lilmunsta Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I met a guy at a club really nice, spent the whole night dancing with him got his number and whatnot. He said he was really interested and wanted to get to know me better, so weve been talking since march but its so hard to keep a convo with him and ive only seen him once more after the time we met which sucks and I told him I liked him and he felt the same but idk what i should do to keep him interested and to make him want to give more of an effort to see me he lives about an hour away driving wise so i understand why he doesnt come. help thooooooo !!!!!!! idk why but I really like him and I'd really like to see what comes out of this.
cerridwen Posted July 1, 2011 Posted July 1, 2011 (edited) You're cute, lilmunsta. You took one breath in the beginning, then the rest was one long, breathless sentence! A few things. You can't "make" him more interested in seeing you. He only lives one hour away. Yet, you've seen each other once besides the time at the club. That doesn't sound like he's willing to put in much effort. Guys are either into you, or not. There's no "making" them do anything, unless you want to resort to manipulation and that's just eww. You also mentioned conversation is tough. That you can't sustain it easily. What makes you want to continue this if things are so awkward. That can't be fun, is it? Trying to find things to talk about? Lastly, I'd spend some time thinking about why you like him. In your post, you said "idk." If you can't cite why you like him, if you don't see him clearly, this may not be worth all this heartache and stress you're putting yourself through. To me, not knowing what attracts you indicates it's not really about this guy at all. But that maybe you're lonely? Want ANY boyfriend? Your motivation for continuing this is worth examining. Edited July 1, 2011 by cerridwen
creighton0123 Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Move on. If he doesn't want to make it work with only one hour distance between you, he most likely doesn't want to make it work even if you lived up the street from him. Find someone new who will give you the time and attention you both want and deserve.
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