tigressA Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 "You're my only one." When exactly did this gain an insulting connotation? I guess I should cringe the next time my SO calls me his one and only. Discuss.
threebyfate Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 That's odd. Did someone tell you this was a red flag? IMO, it's not a flag.
Author tigressA Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3485460#post3485460 I was just like...really?
iris219 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 "You're my only one." When exactly did this gain an insulting connotation? I guess I should cringe the next time my SO calls me his one and only. Discuss. It depends on the context and who says it. When you emphasize the word ONLY and it is said by someone you're not exclusive with, this is not a good sign. If your BF says it, totally different context and meaning. Being with someone because you're their only option is not a compliment. Being with someone who decided to make you their only option is different.
GymBrah Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Some people be stoopid. Get over it.http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3485460#post3485460 I was just like...really?
threebyfate Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Thanks. Reading the comment in context, now makes more sense. I can see her perception and it's possible it has validity. But I just don't happen to agree.
conehead Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 (edited) "You're my only one." When exactly did this gain an insulting connotation? I guess I should cringe the next time my SO calls me his one and only. Discuss. Haha taken from my thread indeed Edited June 30, 2011 by conehead
heartshaped Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 It depends on what the person meant. I think the poster meant it was a red flag in the sense that when the guy said it he meant she was his only one because he had no other options and thus was settling for her. I'm almost positive that's not what he meant when he said it, but I have been wrong before.
Author tigressA Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 Thanks. Reading the comment in context, now makes more sense. I can see her perception and it's possible it has validity. But I just don't happen to agree. I don't agree either. I can't imagine someone saying that and really meaning that they have no other options. It's commonly known as something sweet and romantic that you say to someone you're dating.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Personally, I'd feel more warm & fuzzy being told that I was their "only one" than their "number one," which implies that there are others - but I'm the favorite.
Author tigressA Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 Personally, I'd feel more warm & fuzzy being told that I was their "only one" than their "number one," which implies that there are others - but I'm the favorite. Again, agreed. I feel like being told I'm number one would be more conditional, in a sense--like "Hey, if you do something I don't like then someone else is #1, but as long as you're cool, you'll stay there." Whereas being someone's only one, to me, means that they don't want to bother with anyone else because they are so enamored with me.
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