valente26 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 she initiated no contact, change her number, blocked me on facebook, met sum1 else after 4 years together. ive gone 4 weeks n/c really hard aint heard a peep from her. really having a hard time now any words of advice guys im struggling
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 sounds like my ex anyway if you get the impression that she hates you, well love and hate are two sides of the same coin. and honestly, why would she go through the trouble of changing her number, blocking you on FB, and initiated NC on her own? she harbors some sort of emotion towards you (don't try to contact her or get her back, this is just to make you feel good). Keep doing NC and focus on your hobbies, go out with friends and meet new people. 3.5 years with my ex and we've been broken up for 3 months now. It does get better just keep at it.
andyg99 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 she initiated no contact, change her number, blocked me on facebook, met sum1 else after 4 years together. ive gone 4 weeks n/c really hard aint heard a peep from her. really having a hard time now any words of advice guys im struggling I'm on day 2 of round 2 (with over a dozen years between rounds!).... my strength comes from the fact that I got over her once and came through with flying colors - it's helping me now... you will be fine... KEEP BUSY - IT WORKS!!!
Ace82 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Hey guys, I broke NC today just to find out if there was any chance of getting back. I actually just wanted to talk to her and hear her voice. By the end of the convo she asked me if i was dating/talking/seeing anyone... i mentioned that i was working on things in my life so currently no. On the other hand she told me she met someone and was currently talking to them on the phone... This ripped my heart in two again.... Ive gone out with her for 7yrs and known her for 8yrs. Its been 3weeks NC and during that time she met someone and is currently moving on. Believe me, if i had not found out this news i would have been pinning over her for the next few weeks. I cant believe she found someone and is comfortably talking to them possibly seeking another relationship this fast. Im heart broken, but in the end I nor any of you need those people in your life. I have a new out look and it will be tough.. but ive been here searching for answers and sharing my stories in hope of maybe her wanting to reconcile... but now i know the truth and im hurt that she would be looking to move on this quickly after a 7yr relationship.... No one deserves this just look after yourself. There is no reason to feel like this esp because someone has fallen out of love with you. Learn to love yourself and someone else will love you too. My regards Friend
delux Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 The key to get her back or to move on (whatever you preffer) is to remember that you are BETTER person even if you are single. First you have to believe it, then you have to live it. I mean - prove to yourself (this way you will prove to everyone else including your ex) that you ARE BETTER. And believe me - you really are. If you can get out of the post break up misery by yourself than you are stronger and better than her, him or anyone else. When you do it - she will see it and then you will have the upper-hand, because everyone is attracted to the stronger people. (I mean - people who are independant, self-controlled, determined etc.)
nikkinicole36 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I'm so sorry you are going through this. A breakup like this can be the most painful gut wrenching experience in the world. What I've realized through my own most recent breakup is that if someone can break up with you after a long-term or seriously committed relationship and get right into a new relationship in no time flat, then it's usually an indicator that the person has some sort of commitment issue. Yes they have a head start on the breakup since they did the breaking. However it is just not healthy to jump into a new relationship without down time in between to sort out one's emotions. Most of those relationships usually wind up being rebounds or they wind up ending the exact same way yours did. It seems unfathomable to believe that the person you love could just cut you off and out of their life as though you never exsisted, but there are so many people out there with unresolved issues just going from relationship to relationship never learning and breaking hearts. Keep sticking to the no contact. It will get better.
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