Mnesic Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I dumped my exgirlfriend about 10 days ago because I thought she was getting too friendly with a guy friend of hers. She denies and denies it saying ,"He's not my type , I'm unattracted to him, his type doesn't appeal to me. But still I went with my gut feeling. I DUMPED HER. The next day they start dating immediately, I find out by looking at her Facebook page and I call her and ask I broke out in tears and I couldn't contain myself. She then says ,"He's the first guy to actually care about me". I WAS WITH HER FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS!! WTF?? And then she continues and says to me , He tells me things like ,"Oh I'm not going to promise to never hurt you because I will always make you mad somehow in the future just know that It will never be intentional." Because I had promised that I wont hurt ( BIGGEST MISTAKE ), and she tells me he says " I LIKE YOU" instead of saying , "I LOVE YOU" so quickly. I never told her I liked her I don't know why It just didn't come across my mind. I told her I loved her one day but I never said I liked her. Idk why thats such a big deal? Well she goes on to tell me that this guy is going to "PROVE" to her that he is genuine and isn't going to rush into a relationship that they are only dating. A few hours ago I snooped on her facebook and I see messages like " I LOVE YOU" how FAST WAS THAT? UNDER 10 DAYS. I look at her most recent wall post and it was 30 mins ago posted, It says " Ironically we are wearing the same sweatshirt and Shorts I'm laying in his bed. 2 AM! So she snuck over to his house to lay in his bed and probably have sex. WOW Telling me that this guy is going to prove his loyalty to you before rushing into a relationship and your already exchanging " I love yous" and having sex?? WTF I HAVE NO FAITH IN GIRLS MY AGE ALL BIG LIARS. IVE BEEN NC since I found out they are dating which WAS 4 days AGO! 4 DAYS!! How did " I LIKE YOU" and "taking it slow" into I LOVE YOU AND SEX IN HIS BED in 4 DAYS? WTF? COMPLETE UTTER BULL****. I'm glad I broke my NC to look at her FACEBOOK, I KNOW NOW THAT SHE ISNT WORTH WAITING FOR. SHE MAKES ME WANT TO PUKE. If she comes back into my life she must get tattoo of my name near her vagina. After she gets the tattoo ILL DUMP HER ASS. /endrant
Mack05 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Now that's a vent! Come one dude, you can't judge all girls because of one girls behaviour..If it's any consolation I laughed my ass off at your post..
nana841121 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 you are hurt, you are venting,which is ok. Don't turn into a sour and cynical person. Your age is not appropriate for that kind of personality.
marqueemoon4 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Yea nice rant.. sorry man, but I'm learning that a large percentage of women will play you out to get what they want from you, then throw you under the bus if they think they can get a "better" deal and will lie at the drop of a hat to protect their interests/well being. Sucks, but just the way alot of women are.
Movingthrough Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 (edited) Well, i dont agree with everything you wrote but i know how you feel. While the stereotype of guys is that they are pigs and only want sex, a lot of the stereotype for girls is they say they arent interested in someone when it usually means the opposite, then they jump right to them. We all have our issues and realistically each sex does it. All i can say for you is its good to vent but dont let your ex win by being so "mad" about it. The hardest part of a breakup is when someone moves on super quick. Most of the time females are not trying to "screw you over" but they like to avoid confrontation, so they will usually say what they have to say to make it easier on the other person, which in someways i respect. My female Psych. actually told me that word for word. But you broke it off with her so keep your dignity and dont give her any attention. Like i always say, it will get better... Edited June 30, 2011 by Movingthrough
GivenUp0083 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Honestly, I'd have reacted the exact same way. That sucks, but hey, think of it this way: your intuition was spot on. She was friendly with that other dude, you called it, and you kept your dignity and walked away. She's a lying whore and you knew it and you did the right thing. Don't worry about the dude she's with now, he's a flavor of the week. He'll be gone in 2 months, easily. She just didn't know how to cope with you calling her BS and walking away so she latched on to the nearest tool. Good riddance, if she really cared about you she would've fought to get you back and done everything she could to prove herself as trustworthy. Instead, she did the opposite. There are loyal women out there, especially as you get older. As a man you have to remember that time is on our side, it is NOT on the side of women.
