Crystal92 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) Hi.....I really want my ex boyfriend back but he treats me like I dont exist. It's really starting to get to me. U see we started off as friends nothing more he had a crush on me ever since we were in the 4th grade. Some odd and crazy things happen in my life and he always seem to be there. The only thing is he got a girlfriend and they went together for 3 years......Now dont get me wrong I didnt try to break them up EVER. I really liked her she was cool. The thing is I back off and went my seperate way until last summer I came back around. Now heres the thing he hit rock bottom right after the summer he had no job no car no money at all PERIOD!!! His girlfriend basically started going to other guys for attention and his friends well disappered cuz he was always sad. So I didnt mind being there for him. So his mom made him join the army either that or get out....I drove him over 40 miles to the recruiter everyday almost. Then in Feb. he got into the army....in march at basic she called tellin him I just wanna have fun and broke up with him.....He was about to go crazy so I wrote to him EVERY SINGLE day...He wrote in his letters for me not to leave him becuz he knows I got his back....During his graduation me and his mother was the only ppl to go at all. So the last night we were about to eave he started to cry (sounds gay but true) he told me how much he loved me and how he wanted us to be together...I asked him so many times was he sure and I asked him was he truly over her he looked me dead in the eye and said I swear to god on my moher I am...So we got together...As soon as he got to A.I.T what do u know she popped back up...I told him I didnt like them being so close he got angry and said I was actin crazy so I ended it not even two days he got back with her....Now he doesnt have time for me he curses me out on a regular he always angry he blames EVERYTHING on me. Yesterday we had an arguement he showed her everything and she made a facebook stat about me begging him and I looked stupid smh...I asked did he love me and he said NO!! and blocked me from facebook.....I feel like she has won and she didnt do anything but leave him...You guys I feel hurt and used what should I do money really changed him..my friends are his friends so they are sayin just leave him alone he will come around and apologize.....What should I do deep down I still do love him and I wanna be back with him but he has some serious changes to make.....PLEASE HELP HAS THIS HAPPEN TO ANYONE BEFOREIm not yellin either just in all caps) Edited July 1, 2011 by Crystal92
Geya Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Crystal what he did was terrible, you don't deserve this. I think when she came back those feelings he had for her came up & when your heart is with someone no matter how great the other people you meet are, you won't see it because you're way too into that person, I think that's the case with him, you're great and you should'nt compare yourself to her, no matter what you did if his feelings were with her there's nothing you can do about it & it doesn't mean that she won or she's better in any way, plus he doesn't seem like a prize to win honestly he treated you bad who's to say he won't treat her bad either? Don't try to understand why he chose her over you I don't think you ever will because love is just like that sometimes it's blind and it doesn't necessarily have a reason. I think you should just move on to someone better and someone who will always choose you over anyone else.
PegNosePete Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 She has "won" him? Well what a prize that is. That's like winning a bite from a snake. What an arsehole douchebag this guy is. Why on earth would you want someone like that? Just NC him and find someone who will respect you. There are plenty of decent guys out there but he is not one of them.
thelovingkind Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Sounds like you were in the female equivalent of a friend zone. Nice to have around when the going is tough but get shed fairly easily when life picks up again. Honestly though if you think the concept of a guy expressing emotions for you "sounds gay" then you're probably not mature enough for a grown up relationship anyway.
Author Crystal92 Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 Sounds like you were in the female equivalent of a friend zone. Nice to have around when the going is tough but get shed fairly easily when life picks up again. Honestly though if you think the concept of a guy expressing emotions for you "sounds gay" then you're probably not mature enough for a grown up relationship anyway. wow ok thanks u like hurtin my feelings also thanks for the advice though
azsinglegal Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) Sounds like you were a rebound. He used you. Move on. There are plenty of other guys out there who won't use and abuse you. You need to value yourself more as a person. Why would you want someone back that treated you so crappy? Look in the mirror and ask yourself that. I sure as heckfire wouldn't want someone who treated me that way. Bottom line, he doesn't want you. You were convenient for him. You were there when no one else was and he used you. Take a deep breath. Value yourself. Move on. I've said it before and I'll say it again, "Why make someone a priority, who only has you as an option". Live by it. Edited July 1, 2011 by azsinglegal
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