Pierce85 Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 So my girlfriend and I have been together for over 4 months now. Lately I've been getting afraid that she's not being completely honest about certain things. She was in a sorority in college and she used to tell me about how she does NOT fit the stereotype, that she is a social drinker and was not big on going to parties. Since this conversation I've heard her mention things like going to spring break, her friends talked about how drunk she got on her 21st bday. While at a bar she told me about 2 guys that her and her friend met at that same place. The words she used were "We met these 2 guys and had a few drinks and did stuff them afterward..." She was trying to point out how it would be interesting if they bumped into her and her friend that night. This weekend, so far, she has been pretty adamant about not having sex. Late last night, I tried kissing her and getting intimate to kind of get things started, she literally turned over and went back to sleep. The next morning she explained that she was way too tired to do anything and couldn't hold her eyes open. I was ok with it, but we tried getting started again, but she said she was "too sore" to do anything. She said she didn't have any infections and didn't know why it was sore. She was supposed to meet with her parents this morning, so I figured she was either in a hurry to get going or there is actually something going on. Should I be concerned and how do I approach this situation?
Coil Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 It sounds like she is growing accustomed/adapting to sorority life. Your scenario sounds fishy and she seems shady. Why were you not with her on her 21st birthday?! Pretty messed up that she would tell you about drinking with these guys and "doing stuff with them afterwards". I'd really like to know know what she really did. I guess she did not have to tell you about those guys though, was she drunk or something when she told you? She could be on her monthly or be having some sort of female issues and not want to discuss them fully with you. But it is hard not to visualize some frat boys tearing that up and her being in a funk or something. Is this a long distance relationship or something? Honestly she does not sound that committed. Personally I would be concerned if in this situation.
robdrm32 Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 ehhh i'd say just cut ties bro. if she brought up a past instance of "doing stuff" with other guys and mentions how it'd be interesting if she bumped into them again... yea. I know its hard, and you want to rationalize things but its shady at best and your only 4 months in, if your having trouble now you might as well get out of there.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Weird... she sounds like more trouble than she is worth.
Author Pierce85 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 She's not 21 anymore, or in college for that matter. That party was long before she and I ever met. She's 23 now. All of these instances were discussed in past tense. Yes, she was drunk when she told me about the guys at the bar. The relationship is not long distance and we've been sexually active before this weekend, which is why it threw me off when she just didn't seem intent on it. Despite this, she was still pretty affectionate this weekend. The more I discuss this whole thing the more I feel like I'm being played.
Coil Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 She's not 21 anymore, or in college for that matter. That party was long before she and I ever met. She's 23 now. All of these instances were discussed in past tense. Yes, she was drunk when she told me about the guys at the bar. The relationship is not long distance and we've been sexually active before this weekend, which is why it threw me off when she just didn't seem intent on it. Despite this, she was still pretty affectionate this weekend. The more I discuss this whole thing the more I feel like I'm being played. sorry, i misread you post then. i dunno then. i do think that it is pretty odd that she would just tell you about that kind of stuff from the past. personally I would probably just give it some time. Maybe she was experimental or a bit wilder during college and she does not fit that mold now. we can all have our off days sexually etc. I'd probably just play it cool and go with the flow. If you start noticing more red flags then you might have an issue at hand. hope this helps and good luck!
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