LadyFlame Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 As some of you are probably aware I had a date the other night with a much older guy - well, it went really well! Great dinner, great company. We told each other afterwards that we really like each other and even considered getting together but then I was like 'hell, no' because my biggest problem is that I always WITHOUT FAIL jump in because I'm so damn fast and can't control myself so I tried to do it the other way this time. This was a couple days ago. Anyway ... I'm starting to think there's no point. I asked him if he wanted to meet up yesterday and he said no, because he was doing something else. Then he told me he has family commitments for the weekend so I won't be seeing him. It's a bit obvious he's not interested in me, maybe he just likes having an attractive young girl on his arm. Not really sure why I'm bothering. I've taken the liberty to just cut him out, to be honest. So what do you reckon?
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 You said you wanted to take it slow for the first time since before you would jump on him on first date. Well he could see that, he is older and wiser, he seen more than you, so let's assume he was reading you right from experience. Then you slowed things down and he got confused. "What kind of game is she playing?" he thought. Not good ones, his inner mind answered. Did you try to make him earn it like no other man did before, is it fair to him? He feels too much work here and he moved on. No hot girl, nothing to make you feel better. He did just not like you. It's life no biggy, you will live.
Author LadyFlame Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 You said you wanted to take it slow for the first time since before you would jump on him on first date. Well he could see that, he is older and wiser, he seen more than you, so let's assume he was reading you right from experience. Then you slowed things down and he got confused. "What kind of game is she playing?" he thought. Not good ones, his inner mind answered. Did you try to make him earn it like no other man did before, is it fair to him? He feels too much work here and he moved on. No hot girl, nothing to make you feel better. He did just not like you. It's life no biggy, you will live. Well the thing is, we already slept together, as explained in other thread. It was after that when he started the whole "courting" thing. He did make it clear he has family commitments, etc, so no problem. But I feel like he's really not that fussed.
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) Older man will not respect a woman who sleeps with Men on first, second date. He will take it, but not respect it, live and learn. Text him a sexy text maybe with a pic. of your butt and see what he does. Edited July 1, 2011 by RedRussian8080
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 She is young and naive, let her be. I for one, was there from the beginning.
Author LadyFlame Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 She is young and naive, let her be. I for one, was there from the beginning. But you didn't see my other thread
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Fair enough. But key to all of this is you had sex with him way too soon for HIM to respect you or look at you in any serious mature way.
motive2002 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 I remember bits from your first thread. I agree with russian to a degree. Seems to me you talked about not going anywhere serious so maybe he saw it as a green light to easy, no-strings-attached sex. So far you aren't sending him any other signals to contradict that.
oaks Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Sounds like he's either not interested, or not interested now that you're pulling back towards a more chaste dating style. Could be that he's interpreting that (wrongly? rightly?) as lack of interest on your part. Anyway, tell me about the restaurant. Is it date-worthy?
RedRussian8080 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Yes, I would have to agree with RedRussian as well.
Author LadyFlame Posted July 2, 2011 Author Posted July 2, 2011 Sounds like he's either not interested, or not interested now that you're pulling back towards a more chaste dating style. Could be that he's interpreting that (wrongly? rightly?) as lack of interest on your part. Anyway, tell me about the restaurant. Is it date-worthy? OMG @ Motive, but how could I seriously say I wanted anything serious after the first date?!?!?! Oaks, yes definitely date-worthy, 6 course meal Well he has been texting me all day etc but he's not being obsessive like me so I assume he's not that interested?
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