Lilmisus Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Tonight, I had a great second date with Mr. Cute Guy Went to the movies (I was running thirty minutes late..or rather, he was thirty minutes early), and he paid for the tickets before I was even on the road, and then we went out for pizza which was right across the street. Throughout the entire movie, we held hands and he would tickle me every now and then, and it was just sweet and fun. After, when we went out to the pizza place across the street, I met his best friend who works there, who gave us 50% off, and bought him a beer. We talked about how he was glad that he got my number two weeks ago, and I told him I was glad too, especially since I never give my number to guys. What really impressed me though, was the fact that he tipped the server (even after poor service) $5 on our $10 bill (originally $20 - $15 if you only count the pizza we paid for since his friend gave him $5 for the beer). It was a huge turn on for me to see him tip so well, since you had to pull my ex's arm to have him leave 10%, and I'm a big believer in tipping great regardless of the service. After, we walked outside (to talk to his friend some more, then to my car) with our arms wrapped around each other, he pointed out the sunset to me, and when we got to my car, we kissed a couple times. And...I felt nothing. Truth be told, with the first kiss with my ex, I felt zilch as well, but for the kisses after that, there were fireworks and it took my breath away each and every time, even if I was furious and hurt at the time. Regardless, it was kind of disappointing to not feel anything with our kiss, even though he pulled me close to him and I enjoyed being so close to him, enough so to want to stand there for a few seconds longer than expected. So question: how many of you feel a "spark" during the first kiss? Is it a bad sign if you don't feel anything when you kiss or is that just something silly that isn't true for everyone? I'm not fretting too much over this, but still, it's great to get view points.
Cee Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 I usually don't feel sparks with the first kiss. I am too nervous to enjoy myself. But it hasn't mattered in the slightest in terms of a future relationship. But that's just me.
kiss_andmakeup Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 I usually don't feel sparks with the first kiss. I am too nervous to enjoy myself. But it hasn't mattered in the slightest in terms of a future relationship. But that's just me. This. I had my first kiss with the guy I'm dating on our second date as well. I was nervous and jittery, and I remember not really feeling "sparks." We had amazing chemistry otherwise though, and once I was more comfortable with him, the sparks definitely came.
numerical25 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) This is a mans opinion . To create a spark in a kiss is almost like magic. Literally. It takes a optical illusion. Its for the fact that you were in his car that you felt nothing, of course it will be dull. A kiss is all about the moment and where your at. If your at a dance club dancing your ass off and he picks you up and wraps your legs around him and your feeling the song that is playing, I bet you will feel something. Or at the fair grounds on a ride that is extremely fun and he kisses you then. Because there is adrenaline in it. Its all about where you are and the moment. Kissing in a car isn't too romantic. Its all about perfect timing and the moment. My advice is get over it. Kissing and having sex is a whole different thing. And if the sex is good then you will feel it then lol. first times means nothing. There will be plenty of times and moments where you will feel a kiss was alot better then the last. If you want to feel a spark. go to the fairgrounds, get on a ride that is fun or something and just start making out. I bet it will be alot more enjoyable. 4th of july weekend is coming. go there and kiss under the fireworks. if there isnt sparks there, atleast you will see some in the sky Edited July 1, 2011 by numerical25
Knittress Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) Generally, at first I'm so weirded out by being with a new person that I don't enjoy kissing/sex all that much. At first I thought that everyone in the whole world were bad kissers (at first) until I decided to go on a make-out rampage at parties and found that I'm like that with EVERYONE. It turns out that I don't get much out of being physical with someone without quite a bit of history/intimacy/connection built up beforehand. Something I find annoying... Edited July 1, 2011 by Knittress
OliveOyl Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 I felt a lot of sparks with the first kiss with my BF, and it took me by surprise. However this needs to be taken in context. It was literally my first "first kiss" in 19 years, so, maybe that had something to do with it. My BF is a very good kisser and there's just something about his touch that stirs me.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Sparks for sure if it's someone I've been fancying for a while but finally got to date. I hate finding out that the feeling wasn't mutual so I don't engage unless I have a good vibe that it's time. Did this guy make it too easy for you?
musemaj11 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Whats with the obsession with first kiss? I judge someone by how well we get along and how much attraction I have for her, not by some stupid first kiss. But I dont know if this girl is some 18 or 19 year old in which case I understand for the silliness.
rafallus Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Whats with the obsession with first kiss? I judge someone by how well we get along and how much attraction I have for her, not by some stupid first kiss. But I dont know if this girl is some 18 or 19 year old in which case I understand for the silliness. I agree, kiss is (or should be at least) basically a by-product of that attraction. Honestly, I don't care about kissing that much, even playing tricks it gets kinda boring after several (or maybe more like 30, I'm not quite that bored to look at watch while kissing) seconds.
Author Lilmisus Posted July 1, 2011 Author Posted July 1, 2011 Ahh, it's good to hear that I'm not alone, and that this isn't out of the ordinary by any means And to correct someone's comment I read...we were standing outside my car, not inside his. But my ex and I could just be standing at work, out in the parking lot, in my car, wherever, and I'd feel like I was on fire with just the simplest kiss..to go from that to nothing is kind of disappointing, ya know? But I'm not going to look too deeply into this, and just have fun with it for now. After all, besides for not really feeling anything, this was probably up there with "best dates." But..I'm huge on the kissing, and I'm just hoping that the second, third, or even fourth time there will be something there, rather than feeling like I'm just kissing my hand.
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