lonley73 Posted June 29, 2011 Posted June 29, 2011 I’m not sure that this is the right forum for this, but I need to vent. My husband and I are on the brink of separation (see my earlier post for all the details – I don’t know how to link it to this post). A little back story - due to financial irresponsibility and me always trying to bail H out, we lost our home and had to file bankruptcy last year. He has always been a big spender, so we agreed that we would each get one credit card to work on rebuilding our credit. About 3 months ago I came home and caught him opening an envelope with a credit card and ask him what it was. He proceeded to try to “sell” me on why it was a good idea for him to have a second card with a higher limit. I was not sold, but I let it go after he promised he would get no more cards. Yesterday I was on our Amazon account trying to set up online movie rentals and discovered he has a third credit card listed in Amazon. He is out of the country so I cannot confirm this with him until his return, but the expiration dates are all new and I don’t recognize the numbers as any of his past cards (all of our old cards were cancelled in 2008). Based on history, I feel pretty certain that this is a new card that he has not told me about. I must admit that I would normally be very angry, but now I just feel deflated. I’m so tired of trying to fix everything going wrong in our lives – finances being a huge one – only to be undermined ever step of the way. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post. I just needed “someone” to vent to.
The Great Gazoo Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 I’m not sure that this is the right forum for this, but I need to vent. My husband and I are on the brink of separation (see my earlier post for all the details – I don’t know how to link it to this post). A little back story - due to financial irresponsibility and me always trying to bail H out, we lost our home and had to file bankruptcy last year. He has always been a big spender, so we agreed that we would each get one credit card to work on rebuilding our credit. About 3 months ago I came home and caught him opening an envelope with a credit card and ask him what it was. He proceeded to try to “sell” me on why it was a good idea for him to have a second card with a higher limit. I was not sold, but I let it go after he promised he would get no more cards. Yesterday I was on our Amazon account trying to set up online movie rentals and discovered he has a third credit card listed in Amazon. He is out of the country so I cannot confirm this with him until his return, but the expiration dates are all new and I don’t recognize the numbers as any of his past cards (all of our old cards were cancelled in 2008). Based on history, I feel pretty certain that this is a new card that he has not told me about. I must admit that I would normally be very angry, but now I just feel deflated. I’m so tired of trying to fix everything going wrong in our lives – finances being a huge one – only to be undermined ever step of the way. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post. I just needed “someone” to vent to. Financial infidelity kills as many relationships as the sexual variety. Deceit is deceit. Don't put up with it.
2.50 a gallon Posted June 30, 2011 Posted June 30, 2011 He's out of the country. Now would be a good time to see a lawyer, move and never look back He is never going to change and until you see the light and get out her will continure to drag you down with him.
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