bson1257 Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 I am in my mid-twenties and I never had a girlfriend. My main reason for this is that I am 100% sure that if I ever did get a gf, I would be unable to satisfy her emotionally and physically and she would see other men. Maybe I am being paranoid and thinking that all women are cheaters, but in my case I am sure it would happen. Anyone else ever think like this?
Nexus One Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 (edited) In this day and age statistically roughly half of all men and women cheat, so both genders have a 1 in 2 chance of getting a decent partner. One thing you can do to increase your chances for a decent partner is to go for intelligent and/or educated individuals. Studies have shown that the higher educated a couple is, the more stable their relationship tends to be. So there seems to be a link between education(or intelligence and/or knowledge) and stable relationships. Edited July 2, 2011 by Nexus One
oldguy Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 I am in my mid-twenties and I never had a girlfriend. My main reason for this is that I am 100% sure that if I ever did get a gf, I would be unable to satisfy her emotionally and physically and she would see other men. Maybe I am being paranoid and thinking that all women are cheaters, but in my case I am sure it would happen. Anyone else ever think like this? WHAT!?! why do you feel this way? You need to talk to someone about this. Avoiding relationships because of a preconceived fear is irrational behavior, you now this, right? This is similar to; not flying or driving or going to the grocery store because of a phobia. The good news is; it can be fixed, so go get it "fixed", please
GoodOnPaper Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 I am in my mid-twenties and I never had a girlfriend. My main reason for this is that I am 100% sure that if I ever did get a gf, I would be unable to satisfy her emotionally and physically and she would see other men. Maybe I am being paranoid and thinking that all women are cheaters, but in my case I am sure it would happen. Anyone else ever think like this? While the average mid-20s age woman does have a lot more dating/sex/relationship options at her disposal than the average mid-20s age guy, it's probably going too far to assume that any and all women would cheat on you. Don't forget that satisfying your gf is only half of the relationship -- she also has to satisfy YOU. Even if you're not very good at attracting women, you still have every right to search for and have what YOU want in a gf and relationship -- losing sight of that has consequences. You asked if anyone else thought like this -- I developed a similar negative mindset. I've always been very bad at attracting women and the few gfs I had always ended up dumping me in the end, often because of another guy in the picture. Things got so bad that I developed a mindset that anytime I saw a girl that I that thought was really attractive, my internal kneejerk reaction was to figure that if I thought she was so attractive, so would a million other guys and I simply didn't want to deal with that kind of potential competition. So, how do you find a woman that is attractive enough to motivate you date, fall in love with, marry, etc. but whom you think other guys wouldn't want? You don't -- you settle and be unsatisfied or don't settle and be constantly unsure of yourself and the relationship. You have to remember that YOU are 50% of the relationship -- don't give that away without good reason. I can't really help with the how -- I never figured that out -- but I'm sure other posters have good advice about that.
shadowofman Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 I also have a fear that I will never be able to satisfy a woman emotionally. Mostly because I have bent over backwards in my last relationship of 8 years, did my very best and she still developed a LD EA. The only thing I may have been able to do better would be to be LESS honest, and I'm not really willing to do that. There are not too many women out there that can handle my mind.
oaks Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 It sounds more likely that she'll dump you because you're emotionally unavailable, you wont open up to her you won't trust her. Whether that drives her to cheating is hard to predict. Why don't you trust women? Why do you have such a low opinion of yourself that you don't think you can satisfy a woman? Not all women are cheaters - that's just stupid - but you're not paranoid in thinking that you're not currently in a position to have a lasting relationship. Get some professional help!
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