USMCHokie Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Over the past several months, I became really good friends with a few guys that I worked practically 24/7 with. These are your stereotypical "alpha" Marines who go out on weekends, get smashed, and get tail. Each Monday I'd hear tales of their conquests, which even included a threesome, and part me would get bitter that stuff like that never happened to me. I even ended a relatively short relationship I had with a girl partially because I was jealous of my friends and wanted to experience all of this and see if I was even able to do what they did every weekend. I never sowed my wild oats, so to speak, and it almost seems like something every guy is supposed to do... So now I'm torn...I kind of want that relationship again...but then again, as bad as it sounds, I kinda want to experience the other side... Guidance...?
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Because he is a weak BETA male with WANABE ALPHA men, real ALPHA needs no such things and real ALPHA would not disrespect a woman... unless in self defense.
krz12 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Why would you want that? No offense to your friends, but guys that have that mentality are usually scumbags. Why would you want to be like that? Because it makes you feel like a stud. Or I suppose it would if I could pull that off.
Author USMCHokie Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 Why would you want that? No offense to your friends, but guys that have that mentality are usually scumbags. Why would you want to be like that? No, I kind of agree with you on that, and I think that even they would agree with you too. These are genuinely good guys that just seem to be taking advantage of the fact that women want them...and it's not like the girls don't know what they're getting themselves into with these guys...they're adults too... I don't know why I'd want to be like that...maybe some sort of external validation that I'm actually desirable in that trashy sort of way...?
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 You are an IDIOT. You have no idea what MAN is....look deep within yourself bro, you will find it, but not with these ass farts these boys. Like THEY know who they are...
fitgirl Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Why would you want that? No offense to your friends, but guys that have that mentality are usually scumbags. Why would you want to be like that? they are yucky scumbags. so are the mysogynists posting here including mr. dream merchant, one goal, redrussian8080. is there a way to hide their posts? i can't stand em.
Author USMCHokie Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 Because he is a weak BETA male with WANABE ALPHA men, real ALPHA needs no such things and real ALPHA would not disrespect a woman... unless in self defense. Notice how I put alpha in quotation marks in the OP...I know the distinction...
SmileFace Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 You have been discussing sowing your wild oats for so long. Why just not do it and get it over with. If you wanted to be like these guys - you would have. If it is bothering you so much ,go ahead and play the role of "alpha marine male" and if that makes you happy, great! I really don't see why these guys are being labeled as scumbags but I don't care enough to actually care.
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Fitgirl wants to have sex with me and dump her loser chuppy boyfriend but she is too proud....
Author USMCHokie Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 You have been discussing sowing your wild oats for so long. Why just not do it and get it over with. If you wanted to be like these guys - you would have. If it is bothering you so much ,go ahead and play the role of "alpha marine male" and if that makes you happy, great! Because when I'm out with friends, especially them, I feel like I can't compete with them...insecurities rule the day... I really don't see why these guys are being labeled as scumbags but I don't care enough to actually care. Hahah, fair enough.
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 the crazy extreme feminist fitgirl with a chubby boyfriend here is the one who called them that...pay no attention.
SmileFace Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Because when I'm out with friends, especially them, I feel like I can't compete with them...insecurities rule the day... Do you own a mirror? Then again I understand the insecurity. I went from being the bag holding fat friend to having the same attraction level has my friends. Yeah, so I understand they can still rule
neowulf Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Well, I actually completely understand why this is confusing. Men are competitive by nature. Your buddies have turned 'Getting Laid' into a kind of a game. Of course you're going to be feeling behind the 8 ball. I facing the exact opposite. All my male friends are in long term relationships, getting married or starting families. I'm sitting here thinking "Geez... wtf have I been doing.. I should get my **** together and settle down". Thing is, what my friends are doing has *nothing* to do with where I'm at in my life or what I'm looking for. It's peer pressure man. Plan and simple. If it's starting to get to you, broaden your social circle a bit. Hang out with some people who are more serious about relationships. You'll find your attitude will rebalance. As for wanting to sow your wild oats, I think people project way too much negativity onto it. So you want to have a lot of sex with a lot of different women? So what? The kinds of girls who are going to hook up at a club are doubtful to be looking for a "long term commitment" anyway. We're all adults. So long as you're being upfront about what you want and not making empty promises to get girls into bed, go at it I say.
