MandyC18 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Looks like I'm back again but...what is going on, seriously. Im at the point where i don't know what signals im getting if any at all. My ex he, tells me he misses me. He will text me at 2 at night or 10 in the morning saying "i miss u". He will talk to me like he really wants to have a conversation with me and sometimes mention little things about our past. When he see's me during our "late nights" he will hug me as if he will never see me again, all the gifts ive gotten or made him are still displayed in his room (been broken up for a month and few days). He sighs when he hugs me, more like im relived to see you. This past late night we had we did things we used to as a couple, the little funny things. When i left he told me "you know i miss you right" never has he expressed any sort of feelings to me in person since the break up. But then there are the days like now where he doesnt contact me. This is day 2 of no contact at all since monday. He has his protective moments, where he see's a facebook status of mine and gets all defensive thinking its about some other guy? He asks who has texted me to hangout or texting me in general (guy wise) What is going on, does he want me? does he not? Its as if he's still my boyfriend but not at all....
wilsonx Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 go no contact then hes just stringing you along and playing games
Author MandyC18 Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 why is he though, he is confused. i KNOW he is, god i hate this
2themoon&back Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 why is he though, he is confused. i KNOW he is, god i hate this No you are... and that is just the way he wants it.... His mind nor his heart are talking ... he is talking out of his a$$, to keep you where he needs you day to day until he is able to move on. Take care of yourself and don't worry about what he needs, he broke up with you, now make him live with it.
69ways Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Go NC, I did not when I should and lost her completely. She even said if you did not chase me I might have returned. Make this person panic by healing yourself with NC and if he really misses you he will come for you.....
california15 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Unless he clearly states 'I WANT TO BE WITH YOU' then anything else is breadcrumbs to keep you around. He can't decide he doesn't want a relationship but he gets to see you and hug you and stuff, unless you let him string you along like that (which, you are by the sound of your post) No. That priviledge was revoked when the relationship ended. If you let him get to do that stuff without the responsibility of a relationship, who knows how long this could go on for? He gets a pretty sweet deal and you're clinging on to his "i miss you"s and hoping for more. If he missed you as bad as he said he does, he'd be with you so he didn't have to miss you anymore.
geegirl Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 Looks like I'm back again but...what is going on, seriously. Im at the point where i don't know what signals im getting if any at all. My ex he, tells me he misses me. He will text me at 2 at night or 10 in the morning saying "i miss u". He will talk to me like he really wants to have a conversation with me and sometimes mention little things about our past. When he see's me during our "late nights" he will hug me as if he will never see me again, all the gifts ive gotten or made him are still displayed in his room (been broken up for a month and few days). He sighs when he hugs me, more like im relived to see you. This past late night we had we did things we used to as a couple, the little funny things. When i left he told me "you know i miss you right" never has he expressed any sort of feelings to me in person since the break up. But then there are the days like now where he doesnt contact me. This is day 2 of no contact at all since monday. He has his protective moments, where he see's a facebook status of mine and gets all defensive thinking its about some other guy? He asks who has texted me to hangout or texting me in general (guy wise) What is going on, does he want me? does he not? Its as if he's still my boyfriend but not at all.... If someone wants you, they will express the words and show you with action. He feeds you just enough to keep you hanging on. He feeds you just enough to keep you engaged. This man does not want an R with you. He wants all the benefits of an R but not the commitment. Honestly Mandy, you know this. You're in denial. Are these really the signs of someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with you? No. You're just holding on to this and trying to talk yourself into believing that mixed signals could possibly mean something good. No, something good would be a man being emotionally, mentally and physically available with and to you 100%.
Author MandyC18 Posted June 30, 2011 Author Posted June 30, 2011 thank you guys, my heart is saying to hangout and not give up...but that doesnt mean im giving up forever it just means im just putting it on pause right now. i know we are supposed to be together...maybe not RIGHT NOW but we will...thank you guys<3
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