andyg99 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 OK, humor me folks - I need to vent a bit Pop Quiz: You're a guy - you meet a woman on-line, she's attractive and seems nice (although she lives about 1500 miles away).. a few mails, then calls and during a discussion you ask her what her situation is and she replies with the following: "well, I live with my ex husband - not my recent ex husband but the guy before him... I moved in because after my divorce I was broke and had a failing business, we have 2 beautiful girls together and he let me move in with my son (who he loves as his own) because we had nowhere to go. He treats me very kindly and has been patient, he never pressured me and gave me my space as I was dealing with my most recent divorce. He loves me and I did tell him I loved him too and wanted to build a life together. I agreed that if I wanted to be truly sigle again I'd let him know and find my own place. He stressed to me not to waste him time and play with his heart again. So I met you on-line while still living with him knowing how he feels about me... when I fly out to meet you he thinks I'm driving up to be with a girlfriend! Oh and BTW, he helped me re-build my business, he takes care of my son and I never gave him a dime in rent and I'm still broke... I can' wait to see you!" So you're the guy, your repsonse would be: a.) "wow - I can't wait to see you too!" b.) "1500 miles away! I don't care if you were 30,000 miles a way, you're my soulmate!!!" c.) "I can't wait to be the next guy to take care of you and then get dumped!" d.) "are you f-n serious? what's your problem? how the f can I top that??!! stay away from me"
wilsonx Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 OK, humor me folks - I need to vent a bit Pop Quiz: You're a guy - you meet a woman on-line, she's attractive and seems nice (although she lives about 1500 miles away).. a few mails, then calls and during a discussion you ask her what her situation is and she replies with the following: "well, I live with my ex husband - not my recent ex husband but the guy before him... I moved in because after my divorce I was broke and had a failing business, we have 2 beautiful girls together and he let me move in with my son (who he loves as his own) because we had nowhere to go. He treats me very kindly and has been patient, he never pressured me and gave me my space as I was dealing with my most recent divorce. He loves me and I did tell him I loved him too and wanted to build a life together. I agreed that if I wanted to be truly sigle again I'd let him know and find my own place. He stressed to me not to waste him time and play with his heart again. So I met you on-line while still living with him knowing how he feels about me... when I fly out to meet you he thinks I'm driving up to be with a girlfriend! Oh and BTW, he helped me re-build my business, he takes care of my son and I never gave him a dime in rent and I'm still broke... I can' wait to see you!" So you're the guy, your repsonse would be: a.) "wow - I can't wait to see you too!" b.) "1500 miles away! I don't care if you were 30,000 miles a way, you're my soulmate!!!" c.) "I can't wait to be the next guy to take care of you and then get dumped!" d.) "are you f-n serious? what's your problem? how the f can I top that??!! stay away from me" Andy, the choice you make is about you. Your a great guy but you need to seek validation of this and other things in your life from yourself, not from others. I really suggest that you read this book http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Past-Your-Breakup-Devastating/dp/0738213284/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1309538240&sr=8-1 In there, there is a section talking about affirmations and I will tell you this book has changed my life about how I see things and has helped me become a happier person then I was before I started dating my ex
RuinedLife Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 OK, humor me folks - I need to vent a bit Pop Quiz: You're a guy - you meet a woman on-line, she's attractive and seems nice (although she lives about 1500 miles away).. a few mails, then calls and during a discussion you ask her what her situation is and she replies with the following: "well, I live with my ex husband - not my recent ex husband but the guy before him... I moved in because after my divorce I was broke and had a failing business, we have 2 beautiful girls together and he let me move in with my son (who he loves as his own) because we had nowhere to go. He treats me very kindly and has been patient, he never pressured me and gave me my space as I was dealing with my most recent divorce. He loves me and I did tell him I loved him too and wanted to build a life together. I agreed that if I wanted to be truly sigle again I'd let him know and find my own place. He stressed to me not to waste him time and play with his heart again. So I met you on-line while still living with him knowing how he feels about me... when I fly out to meet you he thinks I'm driving up to be with a girlfriend! Oh and BTW, he helped me re-build my business, he takes care of my son and I never gave him a dime in rent and I'm still broke... I can' wait to see you!" So you're the guy, your repsonse would be: a.) "wow - I can't wait to see you too!" b.) "1500 miles away! I don't care if you were 30,000 miles a way, you're my soulmate!!!" c.) "I can't wait to be the next guy to take care of you and then get dumped!" d.) "are you f-n serious? what's your problem? how the f can I top that??!! stay away from me" Is © sarcastic?? If not (d). Also aren't (a) and (b) pretty much the same thing and on the same level of ridiculousness?
Art_Critic Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Given those choices it would be "D" and maybe "C" with it... To me the woman is NOT dateable.. she still is involved with her ex and it's obvious that there is more there than the sharing of a child.
Author andyg99 Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 Andy, the choice you make is about you. Your a great guy but you need to seek validation of this and other things in your life from yourself, not from others. I really suggest that you read this book http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Past-Your-Breakup-Devastating/dp/0738213284/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1309538240&sr=8-1 In there, there is a section talking about affirmations and I will tell you this book has changed my life about how I see things and has helped me become a happier person then I was before I started dating my ex you're 100% right... but like I said this post was more of a venting and to the other replies, yes the first 3 choices were sarcastic! I know that in the early days we need a little validation, it's probably good so we don't beat up on oursleves, of course if a month later I'm still dwelling on it and not working on myself I would be concerned... I already know that what I did was a good thing, and going in I knew the romance thing may not work but she abused my trust by not getting out on her own before looking elsewhere... BTW - I'm planning on hanging out here for about a month, to use this as a place to go when I feel bad about her.... your replies are usually spot on! keep posting my friend!
Feelin Frisky Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 None of the above. I wouldn't get carried away with anyone that far away. It's nuts.
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