xWhyMe Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 I was wondering, how long does a rebound relationship last? These are the circumstances... The guy is 16 and the girl that he is rebounding with is in her 20s. They've already been together 3 or 4 months. The girl knows that he JUST got out of a relationship, how does she not know that she's being used? Does she have low self esteem or something? & how long do they usually last? Thanks!
Geya Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 What ! It sounds ridiculous that he's only 16 and she's 20 something, he's still a teenager and sh'es an adult, I'd never go out with a 16 year old even though I'm a teenager too myself (19) Anyway yes I predict it'll end soon, rebound + weird age difference = bad. But you never know, why are you asking though what happened?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Yeah the age difference is sure to kill that relationship. Another thought to bring to mind as you mentioned "how can she not know she's being used?" well what if she is using him? we may never know. But with every rebound there is a chance, although it's slight, of it becoming long term.
Author xWhyMe Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 What ! It sounds ridiculous that he's only 16 and she's 20 something, he's still a teenager and sh'es an adult, I'd never go out with a 16 year old even though I'm a teenager too myself (19) Anyway yes I predict it'll end soon, rebound + weird age difference = bad. But you never know, why are you asking though what happened? Well, it's a very long story as to what happened. I'm too lazy to type it all out! I just wanted to know people's thoughts about the circumstances.
Author xWhyMe Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) Yeah the age difference is sure to kill that relationship. Another thought to bring to mind as you mentioned "how can she not know she's being used?" well what if she is using him? we may never know. But with every rebound there is a chance, although it's slight, of it becoming long term. Well, I've heard that she says she's all loyal and trustworthy and all that.. could she be lying to him. She also likes him BECAUSE of his childish ignorant, azzholish ways. He treats most people like sh*t for no reason and she seems to like that in him....what's wrong with her? Edited July 1, 2011 by xWhyMe
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 She also likes him BECAUSE of his childish ignorant, azzholish ways. He treats most people like sh*t for no reason and she seems to like that in him....what's wrong with her? she's either very immature for her age or he just gives her that "bad boy" vibe that women seem to love. Personally, I feel bad for both of them lol.
Author xWhyMe Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 she's either very immature for her age or he just gives her that "bad boy" vibe that women seem to love. Personally, I feel bad for both of them lol. Do you think people like that actually last very long?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 No they don't last long at all, typically both partners need to be somewhat on par with maturity level. There are some cases where both people can work past their differences in maturity level but I think you'll find it's rare. My guess is they will get out of the honeymoon phase and really start questioning whether they should actually be together. the honeymoon phase typically lasts about 3 months; however, they can range with couple to couple from anywhere between 3 weeks and a year. their honeymoon phase lasting a year is very unlikely and it's also unlikely for it to last 3 weeks.
Author xWhyMe Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 No they don't last long at all, typically both partners need to be somewhat on par with maturity level. There are some cases where both people can work past their differences in maturity level but I think you'll find it's rare. My guess is they will get out of the honeymoon phase and really start questioning whether they should actually be together. the honeymoon phase typically lasts about 3 months; however, they can range with couple to couple from anywhere between 3 weeks and a year. their honeymoon phase lasting a year is very unlikely and it's also unlikely for it to last 3 weeks. Well they've already lasted 3 weeks, lol. I just really don't see how people like him can be okay with hurting people, and going on with their lives...like they think that people actually don't have feelings like they can just hurt people without having any thoughts or feeling for it and they get away with it! That's what gets me...it's not suppose to happen like that man....
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 I don't think dumper's have the goal in mind to intentionally hurt the dumpee. They imagine a life without the dumpee and reinforce that image with reasons before they do the dumping. In short the dumper does it for them, not to hurt anyone.
Rory12345 Posted July 2, 2011 Posted July 2, 2011 It last as long as it will. It shouldn't matter to you. Whatever your ex is doing is no concern of yours. Just look after yourself! Regards, Rory
nana841121 Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 well, i was in a similar situation as u. The whole thing really wreacked my brain. even it has been over 5 months.i am still dealing with the residule anger and repulse. my ex is a 26-year-old newly-becoming college teacher. i broke up with him due to his hooking up with his 18-year-old freshman college student. I am not sure whether i overreacted, i felt the whole thing is utterly disgusting. (they had sex). i didn't make a scene out of it, but i feel so hurt emotionally. not just because he was boyfriend. but also the thing itself is abhorrent.