Dust Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 I don’t think you would enjoy it or you’d be doing it. I would feel dirty to just sleep with some random girl I didn’t have feelings for. If you are scared of women that is a completely different issue. I sense maybe that’s you problem. Why not go out to a club and just dance with a bunch of hot chicks, maybe make out with one on the dance floor. See how it feels. I like having a gf.
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 It's hard to see where you get all this time to write massive posts about nothing, is she sleeping from all day of hot sex?
Author USMCHokie Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 Do you own a mirror? Then again I understand the insecurity. I went from being the bag holding fat friend to having the same attraction level has my friends. Yeah, so I understand they can still rule Objectively speaking, I have always had attractive friends...and these few are abnormally so...so I often consider myself the ugly one in the group...
SmileFace Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Objectively speaking, I have always had attractive friends...and these few are abnormally so...so I often consider myself the ugly one in the group... I too have always surrounded myself with the beautiful people. I am not joking. I am actually serious. I have always been friends with the most popular girls and guys- I was cool by association..lol
delilah123 Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 Well, I actually completely understand why this is confusing. Men are competitive by nature. Your buddies have turned 'Getting Laid' into a kind of a game. Of course you're going to be feeling behind the 8 ball. I facing the exact opposite. All my male friends are in long term relationships, getting married or starting families. I'm sitting here thinking "Geez... wtf have I been doing.. I should get my **** together and settle down". Thing is, what my friends are doing has *nothing* to do with where I'm at in my life or what I'm looking for. It's peer pressure man. Plan and simple. If it's starting to get to you, broaden your social circle a bit. Hang out with some people who are more serious about relationships. You'll find your attitude will rebalance. As for wanting to sow your wild oats, I think people project way too much negativity onto it. So you want to have a lot of sex with a lot of different women? So what? The kinds of girls who are going to hook up at a club are doubtful to be looking for a "long term commitment" anyway. We're all adults. So long as you're being upfront about what you want and not making empty promises to get girls into bed, go at it I say. I like this post and agree with it. BTW guys like your mates arent scummy unless there is lying etc invovled, my best female friend is all about the one night stands so no broken hearts when she meets a guy like your friends.
make me believe Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 Sowing your wild oats is pretty over-rated in my opinion. I know because I did it before I got married. The sex is never actually that good.. it's so much better in a committed relationship! And the awkwardness afterwards.. bleh. Really think about what these guys are doing and then decide if it's what you truly want for yourself. Do you WANT random, casual sex with strangers you might never see again? Try to imagine how you'll feel the next day -- are you going to feel good about yourself, or will you feel kinda gross? I know cheap no-strings sex is desirable to some people, but it's definitely not for everybody. And again, I think the idea of it is usually much hotter than the reality of it. That being said, if you think it's something you really want to do then the only way to know is to try it. But do you do things like Dust suggested already? Dancing with girls, flirting, making out with them? If not, you're probably not going to jump right into the random sex so you may want to start there first and see if that satisfies your urge to sow your wild oats.
snug.bunny Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 I don't think a person should "go out and sow their wild oats" for the sake of "sowing their wild oats". I think it's something that kinda happens on it's own. Sometimes it's during a particular period of an individual's life, for whatever reasons, and other times it's because people are horny and just want sex.
musemaj11 Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 Life is short and you need to experience everything in order to know whether something is better than another.
Sanman Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 Forget most of the responses here and do what makes you happy. You're a young guy and if you feel the need it isn't going to be the end of your world. However, I have always lived by the philosophy of having fun, but recognizing when you have a catch. Crazy nights are great, but these guys are exaggerating and the truth is that for most guys most of those nights will suck. Maybe once a month you'll run into the right bar with the right girls. Oh, stay away from the Norfolk/Va Beach scene though. All anyone does there is sleep with someone's wife or gf.
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