PrissyCilla Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 My friend told me this. Do you agree? I mean i was just so astonished. My fiance is black and we were talking about him wanting me to stay in shape. She claimed that any black woman who marries a white woman (i'm not even white i am persian) is simply marrying her to be a trophy wife. Not because he truly loves her. I didn't know what to say. I think its a load of BS. I mean he has dated woman of all races. But that is one of my best friends so why would she just say that?
TigerCub Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Your friend is an idiot! I don't understand how people make such sweeping generalizations and how some people actually believe them. If you're happy with your man, just be happy, don't let your idiot friend put doubts in your head.
Cracker Jack Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Your friend is an idiot! I don't understand how people make such sweeping generalizations and how some people actually believe them. If you're happy with your man, just be happy, don't let your idiot friend put doubts in your head. All that needs to be said, really.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 My friend told me this. Do you agree? I mean i was just so astonished. My fiance is black and we were talking about him wanting me to stay in shape. She claimed that any black woman who marries a white woman (i'm not even white i am persian) is simply marrying her to be a trophy wife. Not because he truly loves her. I didn't know what to say. I think its a load of BS. I mean he has dated woman of all races. But that is one of my best friends so why would she just say that? I doubt your friend actually believes that to be true. I would actually be more inclined to believe the opposite. I think she was trying to say something different and you missed it. Go back and ask her if she sees something wrong with your relationship.
Mutant Debutante Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Your friend is either a racist or a bitch who wants you to feel insecure. Maybe a little of both.
StoneCold Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 unhappy women say this to make themselves feel better about the fact that they are miserable
LexiB Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Your friend is an idiot! I don't understand how people make such sweeping generalizations and how some people actually believe them. If you're happy with your man, just be happy, don't let your idiot friend put doubts in your head. All that needs to be said, really. I'll third TC's post. Pretty much word-for-word what I was thinking (especially the bolded).
NeoGen85 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 My friend told me this. Do you agree? I mean i was just so astonished. My fiance is black and we were talking about him wanting me to stay in shape. She claimed that any black woman who marries a white woman (i'm not even white i am persian) is simply marrying her to be a trophy wife. Not because he truly loves her. I didn't know what to say. I think its a load of BS. I mean he has dated woman of all races. But that is one of my best friends so why would she just say that? I find it great that you can have friends that can tell you anything that's on their mind. But sometimes people need to be put in check. I guess your fiance is physically fit and wants his woman to stay like that as well. That's a personal preference but looks do age over time. I'd not only ask her what she "really" thinks about your fiance, but of black men(or black people in general). Then you can really determine if she's a idiot or not. It's true that there are some men and women who will look at a person of another race and see them as a object. But interracial love does exist. Your friend still probably looks at interracial dating especially between black men and white women a taboo. I call BS.
grkBoy Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 My friend told me this. Do you agree? I mean i was just so astonished. My fiance is black and we were talking about him wanting me to stay in shape. She claimed that any black woman who marries a white woman (i'm not even white i am persian) is simply marrying her to be a trophy wife. Not because he truly loves her. I didn't know what to say. I think its a load of BS. I mean he has dated woman of all races. But that is one of my best friends so why would she just say that? One of my coworkers whom I respect very much is black...and he's dating a white woman. He also plays rock music in a band. So he's nothing "stereotypical" of what the media paints black men as. People can love anyone...even a white guy like me has found some black women attractive and even exotic. The only time race becomes an issue is when one lets it. Some simply don't find attraction in certain races...that's fine. Others stay away from other races due to peer pressure from friends or family...not good.
SnowandStars Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 My friend told me this. Do you agree? I mean i was just so astonished. My fiance is black and we were talking about him wanting me to stay in shape. She claimed that any black woman who marries a white woman (i'm not even white i am persian) is simply marrying her to be a trophy wife. Not because he truly loves her. I didn't know what to say. I think its a load of BS. I mean he has dated woman of all races. But that is one of my best friends so why would she just say that? A black woman who marries a white woman is a lesbian:p. Ignore her. She should be supportive instead of trying to find fault in your relationship.
mo mo Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 It's 2011. Why are we still having these discussions? They just legalized gay marriage in my state. The world keeps moving people..
Mrlonelyone Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 Your friend is full of ____. Any man who loves women can love women of any race.
numerical25 Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) The human race is a very complicated matter. No one being is the same. And for your friend to simplfy the human race shows alot of ignorance. Just think about the word "Narrow Minded" and how it got its meaning. To be narrow minded is to see one direction and not consider other directions. Your friend is very narrow minded Men in general want their women to be beautiful. They want the same sex appeal that made them come to you in the first place. just because you marry him doesn't give you the right to let yourself go. You got to think about all the reasons he fell for you in the first place. I don't care what anyone thinks. Attraction is first, personality is second. As you get older, then yes, your bodies will change, but us men are very aware of that and accepted of that. but if you still in your 20's and 30's then I can see why he would want you stay fit. He is very attracted to you and you are probably the only thing that runs in his mind. if you give yourself away then other women can easily become a distraction. we are men. Edited July 1, 2011 by numerical25
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