Author xWhyMe Posted July 3, 2011 Author Posted July 3, 2011 well, i was in a similar situation as u. The whole thing really wreacked my brain. even it has been over 5 months.i am still dealing with the residule anger and repulse. my ex is a 26-year-old newly-becoming college teacher. i broke up with him due to his hooking up with his 18-year-old freshman college student. I am not sure whether i overreacted, i felt the whole thing is utterly disgusting. (they had sex). i didn't make a scene out of it, but i feel so hurt emotionally. not just because he was boyfriend. but also the thing itself is abhorrent. See, I really don't want to me dwelling over this in the next 5 months. It's already been 3 months sense it's happened and I'm still angry about it. I know for a fact he's just using her to get over me because he actually asked me a question like this. "How does (our friends name) go without a girlfriend?" I won't tell my friends name. But he asked me that. So that made me think.. hmm I don't think he can be alone. But he didn't want to get back with me anymore.. he ended up being with someone else? Why didn't he just .. take me back instead? He said because he gave me too many chances.... no. He is the reason our relationship went down hill because he did something very stupid....KNOWING that I wouldn't be okay with it and that it would ruin us. So right there tells me he didn't care. I'm very angry about this and I just want to let it go. I was practically begging him to give me another chance, yeah that's my mistake I KNOW. But he was being a total a hole to me. Telling me to fk off and alot of other things. Just being stupid with me for NO REASON. I know in fact he still loved me because there are things I did that he didn't like. Like my ex contacted me and I spoke to him and he found out and got all angry and threw fits...couldn't understand why if he acted like he was so happy with his girlfriend. I'm actually the innocent one in this situation because I NEVER did anything wrong. He always assumed that I did. I'm sure now he's thinking whatever I don't need her and all that. He just doesn't even remember me anymore. =/ It's really f-ed up. I hope that chick he's dating gets caught and put in jail. -.- I know I'm the one that dumped him. But I still don't deserve something like this. I had a right to dump him. I was stupid for wanting to go back.
Gisele Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 I made (and sometimes still make) the big mistake of looking for signs that they're headed in a bad direction, or holding onto hope that they'll break up Honestly it feels like the more i wish they would, the stronger they get :/ Try to expect the worst honey. Expect them to last ages. Anything else means you'll just be sitting around waiting. I know it's really hard, but ive learnt the hard way that hoping and wondering are just things that happen in my head, doesn't have anything to do with what will happen Though if it makes you feel better, i dont believe what they've got going on will last long at all. If it makes it past 6 months i'll be shocked. Im 20 and i dont see how a 16 year old boy would be appealing at all :s Personally I find it pretty damn creepy. But don't wait for them to split up, remove yourself completely from the situation and go do whatever makes you feel better. Don't stay in contact with him, you'll only be letting him have his cake and eat it, not to mention boosting his ego. Go do something to boost your own Part of why you're still hung up on him and fixating on them is because he treated you poorly. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Really, really hope you start to feel better soon! 5 years from now you'll struggle to remember his last name
Author xWhyMe Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 I made (and sometimes still make) the big mistake of looking for signs that they're headed in a bad direction, or holding onto hope that they'll break up Honestly it feels like the more i wish they would, the stronger they get :/ Try to expect the worst honey. Expect them to last ages. Anything else means you'll just be sitting around waiting. I know it's really hard, but ive learnt the hard way that hoping and wondering are just things that happen in my head, doesn't have anything to do with what will happen Though if it makes you feel better, i dont believe what they've got going on will last long at all. If it makes it past 6 months i'll be shocked. Im 20 and i dont see how a 16 year old boy would be appealing at all :s Personally I find it pretty damn creepy. But don't wait for them to split up, remove yourself completely from the situation and go do whatever makes you feel better. Don't stay in contact with him, you'll only be letting him have his cake and eat it, not to mention boosting his ego. Go do something to boost your own Part of why you're still hung up on him and fixating on them is because he treated you poorly. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Really, really hope you start to feel better soon! 5 years from now you'll struggle to remember his last name Hehe, thank you so much there! ;D I really hope I get over it quicker then that. I was fine after the last couple of days it happened because I was just so full of hate. I hated him. Then I woke up one morning, and all that pain.....it was just too much. So I went through hell for a whole month and the beggining of June. I started to slowly get over it but sometimes the pain still comes back. I hope I'll be okay thou.
Mnesic Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Wow.. Well my ex rebounded onto a guy after 4 days of dating him and 2 weeks being broken up with me.. he told her everything her vulnerable ears wanted to hear and then he got what he wanted from her.. Shes tried contacting me lately but I ignore her contacted me 4 times. What you want to do is DONT CONTACT him that would just make him annoyed since he is dating someone else, nothing you can say at this point will come off as anything other than annoying and pathetic.. HERE A PRO LINK : http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=199355&page=1
Author xWhyMe Posted July 5, 2011 Author Posted July 5, 2011 Wow.. Well my ex rebounded onto a guy after 4 days of dating him and 2 weeks being broken up with me.. he told her everything her vulnerable ears wanted to hear and then he got what he wanted from her.. Shes tried contacting me lately but I ignore her contacted me 4 times. What you want to do is DONT CONTACT him that would just make him annoyed since he is dating someone else, nothing you can say at this point will come off as anything other than annoying and pathetic.. HERE A PRO LINK : http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=199355&page=1 Yes .. thank you I already ****ed that up thou. I contacted him and begged him to give me another chance and blah blah. Got told to **** off, die .. and all of this crap. So now he hates me and he doesn't want anything to do with me EVER. He probably doesn't even think of me. He just .. doesn't care anymore.
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