Elisa89 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 So my best friend got to know a guy and they were dating for two months. They finally had the exclusivity talk(initiated by him) but a week later he left for a two week vacation. She texted him the night before he left asking if they could speak in the morning so she could wish him a save journey. He never replied. So she called him in the morning but he didn't answer his phone. So basically he left without saying goodbye. She was really upset about this, especially since there was no possibility for communication during the vacation as he was on a kayaking trip in Canada. Now he's been back for 3 days and hasn't contacted her. She's asking me for help. But I'm just so confused by his actions myself, he seemed like a great guy who was really into her. Any take on this situation would be very helpful as I'm trying to help her get through this mess.
Cee Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 If that happened to me, I would be very upset and consider us broken up. His actions showed that he has completely abandoned the relationship. I think a no goodbye before the trip could be excused away, "I turned off my phone before the trip." But not calling right after the trip is terrible. I'm sorry for your friend, but her best bet is to cut her losses and move on. It's possible he'll call soon, but I can't imagine how he could explain his absence adequately. He might have seemed like a great guy, but obviously something is off with him.
Author Elisa89 Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 I'm pretty sure there's something up with him. He's an overthinker who tries to take into account every little detail in every situation, so he might have second thoughts about the relationship. I just don't know. I think she should probably contact him herself and ask all the question that are on her mind right now because I believe she won't be able to move on with all those open questions. But then again I can imagine that she'll fall for any stupid excuse he'll make. So I don't know if it's such a good idea in the end.
GymBrah Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Lmao he was prolly smashing with HECKA bishes in canada. Never been but i'm sure theres some doable mountie chicks or something. Unless he has a plausible excuse for why he didn't reply i would dump him. And why you know so much about your friends Bf? Are you your friend?
Cee Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 It's too bad if she calls him and falls for his excuses. But remember, you can't save your friend from heartbreak. She's got to learn from her own mistakes. Hopefully, she can be level headed and detached from what BS he tries to feed her.
Author Elisa89 Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 Unless he has a plausible excuse for why he didn't reply i would dump him. And why you know so much about your friends Bf? Are you your friend? Because she is my best friend and we tell each other pretty much anything. So I don't really know that much about him from my own experience, it's just what she tells me. It's hard for me to advice her to dump him since I've seen how happy she was after they had the exclusivity talk. But I really really want her to tell him how inappropiate his behaviour was. If he's not willing to talk to her about his reason, then there's no other possibility but dump him.
Recommended Posts