My ex suddenly flipped the script... is he hurt? or was he acting?

[ConflictedGirl]

so recently my ex and I got back into communication after almost 3 months nc...when we first started talking again..which was initiated by me only with the intention of seeking closure..my ex cried his heart out telling me he wanted me back and he was in love with me I didn't expect this..shortly after we had a bad fight...and we slowly eased back into speaking again over the course of a week...after our fight I thought my ex may not speak to me again but..he killed that fear by letting me know he still felt the same and wanted us to work...i told him I think we should be friends and he told me he'll respect my decision..part of em really wanted him to fight for me because I can't lie I do miss him...the thing is he didn't... since then we only really speak if I initiate it although its only been a little over a week...he shows no real interest when just 2 weeks ago he was crying to me...after our fight I know I hurt him a bit and I'm not sure if he's going cold and pretending he wasn't hurt by it..or if he wasn't being serious when he said he was in love with me...in the past week or so since we said we would be friends...I've been seeing another guy...most we have done is kissed...and I know my ex has heard of it...I'm also sure he is most likely seeing someone else too although I have no proof...in reality if my ex showed me he was serious about us id stop talking to this new guy immediately...but he isn't showing me anything...and I can't hang on if there's no real chance so I'm trying to move on..i do know that me "moving on" could be a reason why my ex is pulling back so much...but I can't help but think he wasn't serious to begin with...last time I texted him he didn't answer although the day before he would start to text me for a little and then stop answering & its mind f***ing me...so I decided I guess I should pull back

 

just asking for an opinion though...do you think this may be him pulling back because he's hurt from the fight and me seeing someone new because his ego was damaged in both...or was he probably not serious to begin with? and from his behavior do you think he isn't interested at all or what? cause these signals are so mixed...

[Badenov]

He's probably in a state of flux: he doesn't know what he wants--or rather, what he wants changes day to day. Pull back until you both know for sure.

[Johnny85]

I think your ex is afraid of rejection. You clearly told him that you believe the two of you should be only friends. A person can only have his pride shot down so many times before accepting the reality of the situation. My take on his behavior is that he is giving you space because you keep on rejecting his proposal for getting back together.

[carhill]

So, presuming this ex and the one from June 2010 are different people, though it appears both endings have endured similar outcomes, what were the 'reasons' for breaking up? I'm unclear on that part, and it does have bearing on both 'hurt' as well as 'acting' and the resultant prognosis. Any insight?

 

My superficial analysis is that, as a man, I tend to cry with joy when a baby is born or someone near and dear gets married. Extrapolate from this perspective what you will, wrt your ex'es expression of his emotions.