amythan Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 (edited) Hi, After living nine years with my ex-bf I have been involved with someone who hurt me very badly - I posted here many times about this. Probably I was not even ready to have a relationship anyway. Now I am moving to a different town and despite I have some friends there I would like to expand my network. One of my friends living there knows lots of people and in particular he has this cute and cool friend that I would like to meet. I saw many pictures of both, and videos and I heard so much about him that I am curious and kind of interested. But my friend does seem that keen to introduce each other. I saw they are friends on FB and they do some cool things together but if my friend does not help me ... how can I get to meet this new guy ?? My other friends think that my friend has feelings for me so this is why he is not willing to help and if this is the case (and i think it could be true) I do not want to hurt him either ... Ideas ?? Edited July 2, 2011 by amythan
Nexus One Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 (edited) You will be putting your friend in a tough position if he is indeed into you. Scenario: Your friend has feelings for you. He refuses to introduce you to his other male friend, because he would hurt himself by doing that. He knows he couldn't deal with it if he saw you get involved with his male friend. As that is his close friend, he has no escape from what he is about to witness, i.e. the girl he's into getting involved with his close friend. Yet you intend to circumvent your friend in order to go for his close male friend. If you would have gone for any other guy besides people close to him, then he could have just stopped being friends with you and stop hanging around you in order to prevent himself from witnessing you getting involved with other men. However by going for his friend you take that option away from him. So you'd be putting him in a very tough position. If your friend is into you, then there's no question about if that course of action would hurt him. What you do with this possible scenario is up to you. Edited July 2, 2011 by Nexus One
Author amythan Posted July 2, 2011 Author Posted July 2, 2011 I haven't seen the situation as dramatic as you picture it here ... He is my friend from ten years go and he saw me involved with other guys and he never removed himself from the picture. He was always very possessive with me but he never made a move. I do not think they are best friends but both of them are expats and they use to do things together. But as he does not seem so thrilled to introduce each other, this is why i was trying to figure out how i can contact him myself
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