strength-abounds Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I met a classmate of my sister in law one night while being the DD for her class. She is smart, funny and incredibly sexy. We have hung out a couple of times since meeting her but the problem is she has a boyfriend. Damn it. I won't be "that guy" and try to sabotage her relationship. This sucks. Thanks for listening, LS.
ScreamingTrees Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 It's not a problem - it's only HER problem if the dude's a neglectful, inconsiderate, cheating jerk. You should be happy for her if she's found someone whom she really meshes with.. I mean.. if you really think she's a great person, regardless. Your time will come eventually, young grasshoppa.. Just bask in the now, and feel good knowing that everything falls into place in the end.
PDPullmn612 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I feel you, man. I'm going through the exact same thing. I met a girl a few weeks ago and she's great. Smart, funny, sexy...but she has a boyfriend. In my particular situation, I decided not to burn any bridges. I don't have strong feelings for her so being friendly isn't difficult. Although, she has acted in ways that makes me feel like she's interested in me. But I don't want to be that guy to get in the middle of her relationship. If your feelings can let it happen, just stay friendly with her. You never know what can happen. She could break up with her boyfriend, he could break up with her, etc.
grkBoy Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I met a classmate of my sister in law one night while being the DD for her class. She is smart, funny and incredibly sexy. We have hung out a couple of times since meeting her but the problem is she has a boyfriend. Damn it. I won't be "that guy" and try to sabotage her relationship. This sucks. Thanks for listening, LS. Such is life. Sorry dude. Move on.
GivenUp0083 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 You can still flirt with her and get on her radar without breaking up the relationship. Why don't you just keep hanging out with her, be patient, see other girls if you have the opportunity, but keep that "spark" or "connection" you have with her. Then, when her current BF acts like a douche, she knows she probably has a chance with you and might give you a shot. Unfortunately, timing can get in the way of finding someone perfect for you, so just keep the door open, and if she's ever single again, you could be next in line and the one that makes her the happiest.
ScreamingTrees Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I think it'd be a douchey thing for someone outside of a healthy relationship to circle their "prey" like a hawk. Seriously, there are MILLIONS of women out there, stop obsessing over one perfectly good girl out of hundreds of thousands.. she's taken, and even if she's unhappy in the R, you probably wouldn't be well received unless she's a cheating skank anyway. Move on, move on.
PDPullmn612 Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 You can still flirt with her and get on her radar without breaking up the relationship. Why don't you just keep hanging out with her, be patient, see other girls if you have the opportunity, but keep that "spark" or "connection" you have with her. Then, when her current BF acts like a douche, she knows she probably has a chance with you and might give you a shot. Unfortunately, timing can get in the way of finding someone perfect for you, so just keep the door open, and if she's ever single again, you could be next in line and the one that makes her the happiest. Exactly what he said. You never know. Don't exclusively wait around for girls though. There are plenty of other good women out there. Like I said above, I'm in a similar situation, but I'm sure as hell not going to pass up other opportunities with other women just for this one girl who may never be available to me in that way. I'd say just stay friendly with her. If she's that great, she can be a great friend as well.
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