wilsonx Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 i agree with the above person, you hit the nail on the head now move forward. I learned that I missed the same nail only to get hurt with it. Im coming to the point where, Im not angry at her, I am angry at myself for not doing what you did and breaking up with her. Hindsight is 20/20 but you are ahead of the game so move forward with your life and find someone better for you then her. Not all women/girls are like that. Just release your anger, and move forward
Chi townD Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 This guy says to her that he can't promise that he won't hurt her in the future, but rest assured it won't be intentional?? Translation!" You're okay for now until I find someone better, but I did warn you!" This guy is a complete douche rocket and she's stupid for buying into it. I will say that she will try to contact in the future when she starts to see his true colors. Ignore any texts, e-mails or phone calls. She'll figure out that what she did was wrong and will probably try to reach out to you. DO NOT RESPOND! Sorry, this happened to you, but you're gonna get through this.
Rinas Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Your gut was right. I'm sorry that you had to find out in that way. It's time to pick up the pieces and move on. If anything, this girl wasn't right for you, but it doesn't mean that all others will be the same. Stick to NC, you can make it.
Author Mnesic Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 Thanks for your replies guys and girls, I do plan on moving on quickly I just wish I could have a little piece of revenge.. Mornings are the toughest like always, I still dream about her at night.. Never again will I be O.k with ,"He is just a guy friend." Unless he is gay hes gotta go, or I'm gone.
geegirl Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 "Oh I'm not going to promise to never hurt you because I will always make you mad somehow in the future just know that It will never be intentional." She bought that!!! I'm speechless. You dodged a bullet. Bigger, better and definitely smarter is what you deserve. I'm sorry but if she'd rather a douche like that, you're too good for this woman. Don't worry about revenge. From the stuff that this guy is putting out, she'll get hers from this one. Trust me.
Ajax Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Thanks for your replies guys and girls, I do plan on moving on quickly I just wish I could have a little piece of revenge.. Mornings are the toughest like always, I still dream about her at night.. Never again will I be O.k with ,"He is just a guy friend." Unless he is gay hes gotta go, or I'm gone. That might be a little extreme. I have several close friends who are women. And while they're quite attractive, I have no interest in sleeping with them. If I started dating a girl with the same policy you now have, that they gotta go or she's gone, I'd gladly send her packing. So should a girl I'm dating have guy friends, I plan to respect that. I do understand the potential for there to be deception though. I've had it happen to me. I know the "gut feeling" when you start thinking there's more to this relationship than them just being friends. So I think it's wise if you suspect something going on that you listen to your gut... I think what I'm getting at is that you can't have absolutes. You can't control the friends that your significant other chooses to have, but you also need to be able to trust that nothing inappropriate is going on too.
Author Mnesic Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 "Oh I'm not going to promise to never hurt you because I will always make you mad somehow in the future just know that It will never be intentional." She bought that!!! I'm speechless. You dodged a bullet. Bigger, better and definitely smarter is what you deserve. I'm sorry but if she'd rather a douche like that, you're too good for this woman. Don't worry about revenge. From the stuff that this guy is putting out, she'll get hers from this one. Trust me. Thanks geegirl , What do you think are his intentions and why is it so bad she fell for that thing he said? What does it really mean when he says it I really want to know. I have a theory that their relationship will go over 1 Year just like mine did.. because the way their relationship started out was a huge rebound and I feel like I was used as a rebound also for a past relationship of her's , now that I look back at how she pursued me , taking the initiative in everything when we first met..
