I continue punishing him by making him sick. Even though I would normally relish the thought of getting revenge in this way (maybe once), this does have to stop. It is physical abuse even if he mentally abused you by being a cheater. On another note, I'd guess that he is not cheating and "trying hard" because its hard to cheat when you have constant diarrhea. can't be having sex with someone else out of fear he will crap the bed.
StoneCold Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Yet they're still different..Yet shes guilty of all of them and potentially guilty of another...whats your point??? Cheating is a criminal offense, it's just doesn't fit inside the warped judicial system... No it isnt goober. Unicorns must exist in your world huh? Same thing for him. You are pretty out there eh? NO not the same thing for him...he didnt commit a crime
John Michael Kane Posted July 6, 2011 Posted July 6, 2011 Yet shes guilty of all of them and potentially guilty of another...whats your point??? But she's not guilty of them all so what is your own point? No it isnt goober. Unicorns must exist in your world huh? Cheating is a criminal offense, creitin. Unicorns must not exist in your world huh? You are pretty out there eh? NO not the same thing for him...he didnt commit a crime Yes he did.
StoneCold Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 But she's not guilty of them all so what is your own point? Cheating is a criminal offense, creitin. Unicorns must not exist in your world huh? Yes he did. drugs are bad m'kay
Owl Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Cheating is a criminal offense... See...this surprises me. I wasn't aware that some states actually had did have laws against it? Which states actually have it on the books as a criminal offense? With what punishments?
What_Next Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Owl you know better than to engage the leftovers of the three headed hydra . Not worth it.
waytogo Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 See...this surprises me. I wasn't aware that some states actually had did have laws against it? Which states actually have it on the books as a criminal offense? With what punishments? I read a while back. Some states allow for civil litigation toward OW, guess OM also. Only state of NC stands out in memory. BS can sue for anything spent toward an A and pain and suffering. I don't fully agree with the law as that seems to let WS off but it does exist. As for the OP, if what she says is true she is a violent offender. Divorce due betrayal is legal. Intentially making a WS ill is not. A well meaning Dr gave me a perscription to make me well that reacted on me badly. Even the most educated can't know a person's physical composition that means discomfort, severe illness or death. Funny, OP hasn't posted anything since admitting to asulting her H, if she is real. If something more serious happens to him, this can be traced back to her so easily. Good luck in court, if you are still reading OP
2sunny Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 i say troll. in case that's not true - get serious psychologic help to deal with your passive aggressive approach. learn to communicate your truth and heal from so much anger that is harmful to yourself and others.
waytogo Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 i say troll. in case that's not true - get serious psychologic help to deal with your passive aggressive approach. learn to communicate your truth and heal from so much anger that is harmful to yourself and others. Probably is troll. My H did leave his coffee cup on the counter instead of in the dishwasher. Now where is that lax-o-leave when I need it
Steadfast Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 See...this surprises me. I wasn't aware that some states actually had did have laws against it? Which states actually have it on the books as a criminal offense? With what punishments? I've posted this before but it's dated; 1996. However, the law is still on the books in most of these states...rarely enforced. In Michigan, adultery is punishable up to a life sentence! It is ILLEGAL in: Alabama Arizona Colorado Florida Georgia Illinois Indiana Kansas Maryland Massachusetts Michigan Minnesota Mississippi Missouri Montana North Carolina Oklahoma Rhode Island South Carolina Tennessee Utah Virginia
StoneCold Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I read a while back. Some states allow for civil litigation toward OW, guess OM also. Only state of NC stands out in memory. BS can sue for anything spent toward an A and pain and suffering. I don't fully agree with the law as that seems to let WS off but it does exist. right...civil....not criminal
waytogo Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 I've posted this before but it's dated; 1996. However, the law is still on the books in most of these states...rarely enforced. In Michigan, adultery is punishable up to a life sentence! It is ILLEGAL in: Alabama Arizona Colorado Florida Georgia Illinois Indiana Kansas Maryland Massachusetts Michigan Minnesota Mississippi Missouri Montana North Carolina Oklahoma Rhode Island South Carolina Tennessee Utah Virginia Thanks for this. It's been a while since I read and am curious. What I can't remember is what can happen to WS. I know OW and probably OM can be sued. If you have the info, could you please post what happens in civil offense to WS, that is relative to what happens to AP? If the states you mention are about state law instead of civil law, as far as I know the laws are as valuable as prosecuting a dog for urinating on a hydrant near a church on Sunday. I'm really interested to know if breaking M vows and contract are punishable to anyone BUT AP.
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