wreckedhero Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 It's a text message saying are you not even saying hi to me anymore? She works days and I work nights at the same place so I see her for the briefest periods. I could have easily said hi to her and I admit it's a little immature but i've told her I dont want to be friends and I am not prepared to make small talk with her. So do I reply? Thanks
AlisaMarie Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 Nope, your silence is saying it all! Keep it up, stay strong.
geegirl Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 If you have to come on here and ask, then you know you should not answer because you know it is going to set you back. If you say you can't be friends, then show her you can't be friends. If you let her back in, you are showing her that your words and decisions mean nothing.
Kilty Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 You have already asked in another post about losing self respect - so you know exactly what will happen if you do. Lets look at the facts You sent this girl a letter telling her everything right ? Her response was that she didnt want a relationship, didnt feel the same as you but if she did in the future then maybe it would be you ? Have i got that right too ? You have already said to this girl that you cannot be friends with her if a relationship is off the table - Right ? So if that is right my friend - see it for what it is and GROW A PAIR OF TESTICLES I am not being insulting just trying to put things into perspective. This girl is not only trying to ease her conscience by trying to keep you in the friend zone after you have already told her you care way more for her than that to happen - but she is also ignoring what you have told her which equals not caring for your feelings. So we have concluded - she is not wanting to be chased or is in some way testing you to see how committed you are. She has told you she doesnt feel the same as you but maybe some time in the future she maybe want a relationship and it maybe might be you. How decent of her Now we both know you can only be friends with an ex if you have completely disconnected, dont love them in that way anymore, and can be civil, friendly and be happy for them even when they meet someone else. If you want to be that guy then by all means respond - howdy doody i'll give you what you want and be a kind of doormat Otherwise dont. And finally - in your case No Contact could be working in your favour. You are only interested if this girl comes to you and says "im sorry i feel the same way as you and want that relationship" Anything else is chicken crap breadcrumbs and you IGNORE it. No contact gets her thinking and not taking you for granted for starters Then see where it leads you And i hope for your sake you havent replied by the time it has taken me to post this !
california15 Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 heeelllll nooo don't reply! Why should you cater to her needs/wants/questions!? Shes obviously not catering to your healing needs if shes contacting you after you said you can't be friends right now. your healing is important - treat it that way!!! Put your feelings first because heaven knows shes not. She broke up with you and you're respecting it by going NC. Now its her turn to respect that you're not going to be in her life anymore. you said it yourself you're not prepared to make small talk with her. ignore.
Author wreckedhero Posted July 3, 2011 Author Posted July 3, 2011 She has contacted again. Another text telling me to get my dvd's from her post tray. I won't contact in the hope she will realise she misses me. I wont hold my breath though
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