reds2010 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) Last week I was at a bar and I saw this group of girls- one was attractive, one was ok and another was very heavy-set. Anyways, they all seemed to be eyeing me and showing some interest. I went over and talked to them (lots of guys were talking to them) and I gravitated towards the most attractive of the group. After a few minutes of talking she gave me her number/ put her name in my phone and told me to friend her on facebook. The next day I friend requested her and didn't think much of it. I didn't check my email for a few days but about 2-3 days later she messaged me and poked me on facebook. Once I saw that I decided to text her, seeing what she was up to- she said she was going to a club and I said "maybe we'll run into each other tonight." She said ":) that would be nice" Long story short I couldn't get my friends to go out to the club- at 3 AM I get two texts from the girl saying "lame :(" The next day I responded "how can I fix being lame?" and she responds "haha no worries." Then a few hours later she responds again "how do you think you could." I didn't have my phone and she responded again with a question mark, awaiting my response. I then said that I think we should hang out and she agreed. The next day I asked her out to dinner/drinks. She said she would go early on in the day. She asked me a lot of questions about what I did for a living/etc. Then she justs sends me a random ;-) in the middle of the day. I made a couple jokes and she kept saying that I was silly (haven't heard too many girls say that). That night I set a time/place for dinner and she then said "isn't that far from where you live?" And then- "I'm gonna meet up with my gf wanna meet up after?" Then I asked when you want to meet up and she didn't respond. Turns out she was at a bar pretty close to where I live. Finally at about midnight (I had to get up early) I went back to her and said "lame" like she did to me. She goes "don't be like that" and I couldn't tell if she was joking or not. Next day she emails me and said that she "lost my number" and I gave it back to her and she said "I will text you." A few days later of no talking I asked her how she was doing and she was somewhat brief- very short text conversation (maybe she was busy). What do you think about this? Too many mixed signals... I don't know what direction to go in- either relationship/hookup buddy/friend. Obviously relationship requires a lot of bonding which is not looking like it is happening (turning down dinner puts things in hookup buddy/ friend category in my opinion). I am fine with that but I just want to have a better idea of what direction to go in. Does it sound like there is some attraction at least physical? Any chance to salvage anything out of it? I feel that when push came to shove she didn't end up hanging out (it was on a Monday night though), or was she just trying to get back at me for the other night? I just want to get some ideas of how to proceed. It hasn't even been a week but I just want to get a better idea of what direction to go in. Thanks Edited July 1, 2011 by reds2010
motive2002 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Alright.. right off the bat the whole "she lost your number" sounds like a flat out lie. People store numbers into their phone nowadays, especially if it's someone you've just met. So take that for whatever you will... Now, if I were to analyze the rest it could be a number of different things. * Her level of interest wasn't that high to begin with * She felt blown off by the club thing and is playing games * She's got other men on the line I think the third choice is likely if she was the most attractive of the bunch like you say. Gotta strike when the iron is hot and maybe you blew it with the first meetup you missed. But then you only just met. Doesn't sound like any sort of strong connection was established. If it were me I would let it go and keep all your options open. The dating world has a lot of near misses. This could be one of them. Life goes on.
Author reds2010 Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 Yeah, that's for sure that no strong connection was established. I feel that if I had a chance to hang out with her I could make a lot stronger connection, but getting to that point is the problem. The iron cooled off too long I think, should have struck early. I have no idea how to interpret the "lost my number" comment. I mean she just emailed me out of the blue on that. Her facebook status was "why does my phone hate me?" Who knows... I am just confused since she initiated the talking most of the time, but its a weird situation.
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