MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 I'm so sad. I can't seem to get all this out of my head. My ex is already in a relationship with a girl who practically lives with him. they play volleyball together 6 days a week and then on the weekends they go on dates, go to movies, go out, play golf, go hike/swim. They are attached. I don't think they will ever break up. They have been together for 2 months now and have already met each other's families. I am so freaking hurt. he tells me why he can't be with me and that I dont fit in to his lifestyle and that she does and that what they have is so easy and zero effort and just works. how did this happen? and how on earth will i ever get over this? I thought he was going to be my husband we had plans to marry. he's 32 and shes 23. i'm 30. how does that make sense? i guess he's going to end up marrying her. she must be his match. i'm not an athlete so i cant play volley ball the way he does and the way she does. i feel so hurt.
RuinedLife Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 I'm so sad. I can't seem to get all this out of my head. My ex is already in a relationship with a girl who practically lives with him. they play volleyball together 6 days a week and then on the weekends they go on dates, go to movies, go out, play golf, go hike/swim. They are attached. I don't think they will ever break up. They have been together for 2 months now and have already met each other's families. I am so freaking hurt. he tells me why he can't be with me and that I dont fit in to his lifestyle and that she does and that what they have is so easy and zero effort and just works. how did this happen? and how on earth will i ever get over this? I thought he was going to be my husband we had plans to marry. he's 32 and shes 23. i'm 30. how does that make sense? i guess he's going to end up marrying her. she must be his match. i'm not an athlete so i cant play volley ball the way he does and the way she does. i feel so hurt. I'm so sorry you are hurting so badly. I feel your pain. As I feel the same about my ex, I love him so much while he has long since moved on. I don't know for sure that he has a new girl friend, but seems very likely given how low on his list of priorities I've become. And it hurts so much because I spend every day thinking about him, crying and blaming myself for our break up. While he is out there, "happier without me" .. his own words. The pain is indescribable because I thought we were soul mates, he was my best friend and we had so much in common, but I ruined it all. Anyway, sorry I'm venting in your thread, I apologize. What I'm trying to say is you are not alone! I know it hurts like hell! Believe me I know! But we have to try and stay strong. We have to try and get through this. In time we will, we need to believe that no matter how hard it is. And one day we will find someone better for us. Someone more compatible, who will love us so much more than our ex who abandoned us so easily. Don't give up! *Hugs*
wilsonx Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 I'm so sad. I can't seem to get all this out of my head. My ex is already in a relationship with a girl who practically lives with him. they play volleyball together 6 days a week and then on the weekends they go on dates, go to movies, go out, play golf, go hike/swim. They are attached. I don't think they will ever break up. They have been together for 2 months now and have already met each other's families. I am so freaking hurt. he tells me why he can't be with me and that I dont fit in to his lifestyle and that she does and that what they have is so easy and zero effort and just works. how did this happen? and how on earth will i ever get over this? I thought he was going to be my husband we had plans to marry. he's 32 and shes 23. i'm 30. how does that make sense? i guess he's going to end up marrying her. she must be his match. i'm not an athlete so i cant play volley ball the way he does and the way she does. i feel so hurt. its the honeymoon phase of the relationship for both of them, what you dont realize is that she is going to hurt him really bad and he does not know it yet. dont beat yourself up over this, it might not last but at the same time, hey its better you got over this now before that ends and he tries coming back. I've learned from dating younger people is they want to get out and have fun before they settle down. Right now they are going to be all lovey dovey he will put everything he has into the relationship and she's going to hurt him. Dont believe me, read all the GIGS posts on this forum. I too had the same thing happen to me, thought it was going good and waaam out of nowhere she leaves me for a guy 14 years older then her. My best advice is heal yourself, worry about yourself, be happy with yourself and find someone thats going to treat you like you deserve. Not like this piece of garbage did. Go out and have fun and stop pining over it, think about the best time you had recently with yourself and try and do more with it
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