Author Mnesic Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 That might be a little extreme. I have several close friends who are women. And while they're quite attractive, I have no interest in sleeping with them. If I started dating a girl with the same policy you now have, that they gotta go or she's gone, I'd gladly send her packing. So should a girl I'm dating have guy friends, I plan to respect that. I do understand the potential for there to be deception though. I've had it happen to me. I know the "gut feeling" when you start thinking there's more to this relationship than them just being friends. So I think it's wise if you suspect something going on that you listen to your gut... I think what I'm getting at is that you can't have absolutes. You can't control the friends that your significant other chooses to have, but you also need to be able to trust that nothing inappropriate is going on too. Thanks for your post Ajax, I got screwed over like 5 times in this relationship. Each time I predicted that she would be with a guy it comes true, after we get in an argument and break up she goes to him. Her excuse is ,"You broke up with me, I wasn't cheating on you." and she also says, "I don't get along with girls, guys are easier to read and they don't back stab you." One time I introduced her to my friend, and almost instantly she starts to text him regularly and constantly.. a week goes by and I get really really annoyed because shes always on her phone. When I would check her text messages or call logs it always seems to be deleted or she would blow up when I look "without permission". We get into an argument because when I'm at her house shes texting him so I broke up with her.. and she was OK with it too she didn't try to fix it or anything she just continue to curse at me and I did the same to her. I told her you and him could be together I don't want to ruin what you two have ( I did approach my friend about it but he said nothing is going on , he's just there to listen to what she says and she uses him to vent, Also he has a girlfriend that is my ex's friend.) And then the coming week I find out they are spending a lot of time together and hes coming over to her house regularly and going out. So then my friend's girlfriend find out and gets extremely pissed off and makes him cut all contact with my ex. She comes back crying to me I take her back THE END.. I found out they both had feelings for each other ( I had a chat logger on her computer and read everything they shared after they stopped talking ) but he didn't want to hurt his girlfriend ( what a nice friend right? ) and there are 2-3 other times that I could vent about but that would take too long.. I've learned now that I shouldn't be a doormat to any girl and have a little self respect. So I'm still sticking to NO GUY FRIENDS take it or leave it.
2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Had the same from my ex, "oh we have been friends for years" then tells me nothing is going on, "why would I do that if I was going out with you", then find out they are together on New Year's Eve, mate - your intution was spot on, you did the RIGHT THING, your intution and "gut" feeling are trying to look after you so listen to it- she obviously isn't. It won't be easy on you but it'll make you stronger and you busted her little game and she will be annoyed at that, that you never hung about like a lost dog, that is the card you played and it was a smart one, don't be angry with yourself. 2011
Mr. Savage Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Great rant man! This girl sounds like a real floozy! Good riddance to her. Stay focused on other stuff for now and in no time you will just laugh when you think about how dumb she is and that you are so much better off without her!
geegirl Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Thanks geegirl , What do you think are his intentions and why is it so bad she fell for that thing he said? What does it really mean when he says it I really want to know. I have a theory that their relationship will go over 1 Year just like mine did.. because the way their relationship started out was a huge rebound and I feel like I was used as a rebound also for a past relationship of her's , now that I look back at how she pursued me , taking the initiative in everything when we first met.. He's warning her about the potential of him behaving badly in the future. So now if anything happens, he will say, but I told you so it's your problem to deal with. By accepting that, she's just given him the green light to do whatever he wants without him having any type of accountablity, consideration or conscience towards her. Let's just say he already knows what he is capable and is most likely going to subject her to. She's skewed in more ways than one.
Author Mnesic Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 He's warning her about the potential of him behaving badly in the future. So now if anything happens, he will say, but I told you so it's your problem to deal with. By accepting that, she's just given him the green light to do whatever he wants without him having any type of accountablity, consideration or conscience towards her. Let's just say he already knows what he is capable and is most likely going to subject her to. She's skewed in more ways than one. I see.. the way I think is that If you truly care about a girl your speechless and you make stupid promises and for people who you don't care about you would tell them things you want them to hear.
geegirl Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I see.. the way I think is that If you truly care about a girl your speechless and you make stupid promises and for people who you don't care about you would tell them things you want them to hear. That wasn't a stupid promise. That was a full on "this is who I am warning." And be assured that along with that line, he IS telling her things she wants to hear.
Author Mnesic Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 That wasn't a stupid promise. That was a full on "this is who I am warning." And be assured that along with that line, he IS telling her things she wants to hear. I mean that you have all the right things to say when you don't care about someone but when you do care, you're at a loss for words and make promises you can't really keep. Like I made that promise to Never hurt her , It was my first relationship I didn't know what to say to a girl if it was good or bad but it came from my heart. And when you don't care and you just want to get laid you tell a vulnerable girl what she wants to hear like this new guy. Does anyone else relate to that? or am I going with nothing here.. Anyways FK MY EX! /endrant
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