Jlovestruckx0 Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 my boyfriend of 2years broke up with me about 2 weeks ago .. His reasons were he's not happy with the arguing we have had lately , followed by i don't let him do things on his own. My problem is I am always there for him , never thought it could turn on me until now. I always am there to help solve his problems , or try to help him cope with things. He said he needed to clear his mind and be alone .. I was going through alot at the time , I still am and I really needed him there for me , he said he couldn't be and so i was hurt. I felt like i devoted so much time to this relationship and he just gave up on me. I did not contact at all that week , but i went to his graduation that Saturday because I would have felt horrible if i didn't go, I planned on going, just being there that one last time and then not speaking to him again after that. That day he did a complete 360, he was so sweet and nice , told me he wanted me back he just didn't know how to be like me and he was stressed , basically i had hope we would get back together. The next day we got into a petty argument, and after that he started acting distant again. I finally asked the other day and he said it was because the argument reminded him of the part of the relationship he did not want, and so it made him change his mind. I was so hurt. I am constantly trying to keep him happy , being there, doing things for him, and I get broken up with? Over arguing, arguing is fixable through talking , but he's the kind of person who can't handle emotions and stress, he rather push them off and keep to himself and so for that I understand him, but he's pushing me away when all I want to do is be there for him and have him there for me. He says we can be friends, but i don't know if i can do that. Should i completely ignore him and give him space again.. or should I try and talk about it this time? Im at a loss , please help
lemonlegs Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 You need to completely ignore him. It might not guarantee that he's going to come crawling back to you.. but at least that way you don't look needy. Plus, not talking and/or seeing someone for a period of time makes them miss you more. If he decides that he doesn't like his life without you, he'll let you know. Most importantly, not talking to him will allow you to move on.
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