Author CurlyIam Posted April 21, 2004 Author Posted April 21, 2004 Originally posted by EnigmaXOXO "Protects" you from what??? from giving up to quickly. Divorce papers, expensive lawyers and court usually make you want to try harder on your marriage.
Author CurlyIam Posted April 21, 2004 Author Posted April 21, 2004 I did burn my fingers last time, so maybe I won't try living with someone too soon. Let's just say I experienced being a straight A student, maid, cook, best friend, career planning counselor, lover and something more and didn't get much in return. All that from a man whom I didn't even marry, but trusted deeply. It put things into perspective for me, you know.
EnigmaXOXO Posted April 21, 2004 Posted April 21, 2004 from giving up to quickly. Divorce papers, expensive lawyers and court usually make you want to try harder on your marriage. LOL...than that only means "entrapment"! For me, I'd much rather a relationship stand the test of time because of 'love' rather than a sense of duty or obligation...or because my partner feels "stuck." Just read all the threads on the infidelity forum! If given the choice, I'd rather exit a bad relationship with my heart broken, but my financial assets still intact! It's so much easier to recover from heartache if you can still afford to do it from a beach somewhere in the Bahamas. But in all seriousness, Curly, I'm with most of the others on this one. Marriage will do little to cement your relationship if its just founded on commitment rather than love and a mutual desire to stay together. I have been living with my partner for four years, and although we are not married, these years have been the happiest in our entire lives (and I was married for fifteen). We are even MORE committed to each other than most of our married friends (who are miserable and screwing around), and there’s an inexplicable sense of security and reassurance in knowing that we are together because we WANT to be and not because legal and financial entanglements have shackled us at the wrists. I own his heart. . .not his ring finger, half his bank accounts, or his soul. And if given the choice, I’ll take ‘love’. . . given freely without obligation or sacrifice, because only then do I know for certain that it is real and genuine. (scratching head). . .Of course, the more I read these forums, the more I'm beginning to realize I'm not exactly like the majority of my fellow marriage-happy females. Perhaps I'm the one who needs some serious couch time!
Author CurlyIam Posted April 21, 2004 Author Posted April 21, 2004 Now that you've mentioned it, it it the only forum I did not read almost at all. I wonder why I agree you should get couseling, I've heard of so little happy in their relationship people (for instance I can only quote Faux, wideawake and capitald but he's changing his mind ) that maybe you are ubnormal...
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