MelMel830 Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Me and this guy have known each other for 3 years and have dated on and off. The last time we spoke was in January. He kissed me goodnight and told me to sleep well. He never talked to me after that. I tried 3 times to contact him but no response so I gave up. We haven't had contact since then.Then about a week ago he came into my job. Came up to me and asked how I've been and hugged me. After that he hasn't said one thing to me or tried to contact me. I'm a bit aggravated with him right now because I was doing good until he did that. I don't understand why he did that because I heard he has feelings for another girl. Why even bother with me? I mean I feel like I'm going thru the same situation again as I did in January.
carhill Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Cheer's effect. I've known guys who have whole 'harems' of such women. There's always another potential in the pipeline. Why? Because they can and it satisfies their id/ego. Initially, it likely makes women (you) feel good too, so that could be a positive. TBH, I've faced a lot of women with similar methodologies. I honestly don't believe it's a purposeful 'con-man' behavior, but rather a natural expression of their intrinsic psychology; elementally, how they interact with the world. It's an aspect of compatibility worthy of consideration.
carhill Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 LOL, there's a picture of me with my 'harem' in better days in my LS album. Leslie (RIP) was far more handsome and certainly funnier. From the OP's recounting, IME, such actions and words are relatively inexpensive but with valuable potential return. If fruitless, little is lost. Although without any emotional residues, hence different than the OP's dynamic, I've experienced this same thing with my exW. People are interesting creatures. It is what it is.
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