netchannels Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 So there is this girl who broke up with her ex few months ago and he is attempting to get her back. I know this girl for about a year now, but over the past 2 months we started hanging a bit more and flirting quite a bit. So on my birthday I got drunk and took her hand and locked it in mine and she did not resist at all. My friend asked her if she liked me and she had very neutral reaction to it (but usually when someone suggests that someone might be interested in her or suggests she might be interested in some she does not like she has a disgusted look on her face) We were supposed to party the next day, but she said, she had food poisoning and excused her self (or so she claims). because he ex does not like us hanging out to much and gets involved in her life way to much. But after that we started hanging out again her flirting has increased, and she posed a question one asking "We are just doing this as friends ryt?" and I did not give her a direct answer. She later also suggested I had feelings for her, But I did not respond to it. Later when we hung out she made a joke (in what my friend calls a passive aggressive way) that I'm horny when I'm drunk (probably referring to my birthday, after a month after it happened). So she opened up to my friend one day and told how she was hurt from her previous relationship and how from a young age she could not trust any one. She also said right now she does not want to date anyone. So I decided to stop flirting with her. So I called her the other day to confirm our plans of hanging out and did not flirt at all but was quite cut and dry, and she attempted to carry the convo, but I did not. So when we meet up the next day she was very very flirty with me, she also meet my brother for the first tym that day, and she was telling me how I had the looks in the family and I'm a generally a good looking guy in a very flirty way, and she was punching tickling and what not, like how we usually do. She flirty by nature but with me she is over the top flirty in a sexually way as well (bitting and licking her lips sometimes). My friend thinks she might like me, but she want to wait it out, and get to know me better and for her to completely recover before we get involved. or could she boasting her confidence by flirting. I mean she will come clothes shopping with me sometime and pick clothes out for me like my gf, and we share desert and food like a couple, and every time we walk by victoria secrets she will say something like I need to get some stuff from here.what do you think?
GymBrah Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Time in this thread: Phaggy. Not sure if you're serious brah. Does it matter if she likes you? No. Ask her out. I don't know that chick. I can tell you that if she was over the top flirting with me (could all be in your head) that i would ask her out. So ask her out. There is no magic ball thats gonna say for sure if she likes you or not. You need to just take a chance. And don't stop flirting with her. Thats known as playing games. And any reasonable adult will probably stop talking to you over it. Good luck. Step your game up.
Realitycheck1 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I'm going to save you a lot of time: She is not interested in you. Period. End of discussion. She is using you as both a girlfriend and a soundboard for her attention shoring. A very simple experiment you can try is this: Next time you're with her, try to remain fully objective and not rationalize or explain away her actions, then think about how she would act if she were together at that moment with one if her girlfriends instead if you. If you can picture the social dynamic being somewhat similar, then you will know that you're her girlfriend. By the way, though not absolutely impossible, it is highly, HIGHLY unlikely that she will ever see you in any other light. Initial sexual interest in a woman is almost always a one-shot deal. If it's not there, it's not going to be there in the future; furthermore, the more time you spend trying to ingratiate yourself will only serve to cement her sexual disinterest in you.
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